Ukususa oxhumana nabo, ukulahla izinto ezinikeziwe, lokhu kuvamile kubantu abahlukanisiwe. Abafana, kaningi, amantombazane amancane akhathazeka ngegebe, futhi uma enza, azama ukuwafihla kwabanye, futhi avela kubo. Benza kanjalo ngoba imizwa yokuzwela, ekuboneni kwabo, iphikisana nobuntu bemvelo - kufanele ibe namandla, ephikelela futhi ezolile. Amantombazane, ngokuphambene nalokho, avame ukuhlukana kakhulu nabathandekayo babo, ikakhulukazi uma imizwa ingokoqobo. Bangakwazi ukungena kwi-stupor, bakhonze ama-trinkets amancane anikezwe ngaphambili, noma angaqala impilo entsha, egcwele ngokuphambene nalokho.
Ngakho kungani amantombazane efuna ukubuyela emuva?
Izizathu zokuthi kungani amantombazane angashiya amadoda awo ngezinye izikhathi angaziqondi, ngezinye izikhathi afanelekile, kodwa akakwazi njalo ukuthethelela abantu ngenxa yezenzo zabo, okungenani ukuthethelelwa okunjalo kufanele kube nesizathu esihle kakhulu. Isibonelo, kunzima kakhulu ukuthethelela umuntu ngenkani, kodwa, njengowesifazane. Ilondoloza amacala anjalo, kungaba uthando noma imali, futhi kunzima ukusho ukuthi yini ephumelela kakhulu. Intombazane, uma imthanda kakhulu indoda yayo, ingamthethelela ukukhashelwa kwakhe futhi ibuyele kuye ngemva kokuxabana, kodwa lokhu kuzoshiya impendulo enkulu ebuhlotsheni bayo. Indodakazi encane, efuna imali, cishe iyogwinya ukuziqhenya futhi, njengokungathi, ithethelele umuntu, kodwa ukuthethelela okunjalo ngeke kube okuqotho, okuyinto esikhathini esizayo okuyobe kungabandakanyi noma yikuphi ukuhlukana kokuthula.
Kwenzeka ukuthi amantombazane aphonsa abafana bawo ngenxa yesimo sesikhwama sabo. Iningi lentombazane lingakwazi ukuhamba iminyaka embalwa nge-wardrobe eyodwa futhi uneliswe yindlu encane eqashiwe emaphethelweni edolobha. Isimo esinjalo asikwazi ukusindiswa ngisho nangothando oluqine kakhulu, ngoba indoda emehlweni owesifazane kufanele ibukeke njengesekelo, umtholi, umuntu ongeke abe ngowakhe kuphela, kodwa futhi nezingane zabo. Ngenxa yalokho, ilanga elilodwa lomndeni lizwa lihlazekile futhi licasuliwe. Indoda ivala ngaphakathi kwayo, futhi ngenxa yalokhu ilahlekelwa ikhono lakhe lokuzithuthukisa ngendlela enhle. Owesifazane uhlasele njalo umuntu ngezinhlobo zonke zokuzenzela, nakuba ehlangabezana nengozi yakhe, kodwa ukholwa ukuthi ukuhlaselwa yiyona ndlela kuphela yokugqugquzela othandekayo wakhe. Kuvela umbuthano ononya, ongeke ukwazi ukunqoba umbhangqwana ngamunye, okungaphansi kokuhlangana kabusha ngemuva kwekhefu. Kukhona ukwesaba ukubuyela ekucindezelekeni okuqhubekayo, ubumpofu kanye nothando oluqine kakhulu lunganqoba.
Kukhona amantombazane aphephile kuphela ahlangana nomunye noma omunye. Mhlawumbe abakwazi ukuthola lowo abafuna ukuchitha zonke izinsuku zabo, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, abafuni ukuboshwa ubudlelwane obungapheli. Kulesi simo, isizathu sokuhlukanisa singasebenzisa noma yisiphi isifiso, ngisho nokusola okunjengokuthenga uphawu lwe-chocolate osithandwa. Kodwa-ke, ukubuyela kuleli cala kungenzeke okungalindelekile: intombazane ingase ibangele umlingani omusha noma ingase ibonakale ukuthi nguyena, yedwa kuphela kanye naye kuphela okuhle, kodwa ezimweni ezinjalo cishe kungenzeka ukusikisela futhi akudluli ngokushesha. Futhi-ke intombazane iphinda ibuyele emuva ekusesheni. Mhlawumbe uzomthola elula.
