Izingxabano zomndeni nezindlela zokuzinqoba - isihloko esihambisana nesikhathi sethu, lapho amasiko omndeni ebuyekezwa, ahlaziywa kabusha, isikhungo somndeni sishintsha ngokoqobo phambi kwamehlo ethu.
Kungani izingxabano zivela emndenini obonakala unobungane, onothando? Kungaba nezizathu eziningi. Isibonelo:
• Omunye walabo abashadile abanakwa (ukunothando, uthando)
Isimo sezindlu esiyinkimbinkimbi sithinta uma kudingeka ukuhlukanisa indlu kanye nabazali bomlingani noma oshade naye
• Abalingani banemiqondo ehlukene ezindabeni ezifana nokuzilibazisa, ukwehlukaniswa komsebenzi wasekhaya, ukukhuliswa kwezingane
• Omunye noma bobabili bomshado bathola ukwaneliseka ngokwanele ebuhlotsheni bobulili
Bhala izizathu zingaba isikhathi eside. Kodwa-ke, akusona izizathu zokuvela kwempi yomndeni ebaluleke kakhulu, kodwa izindlela zokuzinqoba. Izazi zengqondo zinikeza amathiphu amaningana ngendlela yokwakha ubudlelwane futhi ungavumeli ukungqubuzana komndeni omncane ukuba kukhule kube yinto ebi kakhulu.
Xoxa ngenkinga eyodwa kuphela.
Ake sithi kukhona ukungqubuzana ngoba umyeni wakho uchitha isikhathi esiningi nabangani bakhe, hhayi nawe. Uma kunjalo, cocisana naye kuphela le nkinga. Ungazami ukukhumbula ezinye izono zomlingani wakho. Lokhu akusebenzi ngqo empini yakho yamanje. Ezinye izinkinga ongaxoxa ngazo kamuva. Okokuqala, vumelanani ngendaba enkulu.
Ungayi kumuntu.
Uma umholo womlingani wakho usuphelile, cishe akunakwenzeka ukuthi ubhiya wakhe waba yisisusa salokhu. Ungamthuki umlingani wakho, akuholeli ekuxazululeni izingxabano. Ngokuphambene nalokho, esimweni esinjalo umlingani wakho uzozama ukuzivikela futhi angase aqale ekuthuka ngokubuyisela. Ngenxa yalokho, ukungqubuzana kuyoholela ekuhlaselweni okubi nokuthuka okukodwa. Futhi inkinga enkulu izohlala ingaguquki.
Ungavumeli abantu besithathu ukuba bangqubuzana emndenini.
Ungaphazamisi empini yakho, othile kusuka ezihlotsheni noma abangane. Uma ephikisana nawe uzama ukulimaza umuntu osuka emndenini wakho noma abangane, ngokuqinisekile uzosukumela ukuvikela kwabo. Ngakho-ke, inkulumo ethi "Yebo, angikwazi ukupheka njengomama wakho oyigugu" ngeke iholele emthonjeni omuhle wenkinga.
Ungazifaki.
Ake sithi umyeni wakho ohlale ezwa ngokungazelelwe wayekhohlwe ngukuzalwa kwakhe kamkhwekazi othandekayo. Ungayithuki izwi: "Awusoze wakhumbula noma yini." Kuyoba okungalungile, ikakhulukazi uma ngokuvamile kukukhumbuza zonke izinsuku ezibalulekile. Isizathu sokukhohlwa kwakhe okungalindelekile kungaba, isibonelo, umsebenzi okhuni emsebenzini.
Ungaqala ukuxabana kusihlwa.
Izibalo zibonisa ukuthi ingxenye yengonyama yezingxabano zomndeni iwela ngesikhathi sokuhlwa kosuku. Akumangazi: ukukhathala, ukucasuka kuqoqa, inhlanyelo eyodwa yanele ukudala ingxabano. Uma uzizwa usephuzile ebusuku ukuthi ufuna ngempela ukutshela oshade naye izikhalazo ezimbalwa, kungcono uzigcine ngokwakho, ubeke ingxoxo ekuseni. Mhlawumbe ekuseni inkinga izobonakala sengathi awunzima kakhulu, noma uzothola indlela efanelekile yokunqoba le mpikiswano.
Yazi ukuthi ungavuma kanjani icala lakho.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi ukuqonda ngesikhathi lapho ungalungile empikiswaneni. Uma ungenayo amandla okwanele ukuvuma ngokushesha ukuthi awulungile, khona-ke zama ukuyeka ukungqubuzana okungenani ngesikhathi. Lokhu akulona kunzima ukukwenza, ngezinye izikhathi kwanele ukuvala noma ukungena kwelinye igumbi.
Futhi elinye iphuzu elilodwa. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuxabana nomlingani wakho, cabanga ngakho, kodwa yini ofuna ukuyifinyelela ngempela? Kukhona abantu abayingqayizivele abakwazi ukusebenzisa noma yikuphi ukuphikisana ukuxazulula izimo zabo. Kunoma yikuphi ukungqubuzana, kukhona kokubili izinhlangothi ezimbi nezinhle. Ngemuva kokuphikisana, abantu abanothando bangaba nombono ovamile ngenkinga ejabulisayo, esikhathini esizayo le ndaba ngeke iphazamise.
Cabanga, uzophila ngokuthula ngemva kokuxabana? Bese uzivimbela ngokwakho, ungalahleli zonke izikhalazo zakho kanye nokuhlambalaza, ungahlambalazi, ungalimazi isithunzi somlingani wakho. Gxila ekuxazululeni inkinga ethile. Gcina isimo sengqondo esithulile nesimo esihle. Ukwenza lokhu, kunjalo, kunzima lapho umphefumulo ugcwele ukuthukuthela nje. Kodwa ube nezimo ezifanayo uma usunqoba ngempumelelo impikiswano, bese ukhumbule ngakho ngokumomotheka futhi ucabange: "Ungabambana kanjani ngenxa yobuwula obunjalo!". Mhlawumbe le mpikiswano ayifanele imizwelo enjalo?
UKsenia Ivanova , ikakhulukazi indawo