Yini engingayisho lapha engenza impilo kanye nobuhlobo nomuntu isitsha sakhe, ngaleyo ndlela, emnciphisa igrey and monotony, intombazane kuphela. Ngaphandle kwazo zonke izinkomba namaqhinga abesifazane, thina (kanye namadoda) asikwazi ukukwenza. Indlela yokuziphathanisa nomfana: izinkomba zamakhosikazi nokuzikhethela kokukhohlisa, yinkinga ephuthumayo kakhulu kuwo wonke intombazane.
Isifiso sokudlala ngothando nokwakha amehlo egazini labesifazane bonke. Phela, akekho ofundisa intombazanyana, njengengane, ukuba ishintshe amehlo akhe emehlweni omuntu ongajwayelekile noma amahora ukubuyela phambi kwesibuko. Ngamunye wethu uthi ukuhlakanipha komkhohlisi wokudambisa. Ngakho-ke, ukuze ukwazi kahle ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani nomfana, okokuqala, qinisekisa ukuthi uma ungazizwa ubumnandi (okokuqala kuqala) futhi ungabonisi emhlabeni wonke, uzoyeka ukufunwa nokufunwa. Ukuzethemba kuyigama lakho lempondo ezindleleni zabesifazane. Ngeke ube nguye, njengoba kudingekile ukuba ngumnikazi, ngakho-ke akusizi ngalutho ukucabangela uhlobo oluthile lwe "frills wesifazane". Kulula, angakhathazeki, i-virtuosic, yilokho wonke umuntu ofuna ukukubona. Ngakho, kufanele uhlale ngaleyo ndlela, ngaphansi kwazo zonke izimo.
Futhi-ke, indlela yokuziphatha nomfana: amaqhinga omama azokutshela ukuthi ungubani nokuthi yini ongayisho, ukuthi wenzeni nokuthi ungenzani. Le nkulumo: "uhlangane nezingubo - uhambisane nengqondo", hhayi umbuzo kulo mbuzo. Khumbula, kumuntu konke kufanele kube kuhle. Ukubukeka kuyisembozo sezwe lakho langaphakathi lapho uveza khona ngaphakathi kwakho. Kumele ube nokungaqondakali nganoma isiphi isikhathi nanoma yisiphi isikhathi sosuku. Umfana kufanele abe nombono wokuqala ngalokho ongakwenza futhi ungazibuka. Futhi ukukhethwa kwakho kwe-makeup, izinwele zakho, umuthi womzimba kanye nezingubo, kuwumphumela wesikhathi esibuhlungu kakhulu nesamahora amaningi "okusebenza kuwe." Futhi okokuqala, kubalwa ukuthi ngabe ubuhle bakho obuhle buyini, ukuze ubheke othandekayo wakhe. Futhi lena enye plus - ukukhombisa lo mfana ukubaluleka kwayo. Futhi nokho ukwazi ukuhambisana nenambitheka kukho konke, okungukuthi, kwekhanda lakho, kufanele njalo lifanane nokuzenzela futhi ngaleyo ndlela izingubo ozikhethile okwamanje. Ngizobambelela kulokhu, uzohlale uphezulu, into eyinhloko ukukusiza ukuthi ubuke njalo, owesifazane kakhulu futhi othandana naye.
