Bangaki abantu, izinhlamvu eziningi nezinhlobo. Kodwa-ke, izethulo, okuzoxoxwa ngakho kulesi sihloko, akunakwenzeka ukuthi zihlukane nokuzibandakanya okuthuthukile, ukuhlangana okulula nabantu abaningi nothando ngemicimbi enomsindo, emangalisayo, lapho kufanele kube khona abantu abaningi. Ngakho bangobani, ama-introverts? Ziyini amandla abo nobuthakathaka babo? Uzofunda ngalokhu kulesi sihloko.
Ngakho, lokhu akuyona umbhalo, kodwa nje uchungechunge lwemibuzo:
- Awuthandi uma kunabantu abaningi abakuzungezile, bekhetha ukuthi isizungu noma inkampani encane kakhulu?
- Awuyena yini umkhosi wemikhosi emnandi, imikhosi enkulu, amaqembu amanga noma imicimbi, lapho isixuku sisho ukuthi siqhutshiwe?
- Ujwayele ukujwayela indoda isikhathi eside kakhulu, futhi ujwayele ukuyifinyelela, ungafuni ukuyiyeka?
- Ingabe uyintombazane / owesifazane onesizotha, onamahloni, wesaba ngisho nokuya kumuntu ongaziwayo ukuze uthole nje isikhathi?
- Awuthandi izivakashi ezingalindelekile, noma ngabe ungumuntu omncane noma oseduze?
- Ingabe uthanda ukuchitha ama-movie wedwa ubuka ama-movie, ufunda izincwadi, umdwebo noma enye into yokuzilibazisa "ngakunye"?
- Awuthandi uma omunye umuntu ejoyina inkampani evamile yabangani?
- Ingabe uphefumulela ngokuziphatha ngemva kwengxoxo ende nabantu?
- Ingabe ufuna ukushintsha okuthile, kodwa ungenzi lutho olungakusiza kulokhu?
Uma unayo yonke "yebo", ngiyakuhalalisela, kungenzeka ukuthi uyangenisa. Uma wazi ukuthi ufunde intombazane yakho noma umngane wakho, kungenzeka ukuthi uyisethulo.
Introvert and extrovert
I-introvert ne-extrovert zihlukile njengebhakabhaka nomhlaba. Umuntu ongaphandle komhlaba uyisimo esisebenzayo, esiselula, esisekhokhiswa ngaso sonke isikhathi, esingakwazi ukuhlala unomsebenzi omnandi wokuziqhenya. Ngokuvamile, izethulo azithandi izinto ezibucayi, bambalwa abantu abanjengazo, kodwa ngokuvamile kaningi izethulo eziba yilabo abenza umsebenzi wokusebenza njalo. Ikakhulukazi uma ngesikhathi esifanayo konke ukuxhumana nabantu kuncishisiwe.
Ama-introverts agcina imizwelo yabo ngokwabo, ayidlulisi indawo yawo. Uma u-introvert enomhawu, uyakwenza ngokuthula. Uma ebuhlungu futhi ebuhlungu, uzokhala, mhlawumbe lapho kungekho muntu obona, kodwa lowo owenze iphutha ngeke akwazi ukukusho okuthile. I-extrovert iphinda ikhiphe imizwelo ngakwesokunene nangakwesobunxele, yenza ukuzwakala okukhulu, okucacile, ngezinye izikhathi kubonise.
U-Introvert uyakuthanda isizungu, uyazi ukuthi uyakwazisa kanjani futhi uyayijabulela, ngokungafani ne-extrovert, okungaye isonto elingenabantu lingabonakala liyisihogo. I-introvert iyazizwa yona kanye nezwe elizungezile ngokuzenzekelayo, liyibeke ejele lakhe elikhethekile lokubona. Ngokuvamile abantu balolu hlobo baba abaculi, abalobi noma bakhethe omunye umsebenzi wokudala (hhayi umculi kuphela, lokhu kungenye yezifiso ezingenakwenzeka ngokusebenza ngenxa yokungathandi kwenani elikhulu lababukeli). Lokhu akusizi nje ukudalula ngaphakathi "I", kodwa futhi kumemezela abaphathi kanye nozakwethu ukuthi basebenze nabo, okumele bakhulume nsuku zonke.
I-Introvert ivame kuvaliwe. Lokhu akusho ukuthi awufuni ukuphuza kabi futhi ungafuni ukudakwa futhi uqhubeke uhamba, uhambe futhi ujabule njengabantu bonke abavamile, kodwa kuma-90% amacala abezethulo ababa "umphefumulo wenkampani." Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho abantu abambalwa kuphela, abangani abangcono kakhulu, khona-ke ama-introverts abonisa umsebenzi omkhulu kakhulu ; bahleka usulu, bajabule futhi bajabule, futhi ngaphandle kwendawo benza umbono wabantu abangenakuhlukaniswa. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kufanelekile okungenani umngane oyedwa, omusha, oshayayo omusha ukujoyina izintombi zakhe, njengamahlombe angeniswayo futhi abuyele egobolondo lakhe, futhi abuyele kuye ngokwakhe zamyrkas.
Ama-introverts adinga njalo ukuphumula emva kwengxoxo ende nabantu. Bangakwazi ukulalela, bangashiya futhi baze banikeze amathiphu ambalwa, kodwa uma bechitha ubusuku bonke belalela abanye, futhi bezama ukuxhumana, bayofana nelamula elifakwe ekuseni. Bese badinga ukuhoxisa ngaphakathi kwabo, ukuphumula kuzo zonke, bese ubuyela ku-rut evamile.
Konke lokhu okungenhla akusho ukuthi zonke izethulo ziyizidalwa ezingapheli, zesaba ukuphuma endlini. Cha, akunjalo (nakuba kunjalo), bamane bevaliwe kakhulu kune-extrovert, futhi bakhetha ukuza emcimbini wokucabangela owenziwe ekhanda lekhanda kunokuba uqobo.
