Futhi nangu usuku nosuku sihlezi ezingxoxweni nasekuxhumaneni nomphakathi enethemba lokuhlangana nalowo ongabelana naye ngemizwa yakho. Futhi manje, kubonakala sengathi uyitholile (okungenani, ucabanga kanjalo ngalesi sigaba), usuku nosuku, ubukele lapho evela kuyi-intanethi bese ulinda, futhi ngokuzumayo isimangaliso sizokwenzeka futhi uzokubhalela yena ngokwakhe. Kodwa kholwa kimi, izimangaliso zivame kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ungalindeli "ulwandle lwesimo sezulu" bese uqala ukwenza ngokwakho. Vele ubhalele kuqala. Ake sicabange ndawonye ukuthi ungaqala kanjani ingxoxo nomfana onthanethi?
Okokuqala, kufanele ubeke ngokucacile phambi kwakho ukuthi ufuna kusuka entweni oyikhethile. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, awukwazi ukwenza ngokucacile, uqondiswa kuphela ukuthi uyayithanda. Uzwela luhlukile. Isibonelo, angase akuthande nje njengomngani, kulokhu, amaqhinga okulwa ahluke ngokuphelele. Into esemqoka akuyona ukudidanisa umuzwa wokuzwelana komngane ngomqondo wokukhanga kumfana, ngaphandle kwalokho kungase kube khona ukungaqondani phakathi kwakho okungeke kube nomthelela omuhle ekukhulumisaneni kwakho okwengeziwe. Ngakho-ke, ungaqala kanjani ingxoxo nomfana onthanethi? Khumbula singalokothi sithintane kuqala, kungakhathaliseki virtual noma zangempela, kumelwe kusekelwe uhlelo eyakhiwe kahle: ngixhumane, indaba ngawe, ngamanye amagama "self-isethulo", futhi, ngqo, kakhulu ubudlelwane ngesimo inkhulumomphendvulwano iziphetho ngekusasa ubuhlobo bakho (isibonelo, ukuhlangana empilweni yangempela).
Isinyathelo sesibili odinga ukusungula uxhumano ukuqoqa ulwazi ngalolu doda. Proshtudiruyte kusukela "A to Z" amaphrofayli walo futhi ama-albhamu wesithombe ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi (vkontakte, Odnoklassniki, Facebook, izingosi zengevu ezihlukahlukene, lapho uhlezi), ukubona uma unanoma iluphi uhlobo abangane abafana ngazo, ukuthi kuyokusiza ukumazi ngangokunokwenzeka. On izithombe, qaphela indlela achitha isikhathi sakhe samahhala, yiziphi izikhungo ahambela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usebenza ngokwakhe. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuba ufunde kabanzi mayelana izithakazelo zabo, ukuzilibazisa, umculo oyintandokazi, amabhayisikobho nokunye. D. By endleleni, kungase kwenzeke ukuthi unokuthile bukhomba akuthandayo, futhi lena plus, nokwazi ngangokunokwenzeka mayelana kuyoba lula kakhulu kuwe ukuqala ukuxhumana naye. Futhi endleleni, ugcwalise imibuzo yakho ngokucophelela, lokho kungaba umfana futhi wayenombono mayelana nokuthi ubani okhuluma naye. Hamba ama-albhamu wakho wezithombe ze-elekthronikhi, ubeke izithombe zakho ezinhle kakhulu, mhlawumbe ema-angles ahlukahlukene nasezindaweni ezihlukene lapho uke waba khona, ukuthi uzobona ukuthi ungumuntu osebenzayo gay. Izithombe zomuntu siqu kufanele zicaciswe, lapho ubuso bakho bubonakala ngokucacile futhi bubonakala ngokucacile. Uma unamehlo amahle, izinwele, izipanji, gcizelela lokhu ezithombeni zakho.
