Ubungane ngenxa yesihe.
Kuzwakala kungenangqondo, kodwa kwenzeka. Kuvele ukuthi emvelweni womyeni wakho ngokuzumayo wabonakala owesifazane ongumzekelo wesisulu esidala. Umyeni wakhe wamshiya, yena yedwa okhulisa ingane, noma ngisho nambili, akahambelani nobuhlobo bakhe nabalingani bakhe, ucindezela abaphathi bakhe, omakhelwane abahlukumezayo, njalo uba ngemali emalini nemali yokugcina esitimeleni. Owesifazane ongathandeki okufanele abe nesihe.
Kodwa ubona ukuthi umyeni wakhe wamshiya, ngoba unomlingani obi kakhulu, osebenza nabo abamthandi ngokuzama ukuhlala phansi, iziphathimandla azimboni, ngoba ufuna ukushintsha umsebenzi wakhe emahlombe omunye umuntu. Futhi izikhwama? Akakaze afunde emaphutheni akhe.
Yini umyeni wakho ayibona? Emehlweni akhe, lo wesifazane omncane, okhubekile ozama ukuba nesibindi nokujabula, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini. Uthola izizathu zokuhlonipha kulokho akusho ngencazelo. Ngenxa yalokho, wamukela usizo lwakhe futhi ujwayele ukumbiza nganoma yisiphi isikhathi sosuku lokucela iseluleko noma ukukhala, uyisimenywa esivamile endlini yakho, futhi kufanele uyamukele, futhi uma uphikisana, indoda iyalalalala kusihlwa.
Kodwa le nkinga ingaxazululwa. Cabanga ngakho, uzicabange kangakanani? Emehlweni omyeni wakhe, ubukeka njengomuntu onamandla, onokwanele oye wajwayela ukubhekana nazo zonke izinkinga. Futhi kulowo mqondo wokuziphendulela awuzange ufe ngaphandle, udinga nje umuntu ukuthi asindise. Ngakho mnike lelo thuba! Ungazami ukuxazulula yonke into ngokwakho, ungangabazi ukukhononda ngezinto ongazange uzitholele ngaphambili. Ngokuvamile, mnike ukuthi "intombi" yakhe iyinikeza. Kuvela ukuthi indoda yakho ayiyona inkinobho kakhulu ukudonsa umthwalo ngaphandle kwabesifazane ababili abaswele. Mhlawumbe, ukhetha lowo izinkinga zakhe zisondelene naye futhi uthinte okuningi, okungukuthi, wena.
Ubungane obuvela enkumbulweni.
Ukuxhumana okudala kanye nokuphola okuhamba phambili kuhamba nomuntu isikhathi eside - kusukela emshadweni kuya emshadweni, unyaka nonyaka. Kwenzeka ukuthi phakathi kwezinye izinto kukhona umngane omdala, obonakala sengathi akayena inkosikazi, kodwa nje umngane, kodwa akavumeli umyeni wakho ahambe iminyaka eminingi.
Zixhunyaniswa yizinkumbulo, intsha, injabulo yezingane nokuthanda kwezingane, baye bazana isikhathi eside futhi basetshenziselwa ukwethemba omunye nomunye. Ukubhekana nale mpikiswano ngeke kube lula.
Uma ungeke umqede ngaphambi komshado, bese ungakwazanga ukumamukela, khona-ke yenza isinyathelo ngokuzolile futhi ngokupholile. Okokuqala, ungesabi ukukhuluma ngaye nomyeni wakho, kodwa hhayi ngombono wommangali. Ungenzi izicelo, kodwa cela imibuzo efanele. Isibonelo, cela uma intombi ijabulile. Kubukeka okumangalisa, uthi ngokuvamile abesifazane abathandekayo bakhetha ukuchitha isikhathi hhayi nabangani, kodwa nabathandekayo. Ungabi namahloni ukuvula amehlo akhe kwezinye izimfanelo zakhe ezingenakuhle kakhulu, isibonelo, ukuhlukunyezwa. Yebo, ingabe akaqondi ngempela ukuthi othandweni ufuna ukuba wedwa ngempelasonto? Futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, gcina lobu buhlobo bulawulwa - ungawushiyi emehlweni akho, kodwa ungavumeli ukuthi usondele kakhulu. Ngenxa yalokho, okunamathiselwe okudala kuzokunikeza indlela entsha, futhi umyeni wakho uzokhohlwa mayelana nomlingani ongamanga. A. mhlawumbe, futhi ngelinye ilanga uzohlela impilo yakhe siqu futhi ayeke ukuhlupha.
Ubungane emiphefumulweni.
Kuyamangaza ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi amadoda ayathula! Kodwa lapha kuvela ekuphileni owesifazane oqhelelene naye ohlala naye umyeni wakhe ozayo-noma ngisho uvaliwe ukulungele ukuxoxa imini nobusuku. Into ewukuthi, yena, ngokungafani nawe, wabona kuye okuthile okumjabulisayo. Vumela lokhu kube nje inkulumo engenangqondo mayelana nezombusazwe, ibhola lebhola noma amakhompyutha.
Lahla le ntombi ilula kakhulu. Lalela ukuthi yiziphi izihloko abakhuluma ngazo, baqonde incazelo futhi bamangalise abathembekile ngokujula kokuqonda. Mbeke esikhundleni sakhe, ube umngane wakhe omkhulu kakhulu. Uma nje ubonisa isithakazelo esiqotho kulokho okumjabulisayo, ngeke kube khona izinkumbulo ezivela kumvakashi ongamukelwa.
Ubungane ngokuphambene.
Mhlawumbe uqaphele ngemuva kwakho ukuthi awunayo imizwa emibi kakhulu, uvame ukucasuka futhi ungangabazi ukukubonisa? Ngokuvamile amadoda ayithandi abesifazane abakhulu ngokomzwelo. Ngakho-ke ungamangali uma umyeni wakho ngokuzumayo enomngane ozolile, njengetanki kunoma yisiphi isimo.
Ungasheshi ukwenza amahloni nomsolwa othandekayo. Shintsha amacebo. Yiba ongenakulinganiswa nokuzola, ungadli lapho ujwayele khona, ufunde ukugcina imizwelo yakho ezandleni zakho. Futhi uphazamise umyeni wakho ngento ethile - yize uhamba ndawonye, ngisho noma ingane evamile. Uzobona ukuthi uzobuya kanjani ngokushesha, nokuthi uzokubuka kanjani.
Lapho owesilisa nowesifazane besabangani, kukhona indawo yokucabangela nokusola. Kodwa lokhu kuvame ukukhombisa ukuthi yiziphi izinkinga ezikhulile ebuhlotsheni bakho nomyeni wakho. Zama ukushintsha, futhi uzobona ukuthi kwakungekho isidingo sangempela sokuba ubungane nomunye wesifazane. Into eyinhloko ngezikhathi ezinjalo - musa ukwenza amaphutha futhi unganyatheli esigabeni esifanayo.