Indoda kaNarcissus, ungubani?

Wonke amakhosikazi amaphupho omuntu onamandla ozozizwa evikelekile. Indoda enamandla esikhathini sethu iyinarity. Njengoba kuvame ukukholelwa ukuthi, amadoda angabantu abanobulili obuqinile, kodwa esikhathini sethu ngokuvamile kufanele sibheke isimo esihlukile.
Akubona bonke abesifazane abakhuthazela ubuthakathaka babantu babo ukuze babuyekeze ngokujwayelekile, iningi lizama ukufihla lesi sici sabakhethiweyo babo, futhi ingxenye yesimo sengqondo sombhangqwana abonakala ibahle, kodwa njengoba kubonakala impilo, akukho buhlobo obuhle.

Sonke sazi inganekwane enhle kaNarcissa osemusha. Bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane yizintambo ezithinta ukuhlambalaza, kepha nokho amadoda ahlupheka kakhulu kunokwakheka kunabesifazane. Ososayensi baye bafakazela ukuthi i-narcissism iyisinye isibonakaliso sobulili obufanayo.

Ama-daffodils ahlanzekile ambalwa kakhulu. Kwamanye amadoda, kubonakala njengendlela yokuzivikela, bazama ukukhombisa labo abathandayo abathandekayo ukuba bathande. Ngakho-ke umuntu uzama ukuthola inotho yakhe.

Ukuziqhenya kuhambisana ne-narcissism. Njengoba uyazi, ama-egoists angabantu abajabule, ngoba injabulo yabo ixhomeke ekuziphatheni kwabo, ngakho-ke abakwazi ukuqonda injabulo yangempela. I-narcissus yanamuhla ayiboni amaphutha, hhayi kuphela ekubukeni kwayo, kodwa futhi ekubukeni kwayo kwangaphakathi. Abantu abanjalo abayithandi ukuthi bayanconywa. Bangaki abangazange badumise i-narcissus, uhlale encane, ngoba ukholelwa ukuthi isimo sakhe esihle sihlale singanakwa.

Abantu abanjalo aboni iqiniso futhi baqonda izwe elibazungezile ngendlela abayifunayo. Umuntu onjalo akaziboni ulingana, uzibheka njengomuntu ophelele. I-Narcissus emhlanganweni wokuqala kunzima ukubona, kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izici zayo zangempela zibonakala zibonakala. Phakathi nengxoxo, indoda enjalo ihlale ikhuluma ngaye, incane yakhe, noma kunalokho ayinandaba nabanye abantu.

La madoda anquma ukuxazulula izinkinga ngezindleko zabanye.

Ngaphandle kwesizathu sokunganaki, abavumelani namaphutha abo, bayavuma ukuthi iphutha labo lifana nokuwa kwezwe langaphakathi nezinhloso zokuphila.

Ukusola abanye ngokungaziphathi kahle, kodwa hhayi ngokwabo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukungahambisani kokumangalelwa akudingekile.

I-Narcissus iphelele, konke kuphelele kulo futhi lesi sitatimende asikwazi ukuphikisana nanoma ubani.

Kuye, akukho okubi kakhulu kunokuba uhlazeke. Akufanele kubheke kusukela ohlangothini lobubi. Uhlale efuna ukuzizwa enhle, ngoba lokhu kuyisiqinisekiso sokuba khona kwakhe, ulungele ukwenza noma ukusho lutho, nje ukuvuma ukuziphatha kwakhe okungalungile.

UNarcissus akuyona indoda emndenini omuhle. Ama-daffodils abesilisa afakazela njalo futhi azama njalo ukusekela lokho okudingekayo. Uma uqonda ngokucacile ukuthi kumuntu wakho kuyi-narcissus, khona-ke udinga ukuzivumelanisa nalokhu okuyingqayizivele (kunzima kakhulu).

Noma yisiphi isimo sokungqubuzana esihlotshaniswa nokunganeliseki kowesifazane, kubo, lokhu kusongela ukuba khona kwakhe ubuntu. UNarcissus naye ukhetha ukunikeza izipho futhi uzijabulise yena, bese uyithandekayo, udinga ukwamukela lokhu, kodwa kuleso simo kukhona eyodwa eyodwa - eqinisweni endlini ka-narcissus kukhona konke okudingekayo futhi konke okungcono kakhulu.

Kumele kuqondwe ukuthi uma ingxenye yakho enye ivame ukukugxeka ngokuhlukumeza kwakho, lokhu kubi, ngoba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi inani labahlukumezekile liyokwanda futhi ekugcineni ungalinciphisa, ngoba lizohlala liphelele, futhi ngeke.

Ukuthakazelisa kumuntu onjalo, kufanele kugxilwe futhi kugxilwe ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi lokhu kufanele kusetshenziswe ngokulinganayo. Ukulungisa umuntu-narcissus akunakwenzeka.

Uma unomuntu onjalo, zibuze umbuzo ukuthi ulungele yini ukubekezelela futhi ulungise kuwo futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo unecala zonke izinkinga?