Ekuqaleni kokukhulumisana nomgomo: "Sawubona! Uyini? ". Ngandlela-thile, enye futhi "plus" yiqiniso lokuthi abantu, njengombuso, banamathuba amaningi okukhuluma namantombazane, ngakho-ke qalisa ingxoxo yakho ngezwi elingavumelani nalo, ngokuphelele, akufanele. Yebo, uma uthanda konke ngesikhathi esisodwa, ubhalele kuye into ethi "Sawubona! ubheka kanjani lokho ukuze ujwayele intombazane enhle kodwa enesizungu! "Noma, isibonelo," thola, futhi awukwazanga ukutshela ... ", bese uyifisa. Impendulo yakhe izokutshela indlela yokuziphatha naye ngokuqhubekayo.
Futhi nangu oxhumana nabo bokuqala owenziwe. Ungaphuthelwa iqiniso lokuthi uma uqale ukuxhumana nalo muntu, mhlawumbe, wena ngokwakho endaweni ethile ekujuleni komphefumulo uzodumazeka, ulindele ukuthi into ehluke ngokuphelele. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi abantu abalungile abakho, ngakho ungayeki ngokushesha. Mhlawumbe empilweni yangempela akakho konke lokho. Kodwa uma kungenjalo, kunoma isiphi isimo, ukuxhumana, hhayi umkhawulo, ngaphandle Amacebo, kube ngokwakho noma kunjalo lizikhohlisa + okuthile, yonke imibuzo iphendulwa njengoba (ungaqali ukuxhumana ngokukhohlisa, ngoba ngesinye isikhathi, kuyoba ngokoqobo). Mbonise intshisekelo yakho, ukuthi uthanda ukuxhumana naye, ukuthi kuyithakazelisa kanjani. Tshela okuthile okuthakazelisayo ngawe, ezokuzilibazisa zakho, abangane (indaba evela kubo noma impilo yakho), yakha isithombe sakho ekhanda lakhe. Yiqiniso, akufanelekile ukukhuluma ngawe, lokho okudingeka azi, uzozibuza. Zama ukuphendula yonke imibuzo yakhe ngaphandle kokushiya impendulo, futhi ungangabazi ukubuza ukuthi yini okukuthandayo. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukushiya okungenani ulwazi oluthe xaxa lomhlangano empilweni yangempela. Zama ukuhleka usulu, isibonelo, ukulahla ama-anecdotes ambalwa noma ama-funny links. Ngicabanga ngalesi sigaba uzobe usuvele unokubona okuningiliziwe komunye nomunye. Futhi uzoqonda ukuthi ungumuntu onjani ohlezi ngakolunye uhlangothi lomqapha. Khona-ke ulwazi lwakho ngaye luzosiza, owalususa emibhalweni yakhe yombuzo. Ukuze sisekele ingxoxo, siphakamise ukuxoxa ngefilimu, incwadi (konke ngaphakathi kohlaka lwezinto ezithandayo), uma unesihawu esivamile, ngeke kube yinto engafanelekile ukuba akusize ngalokhu. Zama ukubuza umbono wakhe ngaphezulu, ungaphikisana nento ethile ekuhlekeleni. Ukufakwa koxhumana naye kanye nokubuka kokuqala kuleli sigaba sekuphelile. Ungaphenduli induku ekukhulumisaneni, ngelinye ilanga ulwazi oluningi, lukhulu kakhulu. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi noma yikuphi ukuxhumana kufanele kuqedwe (ngomqondo omuhle wezwi), ngiyabonga, ngokuxhumana nokusikisela, njengoba kungaba kuhle ukuqhubeka lokhu esikhathini esizayo.
Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, njengoba uthuthuka ingxoxo yakho, ungakwazi ukushintshanisa izinombolo zocingo. Futhi ekugcineni, uma engakaze akwenze kanjalo, wammema ngomusa ukuba ahlangane empilweni yangempela. Ngicabanga ngaleso sikhathi uzobe usuqonda ukuthi uhlangana kanjani kahle. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukubukeka kuyinto ekhohlisayo, ngakho ungaholeli futhi esithombeni esihle.