Ungakugwema kanjani ukungqubuzana phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane? Ukuze uphendule lo mbuzo udinga ukuqonda izimbangela zayo kuqala. Futhi-ke, amadoda nabesifazane bacabanga ngendlela ehluke kakhulu, banengqondo ehlukene futhi, ngokufanele, izenzo zabo.
Uma umuntu ejwayele ukucabanga futhi enze okunye, owesifazane kule ndaba unikela eminye imizwelo nemizwa. Futhi, izizathu zokungqubuzana azihloniphi komunye nomunye, ukungabaza ukusiza omunye nomunye, ukuqonda okuhlukile kwegama elithi "uthando". Ngomunye umuntu, uthando kuyisondlo sobulili, futhi kumuntu - ukusondelana okungokomoya, ubungane. Noma kunjalo kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi izingxabano eziningi zivela ngesiphambeko sabesifazane, njengoba bezama ukwenza "ukukhahlazeka" noma "ukuphindisela". Amadoda angase athole indlela eyakhayo yokuphuma kwesimo esithile.
Uma umuntu enenkinga, uqala ukucabanga kanzima ukuxazulula, uya "ngaphakathi kuye" futhi konke okuzungezile kuqhutshelwa ngemuva. Owesifazane uyaphawula lokhu bese eqala ukubheka izinkinga kuye, uqala ukucabanga ukuthi akajabuli, ukuthi ufuna ukumshiya, njll. Futhi kuthiwani? Khona-ke uzama ukuyihlola konke! Ukutholwa kuqala kuqala, ukuphenywa kanye ngqo kulezo zikhathi lapho kudingeka abe yedwa. Wenzani ukusabela kwakhe? Yiqiniso, ngeke akuthande, futhi uzokwenza konke okusemandleni akhe, aqhube impikiswano, aphikelele ukuthi uphukile futhi amshiye yedwa. Le ndoda izoxazulula zonke izindaba zayo, ukuphumula futhi futhi kuyoba ilungele ukuvumela abathandekayo bakhe empilweni yakhe ...
Yini abanye besifazane, labo abangacabangi ukuthi kuyadingeka ukubopha ikhanda lakho noma labo abazethembele nje? Baqala ukuzijwayeza, baya emasiloni ahlukene, bathenge izinto eziningi nezinto eziningi kakhulu ngenjabulo yabo. Bahamba nabangani kuzo zonke izindawo zokuzijabulisa. Abacabangi ngemiphumela, musa ukugqoka amakhanda abo ngemicabango engadingekile. Futhi lapho umuntu ekulungele ukulalela ingxenye yakhe yesibili, ubonakala phambi kwakhe ezolile, uphumule. Futhi ubonisa i-caress futhi anakekele indoda lapho eyidinga. Futhi konke kuhle kubo.
Iyini ikhambi? Ukuziphoqa bese uzama ukuthola ukuthi kwenzekani lo muntu noma "ukuhamba nokugeleza" bese ulinda kuze kube yilapho konke kunqunywa?
Udinga ukuqonda nokuthanda, ukwazi ukuqagela izikhathi lapho umuntu wakho othandekayo efuna ukuba yedwa, futhi lokhu akusho ukuthi owesifazane uyamkhathaza, cha, amadoda nje ahlelwe kanjalo, ngenye indlela athola kunzima ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo. Kuyadingeka ukuthi ube sesimweni esinzima ukuba usondele futhi uma ufuna ukukhuluma ukuze ukwazi ukulalela ngokuthula, khona-ke ingxenye yakhe yenkinga izoxazululwa, ngoba ngemuva kwengxoxo ulahlekelwa kakade ukuthi isimo sokubaluleka. Awudingi ukukhohlwa ngawe, zinikeze ukuphumula, uzibeke obala.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kukhona ezimweni eziphikisanayo, umuntu akakwazi ukuhlambalaza, zama ukucasula. Ngisho noma wazi ukuthi uqinisile, zama ukumomotheka noma kunjalo ubone ukuthi ukungezwani kuyanyamalala.
Ukuze ugweme ukungqubuzana, kubalulekile ukulalela omunye nomunye, ukuhlonipha imibono yabathandekayo babo futhi, ngokuqinisekile, bafune ukuyekethisa. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuyinto enzima kunazo zonke ebuhlotsheni, kodwa kuphela okwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obuhle ngokwakho, uma ukhetha kanjalo.