Yini impindiselo?
Ukuziphindiselela kuvame ukufaniswa nesifo, ngoba kuwumonakalo owonakalayo onamandla okubamba ingqondo yomuntu kangangokuthi uguqula umuntu abe yisigqila esicabanga nje ukuthi uzokwazi kanjani ukugcwalisa uhlelo lwakhe lokuziphindisela.
Impindiselo yenza umuntu abe nemizwa emibi kakhulu futhi engathandeki engacabanga nje kuphela. Umqondo wokuziphindiselela uhlukile kubantu abahlukene futhi bonke laba bantu bahlanganisa i-ego ebuhlungu futhi ekhululekile, kanye nokungakwazi ukubekezelela ukwehluleka kwabanye abantu kanye nokungabi namandla okuthethelela umuntu. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kukhona okuhlukile, futhi ngisho nomuntu onothando kakhulu nomuntu onokuthula angalethwa ekuqinisekiseni.
Kodwa impindiselo ayiyona nje eyonakalisayo. Emlandweni bekukhona amacala ukuthi, ngenxa yokuziphindiselela, baye baba abantu abadumile nabaphumelelayo.
Izizathu zokuvela kokuziphindisela kungaba inombolo enkulu kakhulu. Lokhu ukukhashelwa, ukuhleka usulu, ukuhlukumezeka, ukufutheka nokunye okuningi. Kodwa kukhona abanye abantu abaqala ukuphindisela kumuntu ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacile. Ngokuvamile, umuzwa wokuphindiselela ulandela abantu abanesizungu nabangenelisekile, ngoba ngokusebenzisa uhlelo lwabo lokuziphindiselela, bazama ukubonisa lonke izwe ukubaluleka kwabo.
Futhi, umona ungaba imbangela yalokhu kwenzeka futhi kube nzima kakhulu ukubhekana nalezi zemizwelo, ngoba into enomona ingashintsha, futhi uzophinde uhlale ezingeni elifanayo.
Isizathu esivame kakhulu ngumhawu. Impindiselo yenza umuntu onomhawu njalo ukwenza izinto ezihlukahlukene ezingalimaza inqwaba yabantu abangenacala.
Ingabe kufanelekile ukuphindiselela kulabo abenzi?
Umuntu ngamunye kuphela ongazikhethela ukuthi uzoziphindiselela yini kulabo abaphula umthetho noma cha. Futhi ukuze uzame ukuziphendulela kulo mbuzo, cabanga ukuthi lesi sikhalazo sinjani kakhulu kangangokuthi usebenzise amandla amaningi namandla kulo muntu? Noma kunjalo udinga ukuqonda ukuthi uzothola ukwaneliseka ngokuphindiselela noma ngokuphambene nalokho, uzobe uhlupheka nakakhulu ngalokhu? Futhi ungenza yini umonile wakho aphindiselele kuwe ukuze amphenduke?
Uma ungazakhohlisi sonke isisindo, khona-ke ezimweni eziningi uzoba nempendulo "akufaneleki".
Ukuze uxazululwe noma yikuphi ukuhlukunyezwa kwabahlukumezi, kunezindlela eziningi, ezisebenza kahle kakhulu kunokuphindisela. Ngezinye izikhathi ukungazinaki okuvamile komuntu noma ingxoxo elula naye kungalungisa lesi simo futhi kukusindise isifiso sokuphindiselela kumoni.
Uma usuvele unqume ukuphindiselela, khona-ke udinga ukucabanga ukuthi ungayenza kanjani? Qaphela futhi ungaziphindiseli kumenzi wobubi ngaphezu kwalokho akwenzile kuwe. Ukwenza uhlelo lokuziphindiselela, ungakhohlwa ngomthetho, ngoba abantu abaningi bamane nje banqobe induku bese bethola izinkinga ezintsha. Futhi njengoba bethi ngomthetho kungcono ukuba abangane!
Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, zama ukucabanga okuningi ngaphambi kokuhlela ukuphindisela, ngoba ungazilimaza ngezenzo zakho.