Sifunda ukuthethelela nokuxolisa.
Okokuqala, ukuze ungabi yizitha zangempela ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, udinga ukuthethelela zonke iziphutha nakho konke okwenziwa yikho isoka lakho langaphambili kanye nobuhlungu nokuhlupheka okungakulethela (uma kukhona). Ngokwenza lokhu kuphela, ungabheka futhi futhi uxoxe nayo. Lokhu kuzoba yisisekelo sakho sokuqala sendlela yokwakha kahle ubudlelwane nobungane bokuqala. Ngokombono wezengqondo, esimweni esinjalo kukhona ukuqeqeshwa okuhle, okungasiza kamuva intombazane ukuba ihlule futhi ishintshe isimo sakhe sengqondo ngesoka lesandulela. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukuthatha isitulo ulibeke phakathi kwekamelo ukuze liphambi kwakho. Ngemuva kwalokho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungase kuzwakale kanjani ukungahlehlisi nokukhathazeka, kudingekile ukwethula kule ndawo "engenalutho", yena owayengumngane wakhe kanye naye owayethanda ukuhlukana naye. Khona-ke lesi script silula, udinga ukuphendukela esoka lakho lesicabanga futhi, ngaphandle kokwesaba leli gama, ngokuqondile "ngomuntu" ukumtshela konke okusondelene nokubilisa okwenziwe emphefumulweni wakho. Ngakho-ke, sicela nje ukucela intethelelo kusuka kule "sihlalo". Lokhu kuhlambalaza futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuvivinya umzimba ngendlela ephumelelayo kusiza kakhulu ukunqoba ngokwayo ukuhlambalaza nenzondo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma kunesidingo, tshela kuze kube phakade ngothando lwakho lwangaphambili. Ngendlela, kholwani noma cha, kodwa isoka lakho langaphambili lingase lizwe nge-telepathically ukuthi umthethelele futhi njengoba uzoba lula kakhulu ukwakha ubuhlobo obuseduze nawe.
Ukunganakwa yiyona nto yakho eyinhloko.
Khumbula ukuthi uma ubuhlobo obamukelekayo nobungane ngokuphelele emva kokuphumula nomfana, kungathinta iqiniso lokuthi owathandekayo wakho, ngesikhathi esisodwa, uzokwazi ukuthi unelungelo lokufuna noma ucele kuwe ukuthi ufeze izifiso zakhe ezithile noma ucabange. Kulesi simo, kuyoba kuhle uma nje ungaphenduli kuso. Yingakho indlela engcono kakhulu ukuphuma kulo mzuzu kuyoba ukunganakwa kwakho konke, okumele ubonise ngobuciko "umngane" wakho. Ngezingcingo zakhe, phendula ngomsindo ngezwi lakhe, imisho emifushane. Kodwa kakade lapho uhlangana ubuso nobuso udinga ukuba ulungile kakhulu, nakho konke ukubukeka kwakho ukumbonisa ukuthi izinkinga zakhe, futhi nakakhulu ngokwakho, awunandaba neze. Futhi ngisho nangokuphambene nalokho, bayakhathala futhi bakhathazeke ngokweqile. Ngakho-ke ulungele futhi ukuphelelwa yisikhathi okunjalo kwezimo futhi ungangeni emkhakheni wokuqala wekhasi elisha lobuhlobo bakho osevele usabizwa ngokuthi "abangane", ngokusikisela ngobuhlakani kulabo abathandekayo ngaphambili, ukuze angabi nanyana yini esikhathini esizayo. Yiqiniso, uma wena ngokwakho ungawudingi!
Uhlobo lwe-epistolary, njengendlela yokwakha ubuhlobo obuhle.
Kukhona enye indlela yokwakha noma yokuthuthukisa ubudlelwano nothando kusuka esikhathini esidlule. Ngendlela, le nketho izosiza futhi yonke into ngokuphelele futhi ikhohlwe ngokugcwele ngazo zonke izikhalazo kanye nezinhlekelele zangesikhathi esidlule. Futhi ngalokhu, kuphela iphepha kanye nepeni okudingekayo kukho konke. Bhala incwadi yokubonga isoka lakho langaphambili. Ngemva kwalokho, funda ngokuzwakalayo. Khumbula ukuthi yonke imicabango yomuntu, echazwe ephepheni elimhlophe, incazelo ecacile nekhonakile. Akunjalo lokho okufiphala okuvame ukwenzeka ekhanda lakho, futhi kubangele ukucabanga okuningi okukhathazayo nokuqhathaniswa kwamaqiniso okuphila okungahambi kahle. Ngemuva kokuthi kwenziwe "umkhuba wokuzimela," faka le ncwajana emvilophini bese uyibeka uphawu. Ngendlela, akudingekile ukuba ugijimele eposini ukuze uthole ikheli lakho lokungeza, ngoba uyisithakazi salolu daba. Burn it kanye nebhizinisi! Inhloso yale ncwadi ukuhambisa kalula ukuhlukanisa ngothando futhi hhayi ukuhlukumeza noma yiziphi izinkolelo kulo muntu. Khumbula ukuthi yizinkolelo ezingaba izitha zangempela zobuhlobo bakho obuseduze nomuntu owayengumfana. Uma ufuna ukwakha kahle ngobuhlobo obuseduze noma obudala, baphonsa ngaphandle kwekhanda lakho!
Isikhathi kuphela sinelungelo lokubonisa konke.
Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi emva nje kokuhlukana kobudlelwane, abantu bamane nje abakwazi ukubuka omunye nomunye. Kodwa ngemva kwesikhathi lapho zonke izinhlungu nokufutheka kuphela, abantu abake bebanothando banesifiso sokuphinde babuye, ukuze bathole ukuthi umuntu othandekayo uphila kanjani manje. Kulesi simo, indima enhle idlalwe yiqiniso lokuthi uma bobabili abalingani bokuqala sebeba nobuhlobo obusha. Yilapho ungakha ubungane bangempela. Ngakho, uma nje ungazange uphathe ukushiya ubuhlobo obunobungane, linda isikhathi esithile, futhi kufanele nonke niphile. Futhi mhlawumbe, uma ungakwazi kahle ukwakha ubuhlobo nomuntu wangaphambili, uzohlala abangane abahle kakhulu ekuphileni!