Ngezinye izikhathi, abantu bahlukaniswa izimo ezibalulekile: ukuhamba komndeni, umsebenzi omusha wokuthakazelisa, inhlekelele. Indlela abantu abangathandi ngayo, abakwazi ukushintsha izimo. Kodwa-ke, uma kunezinhlanhla zemizwelo phakathi kwabo, cishe bazozama ukuthola omunye nomunye. Ikakhulukazi kungenzeka ukutshela ngabantu abathandekayo. Ngisho noma sekudlulile iminyaka eminingi, le ntombazane inomunye umuntu, mhlawumbe baze bakwazi ukushada, uzokhumbula uthando lwakhe lweqiniso futhi, emhlanganweni wabo, uzama ukuyibuyisela yona. Iqiniso liwukuthi akuhlali njalo kwenzeka. Indoda ingayeka ukuzwa. Mhlawumbe uzimisele kakhulu emsebenzini wakhe ukuthi akanakuthanda noma ubani. Noma ubeka kuqala umkhaya wakhe omusha, lapho, mhlawumbe, izingane zivele khona. Kulokhu, nakuba engazisoli, lo muntu uzozama ukuvala uthando oludlulile emphefumulweni wakhe futhi azizinikele ezinganeni zakhe, emndenini wakhe omusha.
Kuyenzeka futhi-ke kukhona intombazane ehamba phansi emgwaqweni futhi ibona i-ex kwenye. Kodwa wayekade emthanda. Wamnika izipho ezinhle, wenza amaqanda aqhekezayo ekuseni, wamyisa emabhayisikobho, futhi ngokuvamile ayejabule ndawonye. Ngenxa yalokho baxabana futhi bahlukana? Kubonakala sengathi imbangela ihlale isakazekile kuyo yonke indlu. Ngakho uyisiphukuphuku. Futhi manje uhamba yedwa, abanye abantu ngokungangabazeki baqhathanisa naye. Konke kubi kakhulu. Lawa amasokisi amabi, amnandi kuphela. Futhi uyahamba nomunye. Ingabe uhlupheka? Mhlawumbe, yebo, ngoba uyazi ukuthi uyamthanda. Futhi uhlupheka. Ingabe kuwufanele? Cishe akunjalo. Ingabe amasokisi nama-T-shirts angafaka injabulo yabantu? - Kuyinto ehlekisayo. Futhi lo mhawu, ngoba esikhundleni sensizwa kufanele kube njalo. Ngakho-ke, esikhathini esizayo, uzama kanzima ukuze athole isoka lakhe langaphambili. Ukuze nje angatholi kwabanye, ngoba nje unokuningi kunezinye ngeke.
Ngenxa yalokho, singasho ukuthi kaningi abesifazane babuyela kumthandani wabo wangaphambili noma abayeni babo, ngokulandela imizwa yabo, okushiwo izinhliziyo zabo. Bazindla ngempilo yabo yangaphambili, bakhumbule amaphutha abo, amaphutha abalingani babo, bahlole ukuthi lawa maphutha ayinjabulo yabo? Ngokuvame ukuphendula impendulo. Kukhona abesifazane besifazane. Babuyela endala, ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa indlela yabo yokuphila, ingcebo yabo, ithuba lokuhlangabezana nemibono yabo. Kungenzeka futhi ukubuya ngenxa yomhawu kwamanye amantombazane. Ngempela, ungavumela kanjani abanye ukuba babe nenjabulo uma ungenayo, kodwa bekuyilapho usenaye. Abanye bamane abatholi umlingani wabo. Bayaqhuma emuva futhi befuna, kepha bavame ukuphumelela.
Kungenzeka yini ukunikeza impendulo eningi kakhulu embuzweni: kungani amantombazane efuna ukubuyela kumuntu wangaphambili? Ngokungangabazeki. Isizathu esivame kakhulu uthando, okuyinto, naphezu kwazo zonke izithiyo, ixhuma abantu.