Ngemva kwesikhashana, uyaqaphela ukuthi akathinteki ekukhuliseni ingane. Uma uzibuza: "Kungani amadoda engakwazi ukukhuphula izingane zabanye abantu?", Khona-ke awukho kahle kakhulu. Amadoda, njengabesifazane, ahlukile. Indoda yindoda kumuntu, futhi lokhu, okokuqala, kufanele kufezeke. Kungani nonke nifanayo? Yebo, kunabantu abesaba izingane zabanye abantu. Besaba ukusabela komama uma "becindezela" kakhulu ingane. Uma umuntu ethanda ngobuqotho, lokhu akusho ukuthi uzothanda ingane yakho, uma nje kungesiyo inyama yakhe negazi lakhe. Mhlawumbe udinga isikhathi sokujwayela imisebenzi emisha, noma mhlawumbe uqaphele, ukuze angakucasuli.
Uma ungazi ukuthi kungani amadoda engakwazi ukufundisa izingane zabanye abantu, bheka, okungenani kumuntu ovamile. Amadoda amaningi akhulumi ngisho nokukhulisa izingane zabo, ngoba unomthwalo wemfanelo, futhi ukhulisa ingane yomunye, lo muntu unomthwalo obaluleke nakakhulu. Uma kukhona ukukhulumisana phakathi "nobaba omusha" nengane yakho kuhamba kahle, lo muntu uqala ukusola izakhi zofuzo zabanye abantu. Uma ungowesifazane ohlakaniphile, ngokuqinisekile uzothatha indawo yokungathathi hlangothi, bese uzama ukuqonda izimangalo zezinhlangothi ezimbili futhi uthole izindlela zokubuyisana.
Kukhona amadoda angakhuphula izingane zabanye abantu futhi angaboni noma yikuphi ubunzima obukhethekile kulokhu. Amadoda anjalo angamadoda omndeni omuhle kakhulu, athola ulimi oluvamile nanoma yikuphi abantwana. Imodeli yokufundisa abangaziwayo, njengeyabo, iboleka kwabaseMelika. Abahlukanisi izingane. Phakathi nemishado ephindaphindiwe, izingane zingaba zivela kumyeni nakumfazi, futhi izingane ezinjalo azibhekwa njengabafokazi, zibonakala njengamalungu agcwele omndeni.
Amanye amadoda akakwazi ukukhulisa izingane ngenxa yezinkinga zabo. Amadoda anjalo ayenenkinga ekusunguleni ubuhlobo, ehola indlela yokuphila evaliwe. Uma indoda enjalo idinga wena, vuma, ungabi umama onesizungu, ngokushesha uzoqala ukumbona "i-suitcase ngaphandle kwesiphathi." Wake wake waphupha ngomndeni onjalo?
Amadoda anamuhla, azinokwethenjelwa abheka owesifazane ukuba abe mnandi kakhulu. Amama manje ahluke kakhulu kuneminyaka eminingi edlule. Manje bayizinsikazi zebhizinisi eziqapha ngokucophelela ukubukeka kwazo, zinomthwalo wemfanelo, okwenza kube yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kumantombazane amancane. Esinye isibonakaliso esibalulekile ngumntwana onempilo, okusho ukuthi owesifazane uyakwazi ukukhiqiza inzalo enempilo, ebaluleke kakhulu ngokuphathelene nesifo esikhulayo sezingane ezingenampilo kanye nokungabi namntwana wesifazane. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, amadoda akanikanga isikhathi esengeziwe sokukhulisa izingane. Babona ukuthi ingane ingengxenye yowesifazane.
Ukukhulisa izingane ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ngenxa yobugovu bomntwana. Uma ingane iqala ukuthula ngalokho umuntu ongajwayelekile ahambele khona, khona-ke uma impilo ehlangene iqala, konke kuphendukela phansi. Lapha udlala indima enkulu ekuziphatheni komama, owathi lapho uthando lonke, ukunakekelwa nokuthandana lunikezwa kuphela kumntwana, futhi manje kusamjabulisa umalume ongaziwa. Umntanakho wesaba ngokukhululekile ukulahlekelwa yilokho asetshenzisiwe futhi aqale ukuphindiselela kumenzi wecala. Yiqiniso, akekho othanda ukuthandwa, futhi owesifazane kuyodingeka abe ngumenzi wokuthula. Kuzodingeka ukuthi achaze ingane ukuthi uyayithanda futhi ayithandi okungaphansi kwalokho. Ukuze ugweme izimo ezinjalo, ungakhohlwa ukunakekelwa kwengane.
Umuntu wesinye isizwe angeke ashintshe uyise wengane yakho, kodwa umngane omuhle angase abe.