Izinkolelo ezungeze isizungu besifazane

Abesifazane, abangenakukwazi ukuhlela izimpilo zabo ngezizathu ezithile futhi baphoqeleka ukuba baphile impilo yodwa, akuyona into encane kakhulu. Umphakathi wawungekho ubuwula kakhulu ukuqonda izimbangela zalesi simo futhi wazama nokuyichaza. Kodwa ngokuvamile zonke izinguqulo ezithuthukisa empeleni ziyizici ezingenangqondo nezindlovu ezingezona iqiniso. Ake sizame (ngosizo lwabacwaningqondo bezengqondo) ukuxosha imibono engavamile kakhulu mayelana nesizungu sabesifazane. Inganekwane eyodwa: abesifazane baphoqeleka ukuba baphile bodwa ngenxa yokubukeka kwabo okungajabulisi
Ekuboneni kokuqala, konke kuyabonakala: uma imvelo "iqhubekile" ngokubukeka kwendodakazikazi, noma ingamvumeli ukuba aqonde ubuhle bayo, amfihle ngaphansi kwesigqoko sokugqoka esingenasiphelo, amathuba okujabulisa abantu abesilisa obuhlukile athambekele ekudleni.

Ngokusho kochwepheshe, iqiniso kulezi zitatimende likhona. Noma kunjalo, ukubukeka akuyona into ecacisayo. Futhi isibonelo salokhu ubukhulu besifazane abagqoke kahle, abahlelekile, abaqaphele abahlala bengashadile noma abangenawo umlingani ozinzile. Ngeshwa, abazi noma bakhohlwe ukuthi amadoda awafunanga kuphela amahle, kodwa nalabo abazokhululeka nabo. Ngakho-ke, lona wesifazane onemikhuba "yezindlovukazi zeqhwa" unamathuba ambalwa kakhulu okumele alinde, okungenani kuze kube ngumhlalaphansi, isikhulu sezingane ezikwazi ukuyiqeda iqhwa lomphefumulo wakhe.

Ngokuvamile, ngokuvamile "abakwa-superwomen" abanjalo abanamakhono okuqala okukhulumisana nabobulili obuhlukile. Basebenzisa yonke imithombo yabo (kokubili ngokomzimba nezinto ezibonakalayo) ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ukubukeka kwabo kufana nesithombe esihle abazenzele zona. Ngakho-ke, ukudala ubudlelwane nomuntu abanamandla okushiya nhlobo, kodwa ukuze ube nawo, kubalulekile ukusebenza kanzima! Ezimweni eziningi, njengomngane empilweni, indoda iyokhetha intombazane enokubukeka okungaguquki, kodwa izama ukumnika lokho akufunayo, imnikeza ukufudumala nokududuza. Futhi ukuhleleka okungenakufinyeleleka okungenakufinyeleleka, mahle, kuhlala "emgodini ophukile".

Izinganekwane ezimbili: ukungabi namakhono omnotho
Kukholelwa ukuthi omunye wemisebenzi esemqoka yomama ukufundisa indodakazi yakhe ukuba ibhekane nemisebenzi yasekhaya. Ukwesabisa isizukulwane esakhulayo ngokukhula ukuthi ukungaboni kahle nokuphathwa ngendlela engafanele kungabesabisa bonke abathintekayo, abakhulukazi nomama bakhuthaze izindlalifa zabo ukuthi ikhono lokupheka, insimbi, ukugcina indlu ihlanzekile futhi ihlanzekile yisimo esibaluleke kakhulu sokubonakala kwamadoda esizayo ekugcineni kwabesifazane ekudleni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lokhu kuyindlela eyodwa yokugcina indoda eceleni kwakho.

Kodwa-ke, izazi zengqondo zithi umnotho wesifazane akuyona kuphela eyimfihlakalo yokuphila komuntu siqu. Akubona bonke abantu abafanayo. Amacala uma "umpheki ovela kuNkulunkulu" noma umnikazi wezandla ezandleni zonke upheqa ngesikebhe somndeni - imoto nenqola encane. Futhi konke ngenxa yokuthi indoda ayanele ngokwanele ukuba abe naye-inkosikazi enjalo, uyamkhathaza, ngakho-ke uyomthanda kumuntu ngaphandle kwamathalenta evelele ezomnotho, kodwa ezithakazelisayo ngezici zakhe siqu. Ngakho-ke, eduze kwekhono lokugcina indlu yakho ihlanzekile futhi ihlelekile, akukude kakhulu ukuzikhandla njalo ngokuphathelene nokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo, okumele kuqondwe hhayi kuphela ukufunda omagazini besifazane. Phela, akekho ofuna ukuphendukela kowesifazane othandekayo abe ngumgcini wendlu olula, futhi amadoda amaningi afuni ukubona ukuxilongwa okunjalo nakakhulu ....

