Noma nini lapho uvakashela umfowenu, ungaqiniseka ukuthi uzobona lokhu okulandelayo. Umnyango njalo (!) Ovuliwe ngumkakhe. Iqiniso lokuthi umzalwane wendlu uboniswa kuphela yi-"Sawubona" yakhe efakwe ngaphakathi ebusweni bendlu. Konke kucacile, uhlezi ekhompyutheni futhi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngaphezulu. Hlala phansi etafuleni, wambize. "Manje" - umfowenu uthembise futhi ... ngomdlandla udlala ngokuqhubekayo. "Sikulindele wena." "Ngiyahamba kakade." Ukushintshaniswa okunjalo kungaqhubeka kuze kube nini nanini, uma ungangeni ekamelweni futhi ungahlali ku-intanethi okwesikhashana. "Ake ucabange, emva komsebenzi, uyashesha ukukhuluma okuthile, futhi ngokushesha uhlezi ezungeze izingosi futhi adlale nabangani emidlalweni ehlukene eNet. Futhi njalo kuze kube sekwephuzile ebusuku. Ngokwethembeka, iqala ukungicasula kakhulu. Ukudonsa othandekayo othunjelwe kuyi-intanethi, ngizothatha izinyathelo ezinkulu, "- uyakhalaza umkakhe. Ukulinda aze avume lezi "zinyathelo" ezingavamile, awuzange, wanquma ukumsiza yena nabanye besifazane abayeni babo ababoshiwe kuyi-intanethi. Yilokho abakwa-psychologists bomndeni abakhuthaza kulokhu.
Imilenze ikhula kuphi? Ukuxazulula le nkinga, okokuqala udinga ukufunda ngakho ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngakho-ke, yini esiyithandayo esikwenzayo ngenkathi sihlezi phambi komngane wabo we-elektroniki? Abaningi babo badlala abaculi abahlukahlukene bekhompiyutha, amasu nezinhlanga. Abaningi nabo baxhumana ezinkundleni ezihlukahlukene kanye nokuxhumana nabantu. Futhi uphinde ulande ama-movie, izincwadi nomculo, futhi abanye abantu nabo baya kumasayithi, asho ukuthi, ngendalo. Kungani benza lokhu? Kubonakala sengathi impendulo isobala: ukuphumula, ukuthola injabulo ekukhulumisaneni, kusukela ekuboneni okusha, funda okuthile okuthakazelisayo. Kodwa uma kuziwa emahoreni amaningi ukuhlala ekhomphyutha ukulimaza zonke ezinye izithakazelo, ubudlelwane bomndeni, ezempilo, izazi zengqondo zithi isizathu siyashintsha: kuyindlela yokuphunyuka eqinisweni, lapho othandekayo wakho engathandi khona. Yini ngempela? Yebo, noma yini: izinkinga ezincane emsebenzini, ezinye izimpikiswano zomndeni, impilo, ukungakwazi ukuthola lokho okufunayo, ukuntuleka kokubonakala okucacile, isipelisi nje. Futhi kubonakala kuye ukuthi ukushiya konke lokhu okushiwo yi-"overboard" kulula kakhulu: udinga nje ukuqala imoto, faka i-intanethi, futhi lapha kunomqaphi umhlaba othakazelisayo womuntu lapho bonke abakhileyo behlakaniphile futhi bekhangayo, lapho konke kuvela khona, futhi okuthandayo kuyinkosi Umbusi wezwe elibonakalayo, umbusi wezinhloso. Ngingamelana kanjani na?
Ungasebenzisi amandla! Kulabo besifazane abalingani abalingani baphenduka ngokuhlukile: benza sengathi ukuziphatha komyeni wabo akujabulisi, kukhubekisa, ukuphika ukusondelana. Abesifazane abambalwa balandela indlela yokuncintisana okungenani futhi basebenzise okuthiwa amandla okusebenza: basusa imidlalo namasethingi, beka amaphasiwedi kwikhompyutha, bathathe amabhethri kusukela egundini, ngenhloso yokuncenga othandekayo "kumakhosikazi kagesi", bangakwazi ngisho nokuvala indlu. Futhi ngokuvamile lezi zinto zihambisana nezinyembezi, izinsongo, zifuna "noma mina, noma ikhompyutha." Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, le ndlela ayiyona into ngaphandle kokuthola ukungqubuzana nabathandekayo, ngeke ifike. Ngenxa yokuthi othandekayo wakho akayena ingane - futhi ingcindezi eqondile, njenganoma yimuphi umuntu, ayikwazi ukuma. Futhi uma wenza njengomzali oqinile nomntwana ongenalutho, ngeke uthole lutho ngaphandle kwemibhikisho (efihliwe noma ecacile). Ngisho (ikakhulukazi!) Uma eziphatha kahle, njengengane engenangqondo.
