Yebo, wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi abafana bangabantu abaningi abadumile abangazwakali njalo imizwa yabo nemizwelo yabo. Bafihla uthando lwabo ngesithelo esinqatshelwe ngokucophelela kunabesifazane. Yingakho, amantombazane amaningi akwazi ukusiza ukuthi azibuze ukuthi ngabe abantu bangathanda yini. Futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, indoda ingamthanda owesifazane oyedwa konke ukuphila kwakhe
Uthando lumuzwa wokuthi yonke imiphefumulo nezinhliziyo ziyathinteka. Ngisho nalabo bantu abathi uthando alukho, ukuthi uyisifo sengqondo noma umlutha, empeleni bayakuthanda noma uma bebathanda. Ngomane nje, uthando lwabo alujabule noma aluhlehlisi, futhi manje indoda iyazama ukuvala zonke izindlela kulo mzwelo futhi ifihle imizwelo yakhe yangempela ukuze ingabuzwa ubuhlungu futhi.
Ingabe kukhona uthando olungunaphakade? Kuthiwa ukuthi emhlabeni kukhona abantu bodwa abangabodwa abangaphila impilo yabo kuphela ngenxa yomuntu oyedwa. Futhi phakathi kwabo akukhona abesifazane kuphela, kodwa futhi amadoda. Abantu abanjalo babhekana nokuhlukumezeka kakhulu nokuhlukana kanye nothando olulodwa. Bangakwazi ukuhlala bodwa iminyaka eminingi, behlale becabanga ngomuntu wabo othandekayo, bezama ukumbuyisela noma ukunqoba. Eqinisweni, ukuziphatha okunjalo, kunalokho akuyona inhlanganisela, kepha kuncane. Kuphela kumafilimu ekuhluphekeni okunjalo angabuka ngaphandle kokuyeka futhi ehlonipha ukwethembeka kothando, ikakhulu lapho umuntu ehlangabezana nalokhu. Kodwa uma konke kwenzeka empilweni yangempela, ukuthandana akukwanele. Eqinisweni, kubi kakhulu ukubona ukuthi umngane ubuna kanjani futhi uzibhubhise yena ngoba uthando lwakhe luyinto engenandaba. Uma umuntu engavumi ngesikhathi, angakwazi ukuqala ukubhekana nezinkinga nge-psyche. Yingakho, singasho ukuthi amadoda angenasiphelo esingunaphakade sokuthanda zonke izimpilo zabo, kepha kusukela othandweni olunjalo kungcono ukubasiza ukuba balahle, ngoba uma lokhu kungenziwanga, ukuphila kunganciphisa kakhulu. Futhi akukhona nje ngokuzibulala. Ukuphikisana okuqhubekayo kwemizwa kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kunomthelela omubi kakhulu ohlelweni lwe-cardiovascular and psyche. Ngakho-ke, uma ungafuni umfana oseduze nawe ukuba afe ngesifo senhliziyo noma ukuba esesibhedlela sesifo sengqondo, kungcono ukumqinisekisa ukuthi uthando ludlula, izindlela zangempela futhi ezingenangqondo, buya futhi, futhi kufanele ubekezelele. Yiqiniso, kuyoba buhlungu futhi kunzima kuye, kodwa ngaphandle kokusizwa komunye umuntu, imizwa enjalo iphenduka umbuthano ononya owenyukayo, oshaya futhi obhubhisa umuntu. Eqinisweni, uthando luhlala njalo, kodwa lushintsha ifomu. Futhi uma umuntu engalungisi into eyodwa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi angathola uhlobo olusha lokubonakaliswa kothando. Kodwa, ngoba lokhu kuyadingeka ukubheka nxazonke. Futhi abathandi abangenandaba nabo abafuni ukwenza lokhu, ngakho-ke bahlupheka othandweni lwabo iminyaka eminingi.
Kodwa-ke, akubona bonke abantu okufanele bahlupheke ngothando olulodwa. Ingabe kukhona uthando olulodwa lokuphila? Ngabe indoda ingaba njalo nenkosikazi yakhe yenhliziyo kuphela futhi inganaki abanye?
