Ubuhlobo obuphakathi komalokazana nomamazala akukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi kulula ... Kulula - owesifazane owakhulisa indodana (noma amadodana), njengombuso, uyaqonda ngokude kakhulu i-psychology yabesifazane abasebasha. Akuyona into abantu abakushoyo, kanti izazi ze-psychologists ziqinisekisa la mazwi (ngokufaneleka) ukuthi uhlobo oluhle lomamazala ngumfazi ongakhulelanga indodana yakhe kuphela, kodwa nendodakazi yakhe.
Ngaphambi kokuqala komndeni, ubuhlobo phakathi kwezihlobo zabasha bukhula kahle. Nokho, ngokushesha nje lapho usuku lomshado luphelile, uninazala uqala ukunikeza iseluleko, kancane kancane egijima ekuziphatheni kwangempela. Isimo siphuthumayo uma intsha ihlala nabazali bayo. Akunjalo ukuthi ulale embhedeni, uwugeza ungalungile, awunayo ihembe lakho elincane kangaka, njalonjalo - ngubani ongazi lokhu? Lona kunjalo? Manje yisikhathi sokuthatha isinyathelo ngokuphuthumayo.
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Manje usumkhwenyana. Sekuyisikhathi sokucabanga ngendlela yokwakha ubuhlobo nomalokazana. Unomhawu ngendodana yakho ngomunye owesifazane, nakuba ungasoze wavuma. Ngemuva komshado, uqala ukuxhaphaza indodana yakho kuphela, kodwa futhi umalokazana. Uma lokhu kungasebenzi, khona-ke izingxabano ziqala ukuqhuma, ukufutheka nokuxabana kuphakama. Ucabanga ngalokhu kanje: "Ngiye ngaba impilo yakhe eyinhloko ngaye, indodana yami yayiseduze nami, ingilalele. Manje uyamlalela, kodwa nokho usengenalwazi! ". Noma kunjalo: "Indodana yami empofu, mhlawumbe idla i-pasta engenalutho kanye neminye yamakhemikhali, ngoba umfazi osemncane akanakwenzeka ukuba athole izobho zakhe ezondlayo, engimlungiselele ...".
Awudingi ukukhathazeka. Eqinisweni, isimo sihluke kakhulu. Ngokujwayelekile umfana osemncane uyakhuphuka esikhumbeni ukuze amjabulise umyeni wakhe othandekayo. Futhi ama-pies ufunda ukubhaka, futhi isobho lipheka njengoba indodana yakho ithanda. Futhi banokugqoka okungcono kakhulu, futhi ukudla kuyona okumnandi kakhulu futhi okusha - konke okungcono kakhulu othandekayo. Yiqiniso, emva kokukhuluma kwakho okubukhali kumalokazanazana mayelana nokudla okunobuthi ngamakhemikhali kanye namahembe angalungile, ukusho ukuthi umalokazana wakho uzocasuka - akusho lutho. Emangcwabeni omndeni omusha uzoqala ukuphuma: "Umama wakho akangithandi nakancane", "usho ukuthi ngingumnganekazi ombi!" Ngenxa yalokho, indodana yakho iphakathi kwemililo emibili. Yiqiniso, kuyamthuka ukuzwa amazwi anjalo ngunina. Ngakho-ke, lapho ephendula, angatshela umkakhe othandekayo isixuku sezinto azozisola kamuva. Ingabe uzokujabulisa kuphela? Khona-ke awufisi indodana yakho injabulo.
Kubi uma indodana yakho ithatha isikhundla - kuyinkinga yakho. Like, baxabana - futhi bazibuyisana. Isimo esinjalo singathathwa uma inkinga yayiphakathi komalokazana nomama wakhe (udade, ezinye izihlobo). Futhi kuwe, indodana kufanele ithathe isikhundla sesilisa. Ngakho-ke, uma engakutshela ngaphandle kokugxeka ukuthi awuzange ungene emphefumulweni womkakhe - lokhu kubonakaliswa komlingiswa womuntu. Ungesabi ukuthi indodana izoyeka ukukuthanda, ihlale nomunye owesifazane. Ngokushesha uzobanda, uma uhlala uxabana nomalokazana omncane. Phela, akudingekile ukwenza lokhu ngokwezingxabano nokuhlukunyezwa.
Ngokuvamile, uninazala angasifisa kuphela. Yiba nesineke ngangokunokwenzeka, uvumele abantu abasha bajabulele ukunqoba kwabo namaphutha abo. Bazokubonga ngokuthi bangangeni emiphakathini yabo. Phela, cishe ngeke ukhululeke uma othile eqondisa isinyathelo ngasinye, ezama njalo ukukufundisa ukwenza okuthile ngokuhlukile. Umthetho oyinhloko kunoma yimuphi uninazala kufanele ube ngamazwi: "Iseluleko sihle uma siceliwe."