Isixhumanisi esinjalo, njengokungabi pholile, kuletha izinyembezi nezinyembezi kumntombazane. Akekho kithi ofuna ukuba ngowesibili noma owokuqala, kufanele sibe yedwa. Futhi kungenjalo. Kodwa abaningi bethu badonsa umlenze ongakaze ube khona kulo muntu futhi asikwazi ukumelana. Ukugxila phambili kulolukhuni oluthandayo. Esimweni esinjalo, lo wesifazane ukhuthazwa ngumgomo omkhulu ngokomzwelo, ohlanganisa amaphuzu amancane, ngokusekelwe emizweni enjengothando, uthando, ngokushesha ngokuhambisana naye ngesibindi nangokuzethemba ngokuzithoba entweni yokudumisa kwakhe. Futhi, ezingeni elingenakuqhathaniswa, iqiniso lokuthi, noma kunjalo, maduzane kuyoba yimi, ngemuva kwakho konke, ufanelwe okuhle kakhulu, okungukuthi mina, kuhlaziywe. Futhi ukusho okuthile mayelana nokuthi umfana oshadile ungumfokazi, akukho ndawo, akunakwenzeka ukuthi into ezoshintsha. Uqaphele lezi zikhathi eziningi, kodwa ngezandla nezinyawo uzama ukuphonsa leli qiniso elingathandeki kude naye.
Futhi ikugcina ngendlela yakhe evamile, iqiniso lokuthi bonke abesifazane bangumzingeli-njengokwemvelo bese bebeka umgomo kubo (kule simo, umgomo uyindoda), bamane nje bayeke. Futhi bazozilimaza ngokwabo, behluleke ukuhluleka futhi. Lapha kubalulekile ukucabanga ukuthi uyayidinga ngempela, mhlawumbe kufanele ushiye konke okukhona futhi ushiye nje. Futhi ungazitholi ngokwakho, uncike ekutheni awukwazi ukukwenza. Noma ubani ufuna - uzoshiya, athole amandla futhi alahle. Ngikholelwa, ngizoyeka - lokhu akusho ukulahlekelwa lutho. Kusho nje ukushintsha impilo yakho ibe ngcono. Kunabantu abaningi abakhululekile abakuzungezile obani abazothatha isikhundla somngani wakho oshadile. Futhi uphendukela kumakhosikazi ube yiyintandokazi. Kungathatha ukuthini ukuze uzibonele ngaphakathi kwakho, ukunqoba ukungavikeleki kwakho nokuxhomeka ngokuphelele okungavamile. Ukulindela isimo sezulu olwandle akuyona inketho, ngakho-ke ithemba lokuthi ngelinye ilanga kuzoba yiyakho eyakho, into ewubuwula. Ungalinda ukuthi yonke impilo yakho. Ungumkakhe, futhi ungubani wena nokuthi ungubani igama lakho? Unayo, futhi ulinde usuku nosuku, ukuchitha isikhathi sakho esiyigugu kumuntu ongalungile.
