Ngizokwenza isibonelo esilula . Eyakhe, nje ngonyaka odlule, nje ukuthanda izingubo ze-woolen, angikaze ngigqoke le ebusika. Isesimweni esiphelele, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile kubonakala kungenakuhleleka, kubi, ngandlela-thile ngandlela-thile. Ngifuna ukuhamba ngiyothenga, noma kunjalo, kodwa entsha. Ngicabanga ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi uzizwa kanjalo. Kodwa kukhona abantu, izazi zengqondo zisazibiza ngokuthi "bouncers", ezidinga ukuhluka njalo. Banesithakazelo sokuzama izinto ezehlukene, futhi kumodi ye "non-stop": namuhla eyodwa, kusasa kuyesibili, ngosuku olulandelayo kusasa lwesithathu. Ngokuvamile, ukuphila kushaya isihluthulelo! Kodwa bayothatha iphrojekthi entsha, hhayi nje ukuletha isidala (hhayi idumela elihle emehlweni eziphathimandla) engqondweni, kungcono ukuthenga i-TV entsha kunokulungisa imichilo endala (ukungcola okungenangqondo), khetha ukujwayela okusha nomhlangano nabangane abadala (ngokushesha noma kamuva ngeke lihlale nhlobo). Uhlu lungaqhubeka. Ngokuvamile, isimo sengqondo asiyona into enhle kakhulu. Iningi labantu - "i-poprygunchikov" lifuna ukubonakala okusha kanye nemizwelo engenakulibaleka. Ake sibone ukuthi yini ngempela emele ukoma njalo wenveli futhi ingabe le nqubo inganciphisa?
Yazisa noma isaphulelo?
Izazi zengqondo zithi "ukujubha" okunjalo, njengomthetho, yibo labo, abasebancane nasebancane, abasele bengavunyelwe. Cha, izihlobo zami ngokuqinisekile zamukele izenzo zabo, kodwa zenza ngokubhuka: "Kulungile, kodwa ngabe wenza okungcono", "Akunakho, kodwa ngabe wenza okungaphezulu", "Uyakwazi ukukhombisa imiphumela engcono kakhulu." Isibonelo, i-kid yatshela unina ukuthi iyisusile yonke imidlalo, futhi yathi: "Kulungile, kodwa awuzange wenze umbhede wakho." Noma ingane yesikole yazisa abazali bayo ukuthi inemigqa "emibili" kuphela kule ngxenye, kanti abazali bayo bathi "Kunjalo, kodwa umakhelwane wakho edeskini ngokuvamile unamahlanu" kuphela ". Zama ukuzidonsa kwikota elilandelayo. " Lokhu kungukuthi, ingane yayingavunyelwe ngisho nemaminithi ambalwa okusemthethweni ukuba ahlale emanzini akhe, ukuze ajabulele eyakhe, naphezu kokuncane, kodwa ephumelelayo, ngokushesha ashintshe ukufeza okusha okwenziwe ngaphambili. Ngakho-ke, wayefundiswa ngokungazi ukuthi akazithokozi, kodwa ukuze ahlaziye izinto, abantu, impumelelo.
Futhi kancane kancane umuntu ufika esiphethweni sokuthi imiphumela emihle ayibalulekile kakhulu, emva kokufinyelela kubo, umuntu kufanele aqale ngokushesha umsebenzi omusha ukuze "abambe futhi athathe".
Yehlisa ijubane
Yebo, asikwazi ukulungisa okudlule. Kodwa ukushintsha indlela yokuphila "Namuhla nginesithakazelo entweni eyodwa, futhi kusasa ngokuhluke ngokuphelele" okwamanje nasesikhathini esizayo ehlombe kunoma yimuphi umuntu. Kuyoba khona intando kanye nokuzikhandla kancane. Yini okudingeka uyenze lokhu?
Ungacabangi ukuqala okusha. Sibheke phambili kokuthile okusha, sibheke phambili ukuthi kuzoba kanjani. Futhi kubonakala kithi ukuthi "amahle kakhulu" nakanjani kungaba ngcono kuneqiniso. Zama ukungaboni kahle amaphrojekthi amasha. Uma kusenzima kuwe, ungacabangi ngabo nhlobo. Kungcono ukugxila ekutholeni lawo ma-pluses akhona "lapha nalapha." Hlela impilo yakho. Ukwazi ngobukhulu bakho obuphonselayo obuqalile e-point point, zinike isithembiso isikhathi esithile sokuqhubeka okuqalisiwe, ngisho noma ungafuni ukwenza lokhu futhi usuvele ubheke ama-horizons amasha, ubone ukuthi kuzokwenzekani.
Kuthiwani uma uyayithanda? Isibonelo, zinike isifungo sokuthi kule ndawo uzosebenza isikhathi sokusebenza, uthi, unyaka; ukuthi uzohlangana njalo nabangani "abadala" kanye ngesonto. Bazidumisa. Kuzo zonke, zonke izimpumelelo, ngisho nangomqondo wakho, ngisho nokuncane. Futhi ungazitholi "ehle kahle" noma "umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu", sebenzisa ukuncoma okuqhakazile nokuqala, bakhumbule kangcono kakhulu. Ekuqaleni lokhu kuzokwenzeka ngokushesha "emshinini", kodwa kancane kancane uzohileleka futhi uqale ukuthokozisa kule nqubo "yokucabangela".
Uzoyeka ukuphazamisa?
Uma ukuziphatha okunjalo kuyisono somunye umuntu osondelene nawe, izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuba ungalugxeki "umsizi", ungakhathazeki futhi ungabizi ngokuthi "impendulo." Ngemuva kwalokho, wagxekwa ngesikhathi sakhe, futhi yilokho okwakubangele! Ukubekezela nokukhuthazela. Uzenza sengathi u-non-stop akakukhathazi nakancane, uzicabange ngokwakho, wenze ibhizinisi lakho futhi ngokuqinisekile ungathwali umthwalo "wemisindo" yakhe. Njengomthetho, inqubomgomo enjalo yokungabikho kokuphazamiseka isebenza "kumabhomu" njengombhobho wamanzi abandayo, futhi baqala ukuhlaziya ukuziphatha kwabo futhi basebenze ngamaphutha.