Izinganekwane ezintathu: uhlamvu olubi
Ukuba yi-bitch kungenye indlela eholela ekubeni nesizungu. Phela, kukhona abantu abambalwa abafuna ukulwa nosuku ngalunye ngomuntu oyisiphukuphuku nesingenangqondo.

Kulungile, kodwa hhayi ngempela. Eqinisweni, ukuchaza ingoma eyaziwayo kanye, i-bitch ihluke ... Abesifazane abahlukaniswa yize, kodwa ngubani okwazi ukunakekela umlingani wabo futhi bahlangabezane nezidingo zakhe, banethuba elihle lokugcina indoda eduze kwakhe iminyaka eminingi. Kodwa-ke, uma imibono yendodakazikazi isondela kuphela ngezwe layo, futhi indoda iba yinto kuphela lapho eqinisekisa khona futhi ethola zonke izinhlobo zezinzuzo, khona-ke umuntu angacabanga ngokuphepha ukuthi ubudlelwano obunjalo buzophela maduzane.

Izinganekwane ezine: embhedeni - "ubuhle bokulala"
Abameleli abaningi bezocansi ezifanele baqiniseka ukuthi kumuntu, okokuqala, isithunzi sobulili somuntu sibalulekile. Kodwa izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi ubulili akuyona into ebalulekile ebuhlotsheni, ngakho-ke awekho amadoda amaningi kangaka. Emva kwakho konke, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuphila kobulili ngisho nemibhangqwana enganeliseki kulolu hlelo kulungiswa, abashadile bazuza ulwazi futhi bavumelane nezintandokazi zomunye nomunye.Uma umuntu ofanayo eqedile ubudlelwane kuphela ngenxa yokuthi udangele ukulala naye nomlingani wakhe, kungenzeka yini ukulindela ukuthi lo muntu ngezinto eziza kuqala ziyoba umngane ofanelekayo wokuphila?

Inganekwane emihlanu: ungathandi wena
Ngokuqinisekile abantu abaningi bayazi ukuthi, ngokuzithandela, uzokwenza abanye bazithande. Noma kunjalo, umuntu akufanele akwazi ukuthatha ngokoqobo. Yiqiniso, udinga ukuzithanda nokuzihlonipha wena, kodwa ukuwela umzila futhi ube nobugovu, okungazikhathaleli ngezidingo zabanye, kodwa akufanele, ngoba ukunamathela kulo mzila wokuziphatha kulula kakhulu ukuhlukanisa izijaji ezingenzeka. Ngemva kokuhlangana nomuntu onjalo, amadoda akhetha ukungamthintani naye, ngoba aqiniseke ukuthi owesifazane, olungiselelwe enhlalakahleni yakhe, akakwazi ukuchitha imizwa yakhe komunye umuntu.

Izinganekwane eziyisithupha: wonke amadoda afanelekile asevele ehlangene
Esinye sezizathu zokuba abesifazane abangashadile - wonke amadoda afanele isigaba "somlingani" sesivele sichithwa, futhi bonke labo abasala ngesizathu esithile abafanelekile ukugqoka lesi sihloko esiziqhenyayo ...

Yiqiniso, lokhu kuyisitatimende esingathandabuzeki, ngoba lapho wonke amadoda engashadile, ngakho kungani ukhetho lwabo lwawela kwabanye besifazane? Futhi ukuthi ungachaza kanjani ukuthi abanye besifazane abaneminyaka engama-50 ukuthola indoda akulona nzima, kodwa kumuntu oneminyaka engama-25 kuyinto engenakwenzeka ... Iseluleko sabasebenzi bezengqondo kuleli cala silula: inkinga kufanele ifunwe kuwe, hhayi kumadoda , okukuzungezile.

Uma uwedwa, ngoba bonke ubudlelwane nabesilisa emva kwesikhathi bephela lutho, ukucabangela ukuthi kungani ukuhlangana okunhle nokuhle njalo "izimbuzi" kungeke kwenzeke ukusiza. Ungadabuki nge-karma yakho embi, funda izincwadi mayelana "nomqhele wokungathembeki" nezinye izinkolo. Zama ukuthola imbangela kuwe, ushintshe okuthile kuwe, futhi mhlawumbe lokhu kuzoba ngukushintsha kokuphila kwakho komuntu siqu.