Insindiso yomuntu othandekayo . Kunezindlela eziningi eziningi ezicashile nezisebenzayo zokuxazulula le nkinga ngaphandle kokuphikisana nomlingani. Nika othandekayo wakho umbono omusha, ocacile. Ngempela, yibo, ngisho nesabelo esithile sokweqile, cishe akunakwaneli kumdlali. Zama ukwehlukanisa impilo yakho yomndeni. Thenga amathikithi emidlalo yaseshashalazini, i-cinema, ibhola, ekugcineni. Mema izivakashi ukudla, okuyinto othandekayo wakho azokujabulela ukubona. Ungakwazi ukuhlanganisa ibhizinisi ngenjabulo futhi, kanye nomyeni wakho, ubhalise ekliniki yokuzivocavoca noma ugijime nxazonke ekuseni. Uma ufuna okudlulele, futhi, kunezinketho eziningi ezihlukahlukene ukusuka ku-skydiving kuya kuma-kayak alloys. Ngendlela, mayelana nokubonakala. Abaningi bezengqondo bavame ukucabanga ukuthi imidlalo yekhompiyutha kanye namasayithi okuvakashela abantu abadala kuphela okunye okuhlukile kokuya ocansini okuhle. Mhlawumbe kufanelekile ukunikeza othandekayo wakho ukuzama okuthile okusha embhedeni? Futhi ungabi namahloni okuxoxa ngokungagwegwesi nokuhlola!
Zizinakekele . Othandekayo wakho uthathwe yi-intanethi, kodwa imicabango yakho ngalokho angakwenza ngaleso sikhathi? Siza ezungeze indlu. Ukudlela nomntwana, ukuxhumana nawe, ukuhamba nenja (uhlu lungenziwa). Yeka ukucabanga ngaye - ungumuntu omdala. Yeka ukuchitha amandla akho kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho! Nika isikhathi nokuzinaka wena. Unezintombi, izinto zokuzilibazisa, izincwadi, emva kwakho konke. Khumbula ukuhlalisana kwamaziko emidlalo yaseshashalazini nempilo. Abesifazane abaningi baphikisana: lapho "beka" ukulawula ngokweqile futhi bashintshe ukugxila kwabo, abathandekayo baqala ukuchitha isikhathi esincane kwi-intanethi. Yibani owesifazane wangempela, yekani ngisho nokucindezela ngokwengqondo, futhi indoda eduze kwakho, nayo, ingaguqulwa. Dlala naye. Khetha umdlalo ngokwakho, ubhalisele amaforamu ngezintshisekelo. Kuthiwani uma uyayithanda? Ngakho uzobulala izinyoni ezimbili ngetshe elilodwa: okokuqala, uzoqonda kangcono umthandi wakho, futhi okwesibili, uzokujabulela. Futhi, ubona, uzophinde ube yisiboshwa se-intanethi. Ngendlela, lokhu kuyi-"hare" yesithathu. Uma othandekayo engathuthuki, ikhono lokusebenzisa i-intanethi liyoba uhlobo lwezinqola ezinzima. Isibonelo, othandekayo uvela emsebenzini, kodwa indlu ayihlanjululwa, ayikho into yokudla. Kuzo zonke imibuzo zakhe impendulo ingenye: "Uthandiwe, umdlalo onjalo onentshisekelo, angikwazi ukuziqeda! Lungiselela isidlo sakusihlwa ngokwakho, kuhle? "
Umoya wokuphikisana . Akayena umfokazi kunoma yimuphi ummeleli wesondo oqinile. Awufuni ukulalela imiyalo eqondile, futhi yilokho. Ngakho ukudlala. Isibonelo, uma ngaphambilini wenqabe ukuzithokozisa okubonakalayo, ngaleyo ndlela wenze isithelo esinqatshelwe sibe mnandi, zama ukushintsha amaqhinga. Qala ukumkhuthaza!