Ngingakazwa ngothando noma nginikezwe ubumsulwa? Kubuntombi besilisa, ungabonisa ngokuphepha ukuthi kokubili le mibono. Ngempela, namuhla umqondo onjengokuthi "intombi yesilisa" ayinayo incazelo ecacile, noma kunjalo, ngokufika kwamanye amafomu ehlukile kwezocansi, kunzima ukusho ukuthi ubani owaziwa kakhulu ngocansi - indoda esele isixhumano esivamile nomuntu noma umuntu owazi konke " ukungaxhumani "izindlela zokuqeda ukuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili. Mayelana nendoda engenacala nokuziphatha kahle nentombi futhi sizoxoxwa ngezansi.
Ubuntombi besifazane bufana nokuhlanzeka futhi kungakwenza ukhale ngenjabulo. Kodwa-ke, intombi yesilisa, ngisho nasezinkulumweni eziphathelene nobulili, okuhloselwe abantu abasha, odokotela abakhokhi kahle. Konke kunqunyelwe kuphela ezincomo mayelana nokukhulelwa. E-intanethi, ungathola ukuthola izinsizakalo zezinsizakalo ezivela ezintombi, amadoda, kodwa amantombazane-izintombi zisabiza kakhulu. Ubuntombi besilisa abuhlonishwa, futhi bubekwa icala futhi buhlekwa usulu. Ngakho-ke, abantu abasha abangabazi ubulili, bazizwa bengaphelele, bezama ukususa ngokushesha "i-ballast" yabo.
Uma ubhekene nomfana noma indoda ngaphambi kokuba ucansi ubulale ocansini kuphela kumaphupho asendle kunazo zonke, kufanele ukhumbule - kubantu abanjalo, okokuqala kubaluleke kakhulu. Futhi ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka ukulungela kokubili ukudumala okuncane nokuncintisana okukhulu okuphelele.
Kuhle ukuthi manje ezweni lethu lombuso wentando yeningi abantu bayazi kahle ngokuphelele zonke izinkolelo zale nqubo. Ngakho-ke akungabazeki ukuthi kufanele ubuze umfana wakho ongeyintombi engemibuzo engajabulisayo kanye nezinkulumo ngezocansi. Kodwa into eyodwa iyinkolelo, futhi okunye okunye umkhuba, okuphumelela kwakhe kuxhomeke empilweni yengqondo yomuntu. Futhi noma ngabe wazi konke mayelana ne-pistils ne-stamens, inqubo ye "impova" ingaba nzima kuwe.
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ENetherlands kukhona isikole esisiza amadoda ukuba athi okuhle kubuntombi bawo. Okokuqala bafundela inkolelo emzimbeni wesifazane onqunu. Futhi uma nje umuntu ekwazi ukuthula futhi ecabangela ngobuhle ubuhlobo bomlingani futhi ngaphandle kokuzizwa ejabulile ukuzindla kwakhe esibukweni - khona-ke kukhona ukuguqulwa ukwenza. Ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka ngokwayo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngaphansi kokuqondiswa kochwepheshe.
Kunezinhlobo eziningana zezintombi. Njengoba uzimisele uhlobo oluthi "obanjwe" wena, uzokwazi ukuthi uziphathe kanjani kahle nale ndoda.
Intombi enenhlamvu enkulu "D"
Lolu hlobo lomfana oluthile olungaziwa ngokocansi. Unelungelo lokuthiwa kanjalo ngokweminyaka yakhe. Ngokuvamile laba bangabafana abaneminyaka engu-15-18, abanomgomo wokuqeda "ukuntuleka" kwabo ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze bakwazi ukuzizwa bebadala. Lona uhlobo lwesithintelo esahlukanisa umfana kusukela izolo nomuntu oseduze kusasa.
Amantombazane alolu hlobo ahlobene nocansi kalula. Ngokuvamile bayazi ukuthi benzeni, nakuba amahloni athile namanje. Iqiniso, hhayi isikhathi eside. Kulolu hlobo kumfana akudingekile ukuthi useshe indlela efanele - kunoma yikuphi ukuthi uzomnika lokho akufunayo. Ngempela, umgomo walo oyinhloko ukuqeda ubuntombi. Ukubusa okuwukuphela nje akukuthi ubambe. Nakuba-ke, kungaba kuhle uma isenzo sakho sokulahlekelwa ubuntombi asizange nje sibe yinkinga, kodwa nesifundo sangempela sothando.
Intombi evela "kwelinye izwe"
Kuyinto yothando, indoda, ngendlela yakhe, eyaziqhenya ngobuntombi bakhe, njengento engavamile kakhulu futhi eyigugu. Ubuntombi bakhe bungumcebo okwenzelwe owesifazane ovelele kakhulu. Abantu abanjalo abamukeli lesi simo njengesici, kepha kunesithunzi. Ngempela, njengamantombazane amaningi, baphupha ubulili bokuqala emasinini e-silk embhedeni ngemisindo yomculo wesilasi.
Uma uke waba yintombazane ekhethekile, efanelekayo ingcebo enjalo - ungakhathazeki. Vele ujabulele umkhathi lapho intombi yakho ethandekayo izokudala khona. Wayecabanga ngakho konke isikhathi eside, wakhuthazelela iskripthi salobu busuku iminyaka eminingi. Phuma futhi uphumule ezandleni zomlobi onolwazi owasungula lesi senzakalo enhliziyweni yakhe futhi uyazi kahle ukuthi izinto kufanele zibe kanjani. Zama ukulawula izintshisekelo nezifiso zakho - yilobubusuku bakhe futhi uzokwenquma ukuthi yiziphi izifundo azidingayo. Into eyinhloko akukhethile yona, futhi lokhu esimweni samadoda afanayo, kufanelekile kakhulu.
