Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Abantu abaningi kulula kakhulu ukwenza okuthile esikhundleni somuntu, kunokuba bachaze ukuthi kungani bengenakukwenza lokhu, ngisho nokuzilimaza ngokwabo. Ukungakwazi ukuphika kubalulekile kubantu abathobekile, abanomusa nabanqikaza, abanokuzethemba okuphansi. Bahlushwa "ngokwehluleka" kwabo, kodwa abaqapheli ukuphikisana "nezikhalazo" eziqhubekayo ngenxa yokwesaba ukubacasula ngokungazi. Ukuziqhenya, kodwa abesifazane abaningi abakwazi ukwenqaba "umuntu onjalo omuhle" baholela kumqhele nendoda engathandeki. Sonke sifuna ukubukeka kangcono emehlweni abanye kunalokho esiyikho ngempela. Kodwa abanye ngesifiso salowo muntu ukuba abe mnandi kubo bonke baya kuze bakhohlwe ukuthi bangubani ngempela. Balahlekelwa "I" yabo. Futhi ekutholeni udumo lomuntu onokwethenjelwa nomusa, onokuthi "ugibele", futhi ngokungaziphenduleli ngokuphelele, ubhekana nalesi simo, kodwa ngeke ashintshe noma yini. Njengomthetho, "ukungaphumeleli" yibo "abangazange bathande" njengengane. Abazali abaqinile kakhulu noma ukungabi nokuphila kwengane kuyamlimaza ukuthi uzozama ukuthola uthando lwakhe konke ukuphila kwakhe, okufaka phakathi nakanjani ukufeza izicelo nezifiso zabanye abantu.
Kuthiwani uma abantu basebenzisa umusa wakho ukuze ujwayelane? Izibalo zithi abantu abaningi abalungile abakwazi ukwenqaba isicelo kumphathi wabo, indoda enhle nabasebenza nabo emsebenzini. Yebo, kunomqashi konke okucacile - kubiza kakhulu! Ngomuntu oyithandayo - naye (ngokuzumayo uyakwazisa hhayi kuphela ikhono lokusebenzisa amaphutha okukopisha futhi alungile wegrama, kodwa ubuhle bakho buzobona). Ozakwethu futhi abafuni ukucasula - ngokuzumayo ngolunye usuku usizo lwabo luzodingeka, futhi ngeke lukhulu ukufika nokubuza. Nakuba, ngokwezibalo zengqondo, abantu abalungile abangenqabe muntu, ngokwabo, ngokwemithetho, bavame ukufuna usizo, bekhetha ukubhekana nabo. Ukuhluleka ukusho ukuthi "cha" kungaholela ekuhlangenwe nakho okubucayi komuntu siqu, kodwa, ngokungavamile, ukungqubuzana emsebenzini nasemndenini. Ukuphazanyiswa njalo yizicelo zabanye, ungakwazi kalula ukubeka phansi ingxenye yakho yomsebenzi futhi ubangele ukucasuka kweziphathimandla nokungazitholi kwabasebenzi. Ukwesaba ukwenqaba umuntu kungalimaza wena kuphela, kodwa futhi naye: ukuziphatha kwakho okuhle, uzokwethula iphutha elimnandi kuye, indlela yokuphuma ayijabulisi. Ikhono lokuthi "cha" liwuphawu lomuntu ovuthiwe. Futhi uze ufunde ukwenqaba (Yebo, ngesimo esithambile futhi mhlawumbe ngencazelo yezizathu zokwenqaba), ngeke ukwazi ukuhlukumeza umuzwa wokungahambi kahle. Kodwa-ke, futhi uzizwe njengomuntu ovuthiwe futhi obanjwe.
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Esikhathini esilandelayo lapho uzizwa ukuthi "ugibele", sebenzisa izeluleko ezinjalo ezivela kwengqondo. Buza ukuthi kungani kufanele ube nguwe. Uma incazelo yomfakisicelo ibonakala sengathi inganqamuki, ungesabi ukwenqaba noma ukuncoma umuntu ongayifeza isicelo. Impendulo yakho kufanele ibe yifushane, ngaphandle kokungeniswa okude nezincazelo ngezizathu zokwenqaba. Uma uthola ukuthi kuyadingeka, ungachaza isizathu sokwenqaba. Kodwa ukuchaza, hhayi ukulungisa futhi ungaxolisi kulokhu.