Yebo, kwenzeka, kodwa, ezimweni ezinjalo, okuningi kuxhomeke kubesifazane. Amakhosikazi angawabulala uthando emadodeni abo. Ngeshwa, kuyiqiniso, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi singayikushiya kanjani le mibono. Amahloni, ama-scandal njalo kanye nokuvinjelwa, ukusola nomhawu, ukungabi nentshisekelo kwezocansi nezinye izici eziningi eziholela ekubeni amadoda aqale ukudumala kulabo abathandayo. Eminyakeni edlule, ukukhungatheka kuqoqa futhi kuthande ngempela lapho izithakazelo ezivamile kanye nokuqonda okufanayo kulahlekile.
Kodwa, uma abesifazane nabesilisa bekwazi ukuhlakanipha, benze izinto eziyekethisa futhi baqonde, kulokhu indoda izoyithanda ngempela owesifazane wayo yonke impilo yakhe. Futhi akekho okhuluma ngesifiso sokulangazelela okukhona phakathi kwalababili eminyakeni yokuqala. Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi idlula, kodwa kukhona okunye okunye. Ubungane, ukusekelwa, ukuzethemba, komunye nomunye, uthando. Uthando luhlukile, kodwa kusukela eqinisweni lokuthi lushintsha ifomu lalo, isisekelo samanje asishintshi. Abanye bamane badidise uthando, uthando nothando, ngakho baqiniseka kakhulu ukuthi uthando lungagcina. Awu, empeleni. Uthando lweqiniso luvele lufake ifomu eliphakeme, okungeyona yonke imibhangqwana efinyelela kuyo. Vumelana, ngoba phakathi kwabantu asebekhulile abaye bahlala ndawonye iminyaka engamashumi amahlanu kakade akukho ukufutheka, kodwa ukuthi bayasekela kanjani, ukuthi bayamukela kanjani, ukuthi bahamba kanjani ngengalo epaki yekwindla, yonke leyo mizwa eyazalwa ngesikhathi esithile ivela ebusheni ukuthanda. Futhi emva kwalokho - yaba ngumngane nomusa, futhi manje sebeyingxenye ebalulekile yemiphefumulo yabo. Abantu abakucabangi kusengaphambili ukuthi bangabi ndawonye. Abaqapheli ngisho nokuthi lokhu akunakwenzeka. Ukubona komunye nomunye njengengxenye yakho kungukubonakaliswa kothando olungenakuphulwa nokubhujiswa.
Empeleni, cishe wonke umuntu angamthanda owesifazane oyedwa konke ukuphila kwakhe. Kodwa, akubona bonke abahlangene nalabo abantombazane abangakwazi futhi kufanele bathande kuze kube phakade. Ngeshwa, akuwona wonke umbhangqwana oyingxenye yesibili yomunye nomunye. Ngezinye izikhathi abantu benza amaphutha, kodwa abakwazi ukuvuma iphutha labo, ngenxa yalokho, ngenxa yalokho, bahlupheka isikhathi esithile eduze komunye nomunye bese behlukana.
Indoda ingayithanda yini owesifazane oyedwa konke ukuphila kwakhe? Kulo mbuzo, wonke umuntu unikeza impendulo yakhe, athembele ekuhlangenwe nakho nezimo ezenzeke kuye empilweni. Kodwa, abantu abatholile uthando lwabo lwangempela, bayothi imizwa ayanyamalala nesikhathi, kodwa iguqule isimo sayo kuphela futhi ikhule ibe yinto ngaphandle kokuthi azizwa ingenalutho futhi impilo yabo ayinalutho. Bonke abantu bayakwazi ukuthanda futhi akuxhomeki ukuthi ungumuntu noma owesifazane. Umbuzo owodwa kuphela. Ingabe kukhona abantu endleleni yokuphila abafanelwe uthando lwethu. Uma kunjalo, khona-ke noma yimuphi umuntu uyoba nemizwa ukuthi uzoyithwala kuze kube usuku lokugcina lokuphila kwakhe.