Izindlela zomphakathi nazo ziphazamisa. Ezintabeni eziningi uVasilissa unesiqalo esithi "Ubuhle". Futhi ukuze ube yiqhawe elibaluleke kunazo zonke, eliphumelele kakhulu lezinganekwane, indoda ayidingi ukuba ibe yinhle noma ihlakaniphile. U-Ivan the Fool uvame ukuthatha ngokuzikhethela kwakhe kanye nekhono lokubona umhlaba hhayi njengabalingiswa bakhe abafundisiwe noma abahlakaniphile bokulandisa.
Ekuphileni okuvamile, konke kuyafana. Amatheksthi abonisa kuphela lokho okuyiqiniso. Kuyinto evamile ukuba ucabange ukuthi indoda enhle iyisimani, ukuthi uyisidumbu esingakwazi ukuzwa imizwa ehlala njalo. Ukubukeka komuntu, njengoba bethi, kufanele kube mnandi kakhulu kunemonkey. Futhi kubesifazane abahle, imibono yomphakathi ibonisa izimfanelo eziningi nezifanele. Lo mthetho ongaguquguquki ukhiqiza ibhizinisi lamamagazini amaningi adidayo afundisa amantombazane nabesifazane ukuba babe amahle.
Noma kunjalo, amadoda amahle ngentombazane angase afiseke kakhulu futhi adume. Ubuningi ngokuvamile ludlala indima ebalulekile ezigabeni zokuqala zobudlelwane. Yindlela yokuqeda ukuzwelana, okuvusa indoda nowesifazane ukuba baxhumane.
Ngokuqinisekile, ngamunye wamadoda okungenani wayesezibuza ukuthi ukubonakala komuntu kubalulekile yini intombazane? Ayikho impendulo yonke futhi ayikwazi. Ngokuvamile, abantu babheka ukuthi labo bantu, abaqala, basondelene nabo ngokuqondene nobuhlanga nobuzwe. Futhi okwesibili, sicabangela labo bantu abafana nabantu abavela kumbuthano wethu oseduze kakhulu. Izazi zengqondo ziye zafakazela ukuthi kunezici ezimbili kuphela zokubonakala komuntu ezikhona emazweni ahlukahlukene njengendlela yokuhleka: ukuphakama kokukhula kanye nobukhulu besisindo. Zonke ezinye izici zizodwa, noma ziyahlukahluka ngamazwe, ukusuka edolobheni kuya edolobheni.
Izinhloso zomhlaba ezinhle zobuhle kuwo wonke umphakathi, noma kunjalo, zikhona. Akuwona lutho ukuthi kukhona inkulumo ethi "uyabonwa kahle." Yiqiniso, ngokuvamile kuvunyelwe inkulumo ethi "ekilasini lonke" noma "kuwo wonke umuzi". Okusho ukuthi, indoda enhle ibonakala ihle kakhulu kwabaningi abamele indawo abahlala kuyo. Futhi abantu abanjalo abathandekayo bayakujabulela ukuthandwa ngokwengeziwe nobulili obuhlukile. Kuyacaca ukuthi esimweni esinjalo umbuzo wokuthi ukubonakala kwabantu kubalulekile kumantombazane abe yizimpendulo.
Kodwa nokho kukhona umehluko omkhulu phakathi kokubona indoda enhle futhi efuna ukugxilisa ubuhlobo naye. Njengoba kwenzeka, bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane abazikhethela njengabanganikazi abathandekayo, banomkhuba ovamile - abanokuzethemba okuphakeme njalo. Abafana noma amantombazane afanayo abazithembeki, abahlushwa ukuzethemba, ezinye izinto zilingana, zizokhetha umuntu ophikisanayo ongabonakali obumnandi kakhulu.
Ukuze ububele ebuhlotsheni bube bunzulu kakhulu, ubuhle bomuntu akwanele kumadoda noma besifazane. Futhi abesifazane ikakhulukazi. Amadoda angakwazi ukubekezelela umuntu omuhle kodwa ongenalutho olandelayo isikhathi eside. Kodwa abesifazane basheshe bahlukane nobudlelwane nabasilisa abangenalutho.
Emva kokuthokoza kokuqala kokuqala kobudlelwane, isikhathi sifike lapho ukubukeka kudlulela ngemuva. Izithakazelo ezivamile, isimo sengqondo jikelele ngokubhekwa kwezimo ezihlukahlukene zokuphila siya phambili. Okubalulekile kulesi sigaba kungumlando ojwayelekile womzwelo womuntu. Lesi akusona isiteji lapho ungabonisa ubuhlungu bomlingani, ukunganakwa noma ukucindezeleka. Ukumomotheka, ukukhathazeka nokufudumala koxhumana naye esigabeni sokuguquka kusuka ekuzweleni ukukhanga okuba yinto ebalulekile yobuhlobo obuphumelelayo. Ngalesi sigaba ukubonakala kwalowo muntu kusadlala indima yintombazane, nakuba kungenayo eyisihluthulelo. Ngakho-ke akudingekile kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zeveliveli ukubonisana ngezambatho zasekhaya nasezihlotshisiwe, ngesimo sengqondo esidabukisayo noma esidakiwe.
Abanye ochwepheshe ebuhlotsheni bomndeni bahlukanisa izigaba ezine zothando - ukuzwelana, ukukhangwa noma ukukhangwa, uthando, uthando. Ngokuvamile, ukubukeka kwentombazane kubalulekile kuphela ezinyathelweni ezimbili zokuqala. Futhi-ke ngisho nabathandi abakhulu bama-muzzle amahle bangase bazizwe bezwa imizwa yabo ngesoka labo, ngisho noma engekho omuhle kakhulu, ngoba izigaba zokuqala zokunakekelwa sezidlulile kakade.
Ingabe kukhona isithombe esikhethekile sobuntu bentombazane, esibalulekile ebuhleni bomuntu? Ngokusobala isithombe esinjalo sinzima ukubona. Njengoba sekushiwo kakade, intombazane kufanele ibe nokuzihlonipha okuphakeme njalo. Esinye isici esibalulekile singase sibe isifiso sokubonakala sihle kunabanye kunalokho. Lesi sifiso singabesifazane abaningi. Izazi zengqondo ziyazi ukuthi ngisho nentombazane enhle kunazo zonke eduze komuntu omuhle ibukeka njengendlovukazi yebhola. Ekuqaleni abantu bayamangala ngokuzikhethela kwakhe, bese ucabanga ukuthi njengoba ewukhethile, kufanelekile. Ngakho ukukhetha indoda enhle njengomlingani kuyinhloko enkulu yenhlalakahle yomuntu owesifazane. Emva kwakho konke, khona-ke yena ubonakala sengathi abanye bakhangayo kakhulu.