Ngokwemvelo, akukhona neze abesifazane abaveza ngokugcwele futhi baveza ngokuphelele isigamu esisodwa, lokhu kwenzeka kakhulu, okungaqabukeli, ngokuvamile ukuxoshwa nokufakaza okuhlanganisiwe kuhlangene, ingxenye eyodwa kuphela ilawula. Kodwa nanyana iyiphi intombazane noma i-extrovert othanda ukuhlala yodwa, noma ukufaka , ngezinye izikhathi esebenzayo.
I-Cons
- Ukuthobeka, amahloni, ukungabonakali kwangaphandle nokungaqondile. Ngenxa yalezi zimfanelo, izethulo azikwazi ukuqala ukuzijwayeza, futhi noma ngabe zenzele zona, zingase zisabise kalula, ngokungaboni, "ukungasebenzi" kwazo.
- Ukucindezeleka, ukuphazanyiswa kanye nemiqulu yesimo esibi. Njengoba izethulo eziningi zigcina konke ngaphakathi kwazo, konke okuhlangenwe nakho nezinkinga zabo, lokhu kubi ngabo. Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ukukhuluma kuyasiza kakhulu, ngenxa yalokhu, izazi zengqondo zakhiwe, ngokujwayelekile. Futhi uma i-extrovert ingaphonsa zonke izinkinga emahlombe omuntu omusha, bese uqhubeka ujabulela ukuphila, i-Wintrovert ngeke iphume.
- Ukwesaba, i-paranoia, ukungafuni ukuphoqa. Amantombazane angenisiwe angalokothi abhale kuqala. Lokhu akusona isici sebesifazane abesifazane abaningi abancane abonile, ukubala ezinyathelweni ezisebenzayo kuphela kusukela ohlangothini lwesilisa, lokhu kuyesaba kanye ne-paranoia. Ama-introverts bacabanga ukuthi angabani. Ngokuvamile kubonakala kubo kuphela, kodwa kunzima ukubaqinisekisa.
- Ukuhlukanisa okubuhlungu. Abangane, bangani, bathandekayo, ekugcineni, sonke siyaqonda ukuthi akukho lutho oluhlala kuze kube phakade. Ukugqama, ngemva kokuncane, kulula ukuthola indawo, kodwa izethulo ziyinkinga. Zijwayele isikhathi eside futhi zithole okuningi kumuntu.
Izinzuzo
- Ama-Introverts, njengoba sekushiwo kakade, isikhathi eside asetshenziselwa abanye abantu. Kodwa uma bejwayele, uma ungena kubahlobo umuntu othungayo, unenhlanhla, ngoba bangabangane abaqotho kakhulu. Yebo, ngeke ukwazi ukuya ezitolo noma kumaqembu, ngoba izethulo azithandi lokhu, kepha uma udinga ukusekelwa kokuziphatha, uzonikezwa okugcwele.
- Izethulo zizimele futhi zihlakaniphile. Ngenxa yokuthi bachitha isikhathi esiningi bodwa, ngezinye izikhathi bayozizwa bezifundela, bazikhumbule. Futhi bayakwazi lokhu, ngoba abadingi abantu bangempela ngalokhu, bekulungele ukuchaza lokho, yebo, kanjani, introvertsami bazokwenza konke uma befuna. Abadingi usizo lomunye umuntu, bathanda ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo (nakuba eziseduze, abazali, isibonelo, bangakwazi ukulahla izinkinga zabo).
- Ama-Introverts avame ukuphindaphinda, okukhulunywe ngawo ekuqaleni, ubuntu bokudala. Lokhu kuyinto enkulu kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kwenzeka ngenxa yethalenta elikhulu, kodwa ngenxa yokunambitheka kokuzijabulisa, isizungu nesifiso sokwenza izwe lakho libe ngcono futhi lihle kakhulu. Ngesikhathi i-extroverts ihamba, i-introverts, ihlezi yodwa ekhaya, thatha ipensela ufunde ukudweba. Kwaphinda futhi, uma ingazange isebenze, kuze kube yimidwebo ithola izinkomba ezifanele.
- Ama-Introverts abalaleli abahle kakhulu futhi abaqotho kakhulu. Bazimisele ukulalela izinkinga hhayi "ezakhe" kuphela, kodwa nabangaphandle. Enye into ukuthi abajwayele ukunikeza iseluleko esihle, kodwa balalele-njalo njalo sicela. Ngeke akuphazamise ukuze ufake ngokushesha amazwana wakho noma indaba ehlobene, bazolalela zonke izinkulumo zakho. Yingakho i-extroverts ne-introverts zihambisana ndawonye, ngoba lezi zethulo ezimbili zizozizwa zingakhululekile: bobabili bayathula, bobabili bazama kakhulu ukucabanga okuthile okumele bakhulume futhi bangaboni njengabayiziphukuphuku, bobabili bazivuselela ngokwabo, ngokuphindaphindiwe ngokwengqondo "Ngingamangalela" noma into enjalo . Ngokuvamile, umuntu olungele ukuxoxa ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa, futhi ufakaze ngokulingana kahle. Enye into ukuthi induku ayidingi ukuhamba, akekho enye insimbi.
Umphumela
Njengoba ungabona, kunezinzuzo futhi zineqhaza ekusungulweni. Kuncike kakhulu emvelweni womuntu, kubangane bakhe, izihlobo nabangane kanye nokusekela kwabo, kodwa njengokungathi u-introvert azange azame ukuba yi-extrovert, kungaba ngumaski kuphela, ngakho kulula ukuvumelanisa nokuthuthukisa izinzuzo zakho.