Ukuphuza ngokweqile kwezingane esikhathini sethu, ngeshwa, sekuyinkinga evamile, okuyinto odokotela abakhuluma ngazo. Ukukhuluma ngodakwa ngokweqile kungaba uma izimpawu zokudakwa ngokweqile zingabonakali ngaphambi kokuba ingane ifike emdala. Ukuphuza utshwala kubantwana kubhekisela ezinkingeni ezinzima kakhulu.
Ngesikhathi sokuqala ochwepheshe bakhuluma ngale nkinga eRussia ngawo-1990. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, le nkinga yomphakathi iyaqhubeka: ngokusho kwedatha, intsha yabantwana kanye nabantwana abavame ukuphuza utshwala sekuphindwe kathathu eminyakeni eyishumi edlule. Ku-narcologists, ngokunikeza usizo oludingekile izingane ezineminyaka engu-12, 14 no-15 ekutholeni ukuphuza ngokweqile kwezingane. Abanye abasha ekudakwa ngokweqile babehola njalo ubhiya. Ukulwa nokulutha kwezidakamizwa, "inyoka eluhlaza" yabuyela ezindiza zokugcina futhi ikhohliwe. Futhi ngenxa yezisulu zalo kukhona amantombazane nabafana.
Labo bantu abamemezela ukuphuza utshwala banganconywa, njengoba kuvela, ukudayiswa kwe-cocktails kanye nebhiya sekukhule kakhulu futhi kuqhubeka ukukhula, kanti umthengi oyinhloko uyiselula, eneminyaka yobudala eyi-10-14. Uneminyaka enjalo lapho ingane inesifiso sokuvela ngokuvuthiwe. Kodwa into enyantisayo kakhulu ukuthi intsha eningi ayisekho "ukupholisa" ukuphuza, ngakho-ke bayabamba i-glue noma bayabhema "dope" ngokugcwele "buzz". Okufanele ukwenze nabantwana-izidakamizwa ezweni lakithi azange zinqume. Uma abantu abadala behlawuliswa, beka esikhungweni sokukhathazeka, bese kudingeke uhlelo olukhethekile kubantwana. Odokotela sebevele babhala amacala omkhuhlane omhlophe ebantwaneni. Inamba yobugebengu eyenziwa yizingane ezisencane ngenkathi idakwa ikhula njalo.
Izizathu ezibangela ekuthuthukiseni ukuxhunywa kotshwala kubantu abasha empeleni kuningi:
- Ukuzalwa nokuthola ingane emndenini wezidakayo (ikakhulukazi).
- Isikhathi sokwakheka kwengane njengomuntu. Ukuphuza utshwala phakathi nalesi sikhathi kunendima yokubhekana nezinkinga ezihlukahlukene nokuziqinisa esikoleni nasemndenini.
- Muva nje, imbangela yokuthuthukiswa kokudakwa kotshwala kubantu abasha kuyi-TV kanye nabezindaba. Ukukhangisa iziqeshana ezikhuthaza ubhiya, kwasiza ukuphakamisa izinqatshelwe ekuphuzeni izingane eziphuzayo, okuholela ekuluthweni okusheshayo nasekuthuthukiseni ukuxhomeka kobhiya.
Ukudakwa ngokweqile kwezingane, ngokungafani nomuntu omdala, kunezici ezithile ezihlukile:
- Ngenxa yesakhiwo somzimba nesimzimba somzimba wengane, ngokushesha bajwayele utshwala.
- Inkinga engafanele yesifo. Ingane yomntwana isesiteji sokwakheka, ngakho-ke ukuzinza kwe-psyche central ukususa utshwala kunciphisa, ngenxa yalokho kunezinqubo eziyisisekelo zokubhujiswa okungenakubuyela emuva.
- Ukusetshenziswa kweziphuzo ezishisayo emalini amakhulu. Lokhu kwenzeka ngoba abantu abadala abavumelani nokuphuza utshwala ngabantwana, ngakho-ke badla utshwala ngasese futhi kaningi umthamo wonke ngesikhathi esisodwa futhi ngaphandle kokudla okulula.
- Ukwelashwa okuphansi okuphansi.
- Ukuphuza utshwala ngokushesha. Kulokhu, ukuphuza utshwala nganoma isiphi isizathu kubantu abasha kuba yisimiso, ngaphezu kwalokho, esimweni sokudakwa ngokweqile, ngoba esimweni sokunxila okulula, abantu abasha bazizwa bengalondekile.
Ukuze uphulukise utshwala lwezingane, ngeshwa, kunzima kunalokho. Kunzima ngenxa yokuthi ubuntu bomntwana akakaze bwakhiwe futhi kube nezizathu ezibalulekile ezizosiza ekwelapheni, ingane ayikho. Ukwelashwa kwezingane ezidakwa ngokweqile kwenziwa esibhedlela esikhethekile (izingane ezihlukunyezwa izidakamizwa ziphathwa ngokwahlukana nabantu abadakwa kakhulu). Ukufezekisa umphumela oyifunayo, imvume yabazali bobabili iyadingeka, uma kungekho babazali, khona-ke imvume yabalondolozi. Abasebenzi begumbi labantwana labamalungu omthetho bahileleka ngezikhathi ezithile.
Njengoba kunenkinga enjengokudakwa ngokweqile kwezingane kufanele kulwa manje, ngoba ukuphuza ngokweqile kwezingane akukwazi ukushayela ikusasa. Futhi kungcono ukunikeza ukuphuza utshwala kwezingane kubachwepheshe bese kungenzeka ukuthi ukwazi ukubhekana nale nkinga.