Kungani abantu beziphatha kabi?

Mhlawumbe, ngamunye wethu wayezibuza ukuthi kungani abanye abantu banobuhle futhi behle, kodwa omunye umuntu kufanele ahlazise futhi ahlasele umuntu ukuze athole uhlobo oluthile lokuzijabulisa okungavamile kulokhu. Iyini isizathu sokuziphatha kwabantu abanjalo abaphangi?


Izinkimbinkimbi

Bambalwa abaye bakwazi ukubhekana nobuntwana bangena ekuphileni ngokuphelele ngaphandle kwezinkimbinkimbi. Kukhona abantu abanjalo kuphela. Ngokuyinhloko, izenzakalo eziningi nabantu abasizungezile baholela eqinisweni lokuthi abantu banezinkathazo ezithile abazikhandle ngazo zonke izimpilo zabo. Ngokuvamile, abahlukumezi yibo ababuthakathaka kunabanye, labo abahlekwa usulu, labo abahlazekile futhi behlekwa phansi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, la bantwana nezingane zakhula, kepha umuzwa wokuhlonipha udumo wahlala nabo kuze kube phakade. Futhi esikhundleni sokuhlunga okuthile nokushintsha okuthile, abantu abaphangi baqala ukuzibiza ngokwezimali zabanye. Esibusweni labo abahlukunyezwayo, bakhetha labo ababuthakathaka ngokuziphatha, labo abangayikulwa ngenxa yokuthi bayamthanda lo muntu okhohlisayo. Ekuziphatheni kwabadedengu, akusi njalo njalo ukuthola lologi. Bangakwazi ukuqala ngokoqobo ukusuka kwesigamu-ukujika kulezo zimo lapho abantu abavamile ngokuvamile bengakunaki lokho okushiwo. Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi izidumbu zinezinkinga ezithile nge-psyche, futhi azibophezele ezenzweni zabo. Eqinisweni, lokhu akunjalo. I-Despot iyayiqonda lokho akwenzayo, kodwa ivame ukuzihlanganisa nezinye izifo ezingqondweni zengqondo nokunye okunjalo. Ngomuntu onjalo onobudlova, kunoma yikuphi, omunye akufanele anikeze. Uma eqala ukuhlazisa nokuhlambalaza, kubalulekile ukulwa. Uma ungenjalo, i-despot izohlale iqinisekiswa ngezindleko zakho.

Ukungajwayelekile

Esinye isizathu sokuthi abantu bangamangaleli ukulahla okungokoqobo. Okusho ukuthi, umuntu ukholelwa ukuthi labo abenaye, baphila baphatha ngokungalungile. Uyakhathazeka kabi futhi uzama ukulungisa indawo yakhe, esikhundleni sokumane nje ashiye le nkulumo yokuxhumana. Ngokuvamile i-despot iqinisekile ukuthi uyazi ukuthi ubani engcono ukwenza nokuthi yini okumelwe akwenze. Uma sibuza lo mbuzo ukuthi kungani ekhamuluka kumuntu, wamhleka usulu, uzokuphendula ngokungaphezi ukuthi abantu ngokwabo bayecala ukuthi kufanele babe takobratsya. Umuntu ongenalutho angase angaboni izinkinga zakhe, kodwa uyohlale eqaphela futhi ecabangela izinkinga zabanye abantu. Isibonelo, ngokuvamile u-muzhirugayutsya okhohlakeleyo futhi abashaya nabesifazane babo, ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi badinga okuthile okufundisayo nokuthi bona ngokwabo bayecala. Eqinisweni, lesi sizathu singakhathazeki umuntu ovamile, onombono wakhe. Imvelo yokuzikhohlisayo ngokwayo iyiphutha, ngoba ayikwazi ukwandisa imingcele yezwe labo elingokwengqondo. Abantu abangenza lokhu bangalokothi babe abadeleli. Ngisho noma banezinkinga ezithile, balwa nabo ngokuhluke kakhulu, bethola izithakazelo ezintsha, ukubuka okusha nokunye. Ngesiphithiphithi, konke kwenzeka ngokuhlukile. Udala umhlaba wakhe omncane lapho ebeka khona imithetho engapheliyo. Futhi uma umuntu efuna ukuphikisa hhayi ngalezi zimiso, lo mfundisi uzwa isidingo sokufundisa umuntu ngengqondo-isizathu. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akavumelani ngokuphelele nezimpikiswano, ngisho noma zisekelwa yilo logic. Ngomuntu okhohlisayo, into ebaluleke kunazo zonke ukuhlale ulungile. Ngakho-ke, lapho ebona ukuthi izimpikiswano zomuntu zingabangela abanye, uyathukuthela nakakhulu. Kuye, kufana nesinye isisindo sokuzihlonipha, esivele singagculiseki ukuthi ngaphandle kokuhambisa abanye, i-despot izwa ubuhlungu futhi ingabalulekile.

