Imicimbi eminingi kakhulu eyenziwa empilweni yethu ithathwa ngumuntu ngamunye ngezindlela ezahlukene. Omunye ucabanga ukuthi inhlanhla nokuthola umphumela oyifunayo kuwumphumela wokusebenza njalo nokusebenza kanzima, futhi amacala amabi nezifo ziwumphumela wokuziphatha okungalungile futhi akuyona indlela yokuphila enempilo. Abanye babona emcimbini ngamunye umunwe wesiphetho noma okungenani uphawu oluthile.
Omunye ngaphandle kokungabaza uthola konke okumnika impilo, kanti omunye ufunda izimpawu azungeze futhi alindele isenzakalo esibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakhe, engaqapheli ukuthi uyadlula, futhi yonke into enhle eyenzeka kuye kuyisimangaliso esikhulu. Kholwa noma ungakholelwa ezithombeni kanye nezinkomba zekusasa ukukhetha komuntu wonke. Into esemqoka ukulinganisela, ngisho nasenkholweni enjalo. Kunezimo ezinjalo ezishushisa abantu kusukela ebuntwaneni kakhulu, aziqapheli ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngokuvamile uzikhumbula emva kwesikhathi, uma konke sekuvele kwenzekile, kodwa kukhona futhi akukho lutho, njengokuthi, noma kunjalo, ukuhlala kuso.
Ngiyakholwa-angikholwa
Ukukholelwa okuthile, kuhlanganise nokuphila kwakho, okulungiselelwe ngokukhamba kwesikhathi, udinga ukuba nencazelo efanelekile. Akunjalo neze. Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukuba ungakhohlwa ukuthi yini ongayithola isibonakaliso sekusasa, eqinisweni, yingozi engenzeka. Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuthi kumele kube khona ukulingana kwamandla eMphakathini futhi uma kuphulwa, kumele kuvuselelwe ngokuphuthumayo. Ukuze umuntu aqonde lokhu, i-Universe ngokwayo imthumela izimpawu ezikhethekile. Umuntu ubabona, uyakholelwa, futhi ulandela imiyalo, ukuguqula izimpilo zabo nokubuyisela ibhalansi yamandla edingekayo emhlabeni. Uma uzibona wena nomuntu okholelwa ekugcineni, ekulungiselelwe konke, kanye nasezibonakalweni zesikhathi esizayo, khona-ke into eyinhloko kufanele ube nekhono lokubona isibonakaliso sakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho sekuvele kulula - ulandela nje zonke izibonakaliso, ngaleyo ndlela ushintsha impilo yami.
Uma ungathandi lokhu futhi ungalokothi uzame ukubona futhi uqaphele izimpawu zokuphela, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi ungumuntu wezinto ezibonakalayo okholwa kuphela amandla akhe kanye nekhono lokushintsha ikusasa lakhe ngokuzimela. Akukubi nakancane, mhlawumbe ngisho nokuphindwe kayinkulungwane ukukhetha konke wena futhi ngaphandle kokubuka emuva, ukudala impilo yakho ne-zhuruki yakho, kunokuba ulinde uphawu olungenakuqondakala lutho kusuka kunoma iyiphi indawo. Abantu abanjalo, ngokungaqondakali, kulula ukuhlala kuwo, kepha ngezinye izikhathi ufuna ukumomotheka, futhi ukumomotheka, ngokuvamile, kufihla izibonakaliso zesikhathi esizayo. Ngicabanga ukuthi ukhetho oluhle kakhulu ukubona zonke izibonakaliso, kodwa ukuzilandela noma ukuzixazulula zodwa, hhayi ukuthembela ekupheleni kwento yonke, u-witfanatichnost ezindabeni ezinjalo akukaze kuholele kunoma yini enhle.
Kungenzeka noma kwenzeka
Abantu abaningi, bengakholelwa ezibonakalweni, bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu noma lo mcimbi nje kungumphumela noma ukuhlanganiswa kwezimo. Kodwa uma izenzakalo ezinjalo ziphindaphinda empilweni yakho kungeke kube khona, ngakho-ke akufanele uthathe njengengozi, cishe, indawo yonke ifuna ukukufinyelela noma ukuletha okuthile. Kunezikhathi ezithile ekuphileni esizicabangayo kakade lezo zenzakalo ezifezekile okufanele ziqashwe, kodwa ekugcineni kubonakala ukuthi lokhu kwakuyisixwayiso mayelana nengozi ebaluleke kakhulu.
