Ngeshwa, abesifazane abaningi basesikhathini sethu baye baveza isimo sengqondo sokuzikhumbuza ngekhefu lokubeletha, kokubili esikhathini "sokuboshwa komuntu siqu" nokuntula ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo ... Ngifuna ukubheka le nkinga evela ngakolunye uhlangothi futhi ngithole amathuba amaningi engeziwe ngale nkathi ephawulekayo empilweni yowesifazane.
"Uma ufuna ukushintsha uhlobo lomsebenzi - yiya emthethweni!" - ngakho-ke ngizokhuluma nowesifazane ngamunye ngicabanga ngalolu daba, ngokusekelwe ekuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kanye nokucwaswa komuntu siqu. Ngifuna ukuthi wonke owesifazane aqonde futhi asebenzise le nkathi emangalisayo yokuphila kwakhe ngenzuzo enkulu kakhulu yena nomndeni wakhe.
Ngifinyelele kulesi siphetho ngesizathu. Ngathola amathuba kanye nokulinganiselwa kwabesifazane emthethweni ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwami. Yebo, ukuzalwa kwengane nokumnakekela kufaka imithwalo yemfanelo eminingi kanye nesikhathi, kodwa uma usebenzisa isikhathi sakho sokwehlukana, ungenza izinto eziningi ongenaso isikhathi sokwenza ngaphambili. Futhi uma endlini kukhona umsizi wokunakekela ingane (umyeni, umama noma umkhwekazi, udadewabo, njll), khona-ke uzoba namahora angu-1-1.5 isikhathi sokuphumula noma isifundo esiwusizo.
Ngakho-ke, ake sikhulume ngezinzuzo zenkathi ephawulekayo empilweni yowesifazane - ikhefu lokubeletha.
1. Uyakwazi ukwenza okufanayo, kodwa umsebenzi omkhulu wokuphila "ungumama".
Yini engcono kakhulu ekuphileni, njengokunakekela izingane nokukhulisa izingane zabo? Unamahora angu-24 ngosuku ukuze usondelane nengane yakho. Ngabe empilweni yakho uzoba nethuba elinjalo? Ufunda ukuhlala ndawonye, uhambe, ukhulume, futhi emva konyaka - ukuthuthukisa amakhono atholakalayo. Nonke nisusizi futhi niyajabula, ndawonye niyayazi izwe elikuzungezile. Kuyaziwa ukuthi ubuchopho bomntwana buyithatha kakhulu "ukuthatha" ulwazi eminyakeni emithathu yokuqala yokuphila. Unethuba elikhulu lokufundisa "umcebo" wakho kuzo zonke izinto eziyisisekelo zokuphila kwanamuhla, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukufunda okuningi.
Ukuphila kwanamuhla kusinika amathuba amaningi okukhula nokuthuthukiswa komuntu ekhaya.
Lokhu akuwona ama-80, lapho bekungekho ifoni endlini. Manje, phambi kokuxhumana okuphathekayo, i-intanethi ingaba, okungenani imizuzu engu-20-30 ngosuku, inikeza ukuthuthukiswa kwamakhono abo okuqonda. Ungakwazi nokuqala ukufunda ulimi lwangaphandle noma, isibonelo, ukuza necebo lakho lebhizinisi (mhlawumbe lizofika ngendlela efanele).
Ngomuntu siqu, ngafunda isiNgisi, ngifunda izincwadi zezimali futhi ngacabanga ngokungena eyunivesithi ...
3. Isimiso sihlanganisa ukunciphisa imali engenayo yomndeni ngesilinganiso esisodwa somholo. Kanti lokhu kukhuthaza umfazi ukuthi afune futhi athole umthombo wemali engenayo eyengeziwe.
Mhlawumbe uzozibuza ukuthi kungani owesifazane kufanele athole imali ngokuhlala esinqumweni. Yiqiniso, kuhle uma umyeni wakho ethola okwanele ukwanelisa zonke izidingo zakho nomndeni wakho, kodwa uma uthola ukuphelelwa isikhathi, khona-ke kuyobe kululeka ukuthola imali ngisho nezimonyo zakho.
Futhi lapha ungadlala indiza yefantasti yakho ... Ungakwazi ukuhlanganiswa - uhlangane ukuze uhlele, ungabhala izici noma ukuhumusha imibhalo - khangisa futhi ubuke amakhasimende, ungathola "umsebenzi" njengommemezeli ekukhangiseni kwenethiwekhi futhi usakaze izimonyo phakathi kwamamama ontanga yakho, ekugcineni, ungathola ngisho nemali engenayo kwi-Intanethi. Konke kusezandleni zakho!
4. Ikhefu lokubeletha linikeza ithuba lokuphila ngokuvumelana nesimiso somuntu siqu kumntanakho nomntanakho, hhayi ngokusho komhleli womqashi.
Ngami, ukuhlelwa okunjalo kulula kakhulu kunokukhuphuka ezinyangeni eziyisithupha, akucaci ukuthi uhlala isikhathi eside kangakanani uhlale ehhovisi ukwenza umsebenzi ojwayelekile. Angiphiki ukuthi isimiso somama nengane encane kakhulu, kodwa lokhu kuyimiso yakho siqu, futhi akusiyo ihlelwe ngumuntu ongenhla.
Omunye uzosho ukuthi lokhu akuyona into engokoqobo, ukuthi ingane ithatha sonke isikhathi samahhala, amahora angu-24 ngosuku, ukuthi asikho isikhathi sokuphumula, ingasaphathwa ngokunye. Kodwa konke kusezandleni zakho! Uma ufuna, ungahlala uthola into okuthi, kubonakala sengathi ayikho, futhi nesikhathi.
Ukunakekela indodakazi yami, ngiye ngazizwa nginingi, ngafunda okuningi. Ikhefu elihloniphekile kimi kwakungeyona isizathu sokucindezeleka kanye ne-samopostva, lesi yisikhathi esihle sokuzibonela njengowesifazane, isikhathi lapho kungadingeki ubuze umphathi, kodwa ingane yakho ethandekayo futhi ethandekayo kuphela. Lesi sikhathi asikwazi ukubuyiselwa, singasetshenziswa kuphela ngenzuzo enkulu.
Futhi uma ngokushesha noma kamuva ufuna ukushintsha uhlobo lomsebenzi - iya kumyalelo. Lesi yisikhathi sokuphinda ucabangisise ngokuphila, ufunde okuningi, futhi esikhathini esizayo - ukuhambisana nezikhathi ezingezona ezimbili zakho, kodwa okungenani emilenzeni nasemilenzeni emine. Ngendlela enhle!