Ngokucophelela nangokungazi

Izidakamizwa zombili ziyazi ngokungazi futhi zingenasici. Uma umuntu eziphatha ngokungazi lutho, uvele eqiniseka ngokuzethemba kwakhe, okushiwo yizinkimbinkimbi, indawo okunye nokunye. Umuntu onjalo kunalokho ulinganiselwe ngokwengqondo. Akamane azama ukuzihlaziya futhi akafuni ukuqonda ukuthi kungani izihlobo zakhe nabantu abasondelene naye bembiza ngokuthi yi-despot nokunye. Abantu abanjalo baziphatha ngokungahambisani kuphela ngezinhloso ezinhle. Kulula nje, izwe labo liyingcosana kakhulu, i-acrusor incane kakhulu kunaleyo yabanye abantu. Futhi lapho abantu beqala ukuya ngaphesheya kwe-iramki, abahlukumezi bayakhala futhi basongela ukuphoqa izihlobo ize. Icala elivame kakhulu lezinsolo ezinjalo lapho ubaba evimbela izingane zakhe ukuba zenze okuthile, ngoba uqinisekile ukuthi izifundo ezinjalo ngeke zilethe okuhle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, noma yiziphi izimpikiswano ayinikwa zona, wayezozimela ngokulinganayo, hhayi ukulalela noma ubani. Ngokuvamile, abadeleli abalaleli umbono womunye umuntu. Yingakho kunzima kakhulu ukuba badlulisele ulwazi mayelana nokuziphatha kwabo. Kodwa kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi labo abaziphatha ngokungazi lutho bangaphenduka kakhulu ekuziphatheni kwabo uma beqonda ukuthi benzani. Amacala anjalo ajwayelekile, kodwa noma kunjalo, kwenzeka. Futhi uma umuntu ebona indlela ehlala ehlupha ngayo izihlobo nabasondelene naye, yena ngokwakhe ukwesaba ukuziphatha kwakhe, njengoba konke engakwenzi, wenza ngokuqiniseka okuqinisekile ukuthi kungaba ngcono.

Isigaba sesibili sabadedengu sibi kakhulu kunokuqala, ngoba laba bantu bayazi kahle ukuthi benzani. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuletha ingcebo. Abahlukumezi abanjalo banamathuba amaningi futhi bangathembeka kakhulu futhi bebekezelela. Abaningi abaqapheli ukuthi okulandelayo kubo kuyindawo yangempela. I-despot, naye, ayikhombisi ubuso bakhe beqiniso, kuze kube yilapho othile enikeza ukuhlehlisa. Ukuzikhethela kwalabo abadeleli ukuthi bahlupha labo abathandayo noma labo abamesabayo. Ngomuntu ongezwa imizwa eqinile ngodaba, akakwazi nje ukubhekana nalo, ngoba akanakho ukucindezelwa. Kodwa ukwesaba noma othandweni umuntu akasoze akwazi ukunikeza ukulungiswa okulungile futhi uhlale esaba ukulahlekelwa yi-despot noma abe yi-despot ephukile. Lezi yizimo ezikhohlisayo. Ngicabanga ukuthi abaningi babona indlela umfana ehlambalazwa ngayo, waze wayishaya intombazane, futhi lapho ezama ukumkhuza, uqala ukumemeza: "Thula, kungenjalo ngizokushiya, ngizokushiya!". Lona ukubonakaliswa okujwayelekile kwe-despotism eyaziwayo. Umuntu uqonda kahle ukuthi yini ngempela akwenzayo futhi ngobuchule asebenzisa ubuthakathaka bomuntu omhlekayo. Abahlukumezi abanjalo abazishintshi, ngoba baziphathe ngokucophelela futhi bazijabulise. Ngomuntu onjalo kunzima kakhulu ukulwa futhi uzame ukumisa ngandlela-thile, ngoba umsebenzi walo oyinhloko ukuzifakazela ngokwezimali kwabanye ngaphandle kwezindleko. Ngakho-ke, uma uhlangabezana nesiphithiphithi esinjalo, akufanele uzame ukumkholisa noma ukuvula amehlo akho eqinisweni. Kungcono ukuhamba nje futhi ungazivumeli ukuba uzwe noma yikuphi imizwa ye-despot.