Ngokwesibonelo, empilweni yami kwakukhona icala lapho isela lizama ukungena endlini yethu, kodwa ngandlela-thile ngamesaba futhi wabaleka, engathathi lutho. Sonke sasicabanga ukuthi sasigweme ngokuyisimangaliso ukuphanga, siqinisekisile inqaba futhi sikhohlwe ngalesi simo. Kodwa kudlula isikhathi esithile futhi i-dacha yethu yaphangwa. Kwakungosuku olufanayo egcekeni ukuthi kwakungekho ngisho nenja yethu, esiyinike abangani bethu ngesikhathi sokuzingela. Kuvela ukuthi umzamo wokuqala wokuphanga wawuhlobo oluthile lwezixwayiso ezivela phezulu mayelana nokuthi kwenzekani ngokulandelayo. Yilezi zibonakaliso zekusasa okulula ukuhlukanisa nokuqaphela.
Kungenzeka ukuthi empilweni yomuntu ngamunye kuneziqu ezinjalo, ukuhlukanisa nokuqaphela ngokushesha, okuyinto enzima kakhulu. Sekudlule isikhathi esithile, siphenduka emuva, siyaqonda ukuthi lokhu noma lo mcimbi kwakuyisimangaliso empilweni yethu, kodwa-ke sidlula ngaphandle kokuqaphela futhi singaqondi ukuthi i-Universe izama ukusitshela yini. Ngokuvamile ukufana okunjalo noma ukusayina imicimbi indlela yokwazi?) kwenzeke ekupheleni kwabantu ababili abanothando abafakwe amafayili. Isibonelo, abantu bahlangane, bathandana omunye nomunye, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, izindlela zabo zokuphila zahlukana. Ngemuva kweminyaka embalwa bahlangane futhi manje abakulungele ukuvumela umngane ukuba ahambe kuze kube phakade. Manje bayaqiniseka ukuthi badalwe omunye komunye nomhlangano wabo wokuqala, njengeyesibili, akubanga ngengozi.
Iyiphi indawo ekuphileni kwethu okufanele ithathe izibonakaliso zesikhathi esizayo?
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi wonke umuntu uqonde ukuthi izimpawu ezinjalo zingabikho ngesikhathi esifanayo, futhi zakhiwe, umuntu okholelwa kuwo angamane avume izenzakalo ezijwayelekile kanye nezibopho zesibonakaliso sekusasa. Uma ungagxili iqiniso lokuthi lokhu noma lowo mcimbi empilweni yethu ukhuluma ngento ethile noma ukhomba endleleni elungile kakhulu, khona-ke uyakwazi ukuhlukanisa kalula lokho okushiwo yiqiniso. Kukhona empilweni yokuwa njalo kwezinombolo, izinsuku zokuzalwa, amagama, amacala okubuyela endaweni eyodwa, endaweni eyodwa. Ngokuvamile, ubuningi bezimangalo noma izingozi ... uyazi? Qaphela lo muntu ngokuvamile uqala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uma uqhathanisa zonke izenzakalo ndawonye futhi ulethe umugqa othile.
Izazi zengqondo ziqinisekisa ukuthi ngokuyinhloko abantu abakholelwa ngobuqotho ekusengeni kanye nezibonakaliso zabo basabe kakhulu ukuzimela empilweni. Abafuni ukwenza izinqumo ezibalulekile nezomsebenzi ezizoba nomthelela omkhulu empilweni yabo, ngakho-ke zama ukugxila ezibonisweni ezinjalo. Lokhu kubonisa ukungavikeleki kwangaphakathi, ngokungafuni ukushiya isithombe esithi "Ngingumntwana", ngisho nangumuntu omdala. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi umuntu omdala agijime nxazonke ngamehlo avulekile futhi aqale azungeze izibonakaliso zesikhathi esizayo futhi aziveze. Akekho oshiwo ukuthi akekho ongakholelwa ezimweni ezinhle, imihlangano engalindelekile nabajwayelene nabo abangahlelelwe, kudingeka nje siqondiswe isimiso esithi: "Noma yini eyenzekayo, konke kuhamba phambili."