Ngako-ke, ngaphambi kokuthi kungabi nalutho ukushisa impilo yakho ngokugculisa indoda eshadile, kuzomele uzinikele umbiko wokuthi lezi zindlelwano, ezimweni eziningi, zizoholela engelutho. Vele uthathe futhi uzibuke uvela ohlangothini nasengqondweni yakho efanele uqonde zonke izinzuzo nezindleko zaleveli. Uyinikeza iminyaka yakho engcono kakhulu, futhi yini enakho ngokubuyisela? Amahora amaningi wokuxhumana izikhathi eziningana ngesonto. Ingabe nawe ulwela lokhu? Unomndeni, kodwa unakho? Uzoyiphendula futhi uzokwenza iphutha elijulile, kodwa ngeke. Akuyona eyakho nhlobo, ngokuvumelana nayo yonke imithetho, unakho konke, ngoba umshado ungcwele. Futhi nawe, uke wacabanga ngokudala umndeni. Umfana oshadile weli bhizinisi akafanelanga nhlobo - ungumuntu ongaziwa, ukuthi ungaphambuki kanjani. Ngakho umuntu angahlala. Zizikhumbuza ngokwayo izimfanelo ezifana nokubekezela, ukuzihlonipha kanye nesifiso sokulwa nenjabulo. Futhi uyiqondise konke ekufuneni umuntu wamahhala. Yeka ukuyichitha emzamweni engenalutho yokuthola umyeni womunye umuntu, kubheka ngobuwula ngempela. Akuyona eyakho futhi ulungile. Ngingathanda ukuba nawe, angizange ngibazeze ngekhefu. Indoda yajabula uma ethandwa futhi esaba ukulahlekelwa abesifazane ababili kuphela. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, angifuni ukushintsha noma yini. Ngemuva kwalokho, banobugovu futhi bacabanga ukuthi basheshe baphule impilo yabesifazane ababili akuyona ibhizinisi labo. Cabanga ngakho, ungazibheki izinkinga, ngoba abafazi nabo bahlukile. Futhi bayazi ukuthi balwa kanjani futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo basebenzise yonke ibutho lezempi, beliqondisa ekuqondeni kwakho. Futhi ukuphela okuhle lapha akusizwa iphunga. Zihawukele - ufanelwe kangcono. Kungani ubheka izinkinga.
Futhi, noma kunjalo, ake sicabange kancane kancane, yingakho ezoshiya umndeni wakhe, eze kuwe nokuthi yini elandelayo, yiliphi ikusasa onalo ngawe nonke? Indoda eyashiya umkakhe, ingakwazi ukukuphonsa kalula kalula. Indoda yomndeni oyisibonelo, akunakwenzeka ukuba. Ngemuva kokubona ubudlelwane ohlangothini olulodwa, ngubani ozoqinisekisa ukuthi angeke asheshe angene ngakwesobunxele. Ungaba khona kalula endaweni yomfazi wakhe wamanje. Futhi kuyo yonke inkazimulo yayo ukuzama isimo sesifazane oguqulwayo. Ngakho-ke, yeka ukuhlala nethemba elingenalutho nokukhohlisa. Ngikholelwa esikhathini esizayo esiqhakazile, lapho uhlala ndawonye ngokujabulisayo. Ukuphela okunjalo kunamathekisthi kuphela, futhi ngokuqinisekile akuyona impilo yethu yangempela. Ngaphambi kokuba sekwephuzile kakhulu, vele ubalekele ebuhlotsheni obunjalo. Ngempela, safundiswa ebuntwaneni bethu ngobuntwana: "Ningalokothi nithathe noma yini engaziwa". Futhi ungowakho futhi ungumfokazi, hhayi owakho.
Futhi akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokuthi uyamthanda kangakanani. Musa ukwakha izinkolelo - lokhu akusilo uthando. Yiqiniso, uthando oluhlanzekile nolunamandla luhlala luhlangene njalo. Futhi uma umuntu ekhohlisa ikhanda lakho iminyaka, ehlala ethembisa "izintaba zegolide" futhi engenzi lutho, akabizwa ngokuthi uthando nhlobo, kodwa umbala wezinhloso zobugovu. Uvele nje akusebenzise wena, ethola kuwe ukuthi yini umkakhe angakwazi ukumnika yona. Uyakhokhalela ukwehluleka kwayo ngezinzuzo zakho futhi ngokufanayo. Kungcono kuye ukuthi uhlale usondelene. Futhi kungani kufanele ashintshe noma yini. Thola amandla kuwe futhi uqede lesi simo. Hamba ungaphenduki. Noma yikuphi, ngisho nemizwa enamandla kunazo zonke, siphulukisa isikhathi, futhi nesifiso sethu esingenakuqedwa sokuziqeda. Ngendlela, umkhonto uphumela futhi kuyiqiniso. Ukuthi kufanele uqale ubuhlobo obusha, kuphela nomfana wamahhala. Ngikholelwa, emva kokushiya umthandi wakho futhi, ngokusobala, kusuka kumkakhe, uzozizwa ngokushesha ukuthi yiziphi izinsimbi ezivulekile ngaphambi kwakho. Ngakho ungahlali endaweni eyodwa, vele uqhubeke phambili.