Isibonelo, umbhangqwana oshadile oye wahlala iminyaka eminingi emshadweni futhi izingane ezindala zivele ziphelelwe amandla ebuhlotsheni futhi abashadile banomqondo wokuthi okuthile kudinga ukuguqulwa. Ngokuvamile ezimweni ezinjalo, ukuzithokozisa okusha kubonakala, konke kuxhomeke kumuntu ngokwakhe, noma lo mbhangqwana uphazamisa, noma bahlala ndawonye. Kule ndaba abanye babheka ngokuthembeka, nakuba kungabikho kokubili abashadile lesi simo samukelekile. Ingxenye eyinkimbinkimbi kunabesifazane. Njengoba uphinde ulawule impilo yakhe siqu kuyinkinga enkulu. Nakuba, uma kukhona amadoda kulezi zimo, bangase balahlekelwe ukuzethemba, ngoba, njengoba nazi, amadoda ngokuvamile abhekana nenkinga yokuphila komphakathi, futhi uma engenawo umngane ohloniphekile, angaba umlutha owedlula utshwala.
Manje cabangela le nkinga ngakolunye uhlangothi: "Enhlekeleleni yomunye umuntu, ngeke wenze injabulo". Inani elikhulu labesifazane abanjengobayeni abaye baphila empilweni, kungani "bekhula" ngokwayo, uma ungakwazi 'ukuthatha' ukulungele? Futhi bakhetha ukuhlala nendoda eshadile. Ngokuvamile abantu, ngokwemvelo kakade banomndeni wabo, okungukuthi, njengoba bekusho, bonke abantu abalungile bavame ukusetshenziswa. Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi ekuqaleni kokushada komshado obhekene nezinkinga ezithile zezezimali, ikakhulukazi uma behlele izingane zisencane. Futhi ngokufanele, ukuze "wenze" ingcebo ethile ihamba isikhathi esiningi, kahle, imizwa, yebo! Futhi phakathi nalesi sikhathi ubuntu bomuntu bukhula, ngoba noma yimuphi owesifazane uzama ukuveza izimfanelo ezinhle kuye futhi enze lokho okubizwa ngokuthi "indoda ekahle", ngokwemvelo ngokwakhe!
Amantombazane amancane asebevele ewaxosha amadoda acebile ayoba nzima kakhulu ukuphinde afundise futhi aphile nendoda eshadile nayo ayilula, ngaleso sikhathi asevele enezinhlamvu zakhe kanye nemikhuba engakwazi ukuhambisana nayo njalo. Ngakho-ke kungenzeka kanjani ukuba usesimweni esinjalo, intombazane ingahlala kanjani nendoda eshadile? Ngemuva kwalokho, uma usuvele unqume ukucasula umndeni wakho, khona-ke uthola kuphi ukuqiniseka ukuthi esikhathini sakho okufanayo ngeke kwenzeke kuwe? Nakuba abantu abaningi bengacabangi ngalokhu futhi baphila ngesimiso esithi: "Lowo ongaphephile, akaphuzi i-champagne." Nakuba ukuphila kungathatha ukuphenduka okungalindelekile. Lapha, isibonelo, umbhangqwana osemusha owaqala ukuphola esemncane. "Ngokusobala" banomntwana ongekho kuhlelwe, empeleni, ezimweni ezinjalo, kuvame ukuphela ngomshado, naphezu kokuthi umbhangqwana awungakulungeli ukuphila komndeni nokuphila okuvamile. Umphumela walokho, yiqiniso, kukhona ukuhlubuka. Uma umuntu eqala ukushintsha, abesifazane base bevala amehlo, bezama ukusindisa, okuthiwa "umndeni" noma lokho okusele kuwo, njengoba beqonda ngokuphelele ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ingane ukuba iqale ubuhlobo obusha.
Futhi kuleso simo ukuthi yonke into ihlala njalo. Kulokhu, inkosikazi kuzodingeka iwaneliswe yizo zonke izinto ngaphandle kokubaluleke kakhulu: "isitembu epasipoti", futhi mhlawumbe uhlala nomuntu oshadile uyobe ebekezelelwe. Kodwa akuwona wonke umuntu okubalulekile. Njengoba engazibekeli umgomo wokushada. Kwanele kuye ukuthi le ndoda inikeza ngemali, akazami ngisho nokuqeda umndeni, ngoba kuye kuyisinyathelo esisodwa kuphela endleleni yokuphila, futhi uma ethanda, angashada nomuntu omthandayo ngempela, kungakhathaliseki ukuchuma kwakhe. Namuhla zivame kakhulu futhi zithola iziphetho, empeleni, wena ngokwakho!