Ubulili besilisa, kanye nabesifazane, buyingxenye enkulu yemisebenzi ebalulekile yesayense, kodwa umuntu osuka kwisayensi ukutadisha ubulili bomuntu, kanye nososayensi, akathandeki kule ndaba. Ukuze ubone isidingo esikhulu sokwazi umehluko futhi kulokhu okushiwo yi-athikili okuthakazelisayo yokuhlukanisa isimo phakathi kobulili besilisa nabesilisa kunikezwa kakhulu.
Ummeleli wesilisa ophilile, njengombuso, cishe uhlale ethanda isondo ngokobulili, kuyilapho owesifazane ebonakala khona lapho ekhona ekukhulisweni ngokocansi. Kodwa ukugqugquzela ngokobulili kwabesifazane akukhawulelwanga emithonjeni elula, yesilwane, yempilo. Abanye besifazane bathinteka ikakhulukazi ngamafutha, amanye amagama abathandekayo nabathandekayo, amagama amathathu okuhlakaniphile nemicabango ehlakaniphile, izenzo zesine, isimo sesihlanu senhlalakahle nokunye nokunye. Kwabesifazane, akuyona isibonelo esingaphezu kwamadoda, izindinganiso zomphakathi zibaluleke kakhulu - izici zobuntu bomlingani, ukuziphatha, uhlamvu, uthando nobuhlobo. Ubulili besifazane buxhomeke kakhulu kulolu lwazi njengokuthandana, ubudlelwane nokuthintana ngokomzwelo. Ngokuvamile, abesifazane abaningi abanelisekile ngombono ongenandaba, obandayo womthandi, kunokuba isenzo socansi esingaphumeleli. Ngakho-ke, izwe elingaphakathi, ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo nomzwelo womuntu kubaluleke kakhulu kowesifazane.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, amadoda akhangwa futhi akhuthaza ohlangothini lwangaphandle lomlingani, ukukhangisa kwakhe kwangaphandle, ukuhambisana nezindinganiso zobulili, noma izinto ezithandayo nezithandwa nguye.
Ubulili besifazane buyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu futhi eyinkimbinkimbi, ngakho-ke kwabesifazane, izindawo ezihlukumezayo zigcwele kakhulu futhi zivame kakhulu kunezingxenye zesilisa. Owesifazane, ukuzwa okujabulisayo kubangelwa ukuthinta izingxenye eziningi zomzimba wakhe, kuyilapho emadodeni izindawo ezihlukumezayo zivezwa ikakhulukazi endaweni yesisu.
Izici ezimbili eziyinhloko zobuntu bobulili - ukuhlukumezeka nokungahambisani nokungapheleli eminyakeni eyizinkulungwane kuye kwaba yiziqu ezilandelanayo ngokulinganayo owesilisa nowesifazane. Ukuhlukumeza kulo mongo akunakukwazi ukubonwa njengento enobudlova, engalungile nenonya. Ngokweqiniso kusuka endaweni yokubuka kwengqondo, "ukuhlukunyezwa" kusho ukuqhubekela phambili, emhlanganweni wenhloso (kulokhu, isenzo socansi). Amadoda asesimweni sabo kanye nesakhiwo sabo sokwemvelo awuphawu lokuhamba phambili, ngesikhathi esifanayo, abesifazane besakhiwo sabo, njengenjalo, indawo yokugcina, isilwane esinobudlova besilisa. Kuyinto ikhono lokungena elibangela isinyathelo somuntu. Esikhathini sethu, ukugcizelelwa kushintshile kakhulu futhi inani labantu abanobudlova kanye nabesifazane abathandekayo, futhi, kodwa lena indaba ehluke ngokuphelele. Ngoba owesifazane akayona nje ukungabi namandla, kodwa futhi nokuhlukunyezwa, kuphela okunamandla kakhulu futhi okucashile. Umgomo wokuhlukumezeka kwakhe ukuheha abantu besilisa, kuyilapho begcina ukungahambisani nokusikisela nokuhlala njengokungathi baphishekela. Ngoba uma indoda ibhekana nokuhlukumezeka ngokweqile kwabesifazane, uyaziqaphela ngokucacile, ngenxa yesifiso sakhe socansi sokuthi owesifazane ubuthakathaka, okungaholela ekufuneni ubuhlobo bobulili obusha ngisho nokungabi namandla. Yilezi izisusa ezijulile nezingazi ukuthi zenzelwe isisekelo ngesisekelo sobuhlobo bobulili phakathi kowesifazane nowendoda. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanele wazi ukuthi owesifazane ufuna ukunqotshwa futhi anqotshwe, okuyiphutha. Empeleni, owesifazane kudingeka adingeke futhi afiselekayo, futhi kuphela lapho eyovulela umshushisi wakhe. Into yukuthi owesifazane akafuni ukuba nje into yocansi.
Kukhona ukungafani okubonakalayo nasesimo sengqondo sokuphumelela kwezocansi phakathi kwamadoda nabesifazane. Ukuhluleka komuntu wesenzo socansi kuxhomeke ngokuqondile ekuhlulekeni komuntu. Kulesi simo, isitatimende esilandelayo, njengomthetho, asisebenzi. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukungaboni kokubona komuntu nokuzwela akusizi ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi sokuxhumana ngokocansi, njengoba kungabonakali kudabukisayo owesifazane. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukungabi khona kwenjabulo kumuntu kuyoholela ekugcineni kwezimfuno nezifiso ezinhle kakhulu. Yingakho owesifazane ezwela kakhulu ngisho nangobuthakathaka obuncane obuseduze komuntu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuqaphela nangokungazi kahle ukuhlukunyezwa kunoma yikuphi ukubonakaliswa kobuthakathaka engxenyeni yendoda ethintekayo ngokomzwelo. Ekuqaleni, angakwazi ukusekela, ukuqonda, nokunikeza ukusekelwa kokuziphatha ukuze umuntu anqobe ubunzima bakhe. Kodwa uma kungekho okunye okungenhla okusizayo, khona-ke owesifazane angaba nesihluku futhi akhiphe imizwa enobudlova kuye noma uzoshiya omunye umlingani. Amadoda ezingeni elingenalutho aqonde amandla okubhubhisa owesifazane, futhi isifiso sabo sokuqeda umlingani wabo singabanjwa, sibonakalise ukwesaba kwabo okungenakuqaphela amandla owesifazane wakhe analo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kunzima kakhulu ukuba owesifazane akhohliswe ukunakekelwa ngokweqile nomzwelo, ngoba uzoqonda noma asole ngezinkinga zangaphakathi zomlingani.
Kodwa-ke, emadodeni, kuyinto engavamile kakhulu ukuthi lo mkhuba owonakalayo uvele kowesifazane otholwe engenandaba nokuxhumana ngokocansi. Umuntu, ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, angakhononda ukuthi lo mlingani akazweli, kepha naye, konke kuhambisane. Into esemqoka yindoda yukuthi akakwazi ukukhononda futhi abuze ubukhulu bakhe. Indoda evamile kufanele izwe indima yakhe nemithwalo yemfanelo yomphumela ophumelelayo wokuxhumana, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uyaqonda ukuthi umsebenzi wakhe kuphela ukuvusa nokwanelisa owesifazane. Uma owesifazane kudingeka azizwe efiselekayo futhi ezwelayo, udinga indoda mahhala ngokwesaba ukwehluleka.