Izwe elingaphakathi yilokho afuna ukukubona ngaphansi kwezingubo zakho, ukuthi ungubani ngempela nokuthi yini ongayikuqeda noma ukushintsha ngosizo lwento. Ungowesifazane ohlala njalo efuna ihlombe lomuntu oqinile nokusekelwa njalo ngokomzwelo ovela eceleni kwakhe. Sebenzisa lokhu (Yebo, kungakapheli isizathu). Ungabi namahloni ukukhombisa ukuyeka kwakho. Lesi esinye seziketi ezisemqoka zokuxhumana nabesifazane ngobulili obuqinile. Amandla akho asebubuthakathaka bakho futhi kungenjalo. Kuphela ngale ndlela uzokwazi ukukhombisa umfana owudinga naye nokunakekela kwakhe njengengane encane (nakuba empeleni akunjalo). Indoda iyathandwa uma owesifazane ebuthakathaka futhi engenakuzivikela. Ngenxa yokuthi kunjalo, angabonisa amandla akhe nentando yakhe, akuvikele ezinkingeni zokuphila nezinkinga. Khumbula, intombazane ebuthakathaka, ihlale ikhona indoda enamandla. Futhi ngokubonga kuye, ngokusekelwa komuntu oqinile, bonisa imizwa yakho ngazo zonke izindlela, unganqikazi ukukhuluma ngabo. Ungasho ukuncoma. Ukuvuleka ebuhlotsheni, ngakwesokunene sakho, kufanele kuthathe enye yezindawo zokuqala, ngaleyo ndlela uyishukumise, futhi wenze ngokufanayo ngokuphathelene nawe. Ungalokothi wesabe ukulahlekelwa nguye. Uma kungenjalo, ukwesaba kwakho kuzokhula kube yi-paranoia eqinile, okuyinto, ngokushesha noma kamuva, ezoqala ukuchitha ubuhlobo bakho. Umfana nje uqala ukukuphatha ngokusaba kwakho.
Ukumomotheka kwakho, ukubukeka okubukeka ngothando - konke lokhu kuyizithelo zomvini wakho omisiwe. Yazi, intombazane ngayinye ukubona nokumomotheka kubheka ngokuhlukile. Dlala naye ngemidlalo yamazwi - iyohlala isinika ubuhlobo bakho ubuhle nokugcwele ngokomzwelo. Lezi ziqhinga zesifazane azibalulekile nje ngosuku lokuqala. Kufanele babe abangane abangunaphakade bobudlelwane bakho, ukuthatha isimo sokuhlala unomphela. Ngoba lokhu kungokwengqondo yethu, kunamandla ngisho nokuthanda ngalo, cishe nsuku zonke. Mkhumbuze ukuthi ungowakhe kuphela, bonke abantu basendlini yabo ejulile, ngakho-ke kungani ningamcabangi, nikhuthaza isithombe esiyingqayizivele.
Ukukhulumisana kwakho nomfana kufanele kuhambisane njalo nokuqonda. Ukwazi ukulalela, ukweluleka, ukunciphisa. Ngisho nezincane - kepha umfana uzokujabula kakhulu ukuthi uyamnika, embonweni wakhe wesilisa futhi ulalele iseluleko asinikeza sona. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uzoqonda ukuthi nawe angakwazi ukukhuluma nganoma yisiphi isihloko ngaphandle kwanoma yikuphi ukuvinjelwa kanye nezintambo. Lena yindlela yakho eyinhloko ekukhulumeni kwakho kokubili. Ukwazi ukulungisa isimo sakhe sengqondo futhi wenze kahle ngokwakho, uma ngabe lokho noma leso simo sidinga. Uma udinga ukucasuka noma ukuhleka, ukumomotheka noma ukukhala, sitshele ngenkinga noma uthule. Enye yezinyathelo zamantombazane: "Ungowesifazane - ke ungumdlali wezemidlalo, udlale ukudlala, uguqule imaski futhi wenze kanjalo ukuthi umuntu abe ngumbukeli wakho obonga njalo futhi unike izimbali nokuma okumelele kuwe kuphela."
Futhi ekugcineni, khumbula njalo ukuthi ungowesifazane, futhi bonke abesifazane banesidlo sabo. Abafana abathandi amantombazane abathanda incwadi evulekile. Ukwazi ukugcina iphazili yakho ekhethekile ngokujulile ezweni lakho elingaphakathi, ukuthi indoda kufanele ifakwe "yimfihlo" yakho ". Imfihlo yakho kuye inkinga eyinkimbinkimbi yezibalo, azokuzama ukuxazulula ngesithakazelo esiningi, ngaleyo ndlela ikulandele njengomntwana. Ingane enesithakazelo kukho konke okusha nokungaziwa. Yenza ukuthi afinyeleleke futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo engalawuleki (indoda yangempela kufanele inqobe owesifazane konke ukuphila kwayo, ngisho nokuba nohlangothi lwakhe) futhi njengoba ngishilo ekuqaleni kwalesi sihloko: zithande wena futhi uzokuthanda nawe.