Intombi ekhulile
Ngesinye isizathu, wahlala engaqondanga, akazange amvumele noma ubani osondelene naye. Ngenxa yokuthi amahloni angenangqondo noma imfundo, ukubukeka okungathandeki noma okunye okubaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni - konke lokhu kwaholela ekubeni umfana omkhulu enze isakhiwo esikhulu. Intombi yalolu hlobo iyimbono edabukisayo.
Ngaphambi kokuba uchaze umuntu onjalo konke okujabulisayo ngokuphila kobulili, kufanele ulahlekelwe ukwesaba kanye kanye nokuqeda "i-dump" eyinkimbinkimbi. Lokhu, ngendlela, kunzima kakhulu. Okubaluleke kakhulu, mbonise ukuthi awunandaba nhlobo nesimo sakhe njengendodakazi, ukuthi ayijabuli, ayikucasuli noma ikuthuse. Zama ukumnciphisa phansi - ukhathazekile kakhulu futhi ukhathazekile. Yisho ukuthi manje uhlangene, futhi lokhu kuzokwenzeka ekugcineni. Ngesinye isikhathi, umuntu nje lokhu kwenzeka ngemva kwesikhathi esincane ... Futhi kungcono ukukhuluma kancane, kodwa yenzeni nje. Uzokubonga ngezinye izinsuku zakhe.
Intombi enesici esikhulu
Noma isithunzi somuntu omncane. Noma kubi kakhulu - nge-traumatic birth or loss of attraction ngenxa yokungenelela kwezokwelapha. Okuhlangenwe nakho kokuhlinzwa okuncane ebuntwaneni manje sekuyinkimbinkimbi ephansi. Maye, ngezinye izikhathi akunakwenzeka ukugwema ukulimala, ukuhlinzwa, ukwelashwa okwesikhathi eside, emva kwalokho abantu isikhathi eside abakwazi ukwenza lokhu, futhi ngezinye izikhathi abakwazi. Kodwa ngokuvamile kaningi bahamba kahle, bevele besaba ukwehluleka, yingakho bezama ukuqala impilo yobulili - akunakwane lokho ... Inkimbinkimbi yezintombi ezinjalo (ngokuvamile ngosizo lodokotela) iphenduka ukuxilongwa - ngigula kakhulu, futhi lokho kungukuthi.
Njengomthetho, amadoda angama-real angesabi ubuhlungu bomzimba, kodwa hhayi uma kuziwa ezindaweni zabo eziseduze kakhulu. Ubuhlungu bungasetshenziselwa amadoda afana nesithiyo kocansi. Iyiphi injabulo ekhona uma kuziwa ekugayeni amazinyo ngezinhlungu? Futhi noma ngabe lobu buhlungu - esikhathini esedlule, indoda ngeke nje ibhekane nokwesaba. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi akafuni ucansi.
Uma ufuna ubuhlobo obunjalo nomuntu onjalo-yiba buthakathaka. Ungasheshi, ungadlulisi futhi ungayifundisi. Uma ngabe ukunikeze izimfihlo eziseduze kakhulu, udinga nje ukufakazela leli themba. Mtshele ukuthi asikho isizathu sokukhathazeka ukuthi ngeke umlimaze, ukuthi uyamthanda, ekugcineni. Uzobonga kakhulu ngokuqonda kwakho nokubekezela kwakho. Ingabe kubalulekile ukuba ube nalomuntu? Masizwe!
Intombi enolwazi olucebile
Kulesi simo, kukhona into efana "necala". Lo ngumuntu onolwazi oludabukisayo oludlule. Akucaci ukuthi kwenzekani kulobo busuku obuhle, kodwa abazange basebenze nomlingani wangaphambili. Wafunga ukuthi ngeke abuye futhi ... Futhi, ekwahlulela ngoba unani manje, akazange agcine izwi lakhe. Lo muntu uzogwema zonke izindlela zokuhlaselwa kwakho enyameni yakhe. Lokhu kungaqhubeka kuze kube yilapho eqiniseka ukuthi usulungele ukumamukela njengoba ekhona - engaphelele, enqatshiwe futhi ehlaziswa kanye. Kumele aqiniseke ukuthi, uma kungenzeka, ngeke umkhonze ngokungapheli noma usule impumulo yakhe. Umsebenzi wakho ukumqinisekisa ngobuqotho bakho nokulungela ukuba naye kuze kube sekupheleni kunoma yisiphi isimo. Ngaphandle kokungabaza - ukuphela kokunqoba. Futhi wena ngokwakho kumelwe futhi ukholwe kuwo!
Uma unenhlanhla ngokwanele ukuba "ugijimele" intombi, ngokuqinisekile uzothola izifundo ezinhle kakhulu zesimo sengqondo, ububele futhi uzizwe ukubonga okuqotho komthandi wakho. Ukumsiza ukuba anqobe ukwesaba kwakhe, ubuhlungu, ukungaqiniseki, uzofakazela ukuthi usulungele ukungabi nje esinye isigaba, kodwa futhi umngane othembekile, umlingani ongayethemba. Nokho, ngokungangabazeki, ukulahlekelwa ubuntombi kuyisivivinyo esinzima kumuntu. Cabanga ngalokhu ngaphambi kokuba ube ngumqondisi wezwe lobulili. Owesifazane ohlangenwe nakho futhi ohlakaniphile uziphatha njalo ngokufanele - intombi iyoba yindoda ejabulisayo, ngokubonga futhi izomnika ubusuku nobusuku kaningi kangako njengoba efuna.