Ngaphandle kwamakhosikazi kanye nemisebenzi yezenkolo, kwakungekho mishado engathà sina, kodwa kusukela eminyakeni eyishumi neshumi kuya kwayishumi nanhlanu, amantombazane asevele ebhekwa njengabesifazane. Eqinisweni, ukuqaliswa kwentombazane kule ntombazane yadlulela ekuvuthweni, lapho le ntombazane ikwazi ukukhulelwa nokukhulelwa. Imishado yasekuqaleni phakathi kwabesilisa abasha yayingavamile, kodwa umfana ongashadile oneminyaka engamashumi amabili nanhlanu wayesevele "yi-bobyl". Isizathu esiyinhloko salesi sifiso yisifiso sokulondoloza ubumsulwa bomlobokazi ozayo. Umlobokazi, ngoba, njengoba amaCosacks athi: "Le ndoda ibhekene nenani, kanti lona wesifazane uphezulu." Ukuze ugweme izilingo ezingadingekile, intombazane yanikezwa emshadweni.
Namuhla, imishado yasekuqaleni ingumshado weminyaka eyisishiyagalombili. Ekhuluma ngezinzuzo nezinkinga zemishado yokuqala, kubalulekile ukwenza ukubhuka ukuthi konke kuxhomeke kulo mbhangqwana. Isimo sokuphila ngezindlela eziningi sikhombisa ukuthi umshado uzoba yinhlekelele noma uzobe ukhona ngokujabula iminyaka eminingi.
Ubuntfwana buntfwana buntfwana bantfu labangakashadi bangahle balingane netimphahla letimbili kanye nemitsetfo yemishado yekucala. Ngakolunye uhlangothi ukungazi kahle kungabangela ukuthi abantu abasha banquma ukushada ngokusekelwe kwabanye, ngisho nomzwelo onamandla kakhulu, kodwa ngeke bakwazi ukubona. Umshado olula, uma unengqondo ekubalweni, okusho ukuthi "okungokomoya", okungukuthi, umphakathi wezithakazelo, ikhono lokuthola ukuyekethisa, inhlonipho yomuntu - kungenzeka kuphela umuntu ovuthiwe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ehlanzekile, ekholelwa othandweni nothando lwaphakade, izinhliziyo ezincane zingakwazi ukumelana nokushaya okukhulu kwekusasa.
Ngezici eziningi, ukukhubazeka komshado kubangelwa ukuhluleka ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwesifiso, uthando nothando. Akukho abathandi abangathembisani uthando lwangunaphakade komunye nomunye, futhi akukho uthando oluzohlala isikhathi esingaphezu kweminyaka emine. Uma sibheka kuphela ubukhulu bobuhlobo nobungani obuhle, ngokushesha maduze, (alas, kakade kunezingane) futhi ngokuqinisekile umuntu uzothola into entsha yesifiso esinomdlandla. Futhi uthando luyaqhubeka njalo.
Uthando luhle, owokuqala ikakhulukazi, kodwa kusekude kakhulu nothando. Uthando ngunkulunkulukazi womndeni, osinika izithembiso. Futhi ibhizinisi lethu ukuzigcwalisa kamuva. Buza noma yibaphi abashadikazi asebekhulile abaye baphila impilo ejabulisayo futhi ngokuqinisekile uzofunda ukuthi kufanele bajabule noma bangabi nesithandwa sasendle, noma yikuphi okungahle kwenzeke ngokukhethekile kwezimiso. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi bangabantu abaqotho, abanesineke, abanesihe, abantu abalungile abakwazi ukuthola ukuyekethisa, abanokuqonda kanye nekhono lokunciphisa izinkanuko zabo.
Uthando, uthando lwangempela, isifiso esinokuthula, esifihlekile enhliziyweni - singaphumeli kakhulu kumafilimu nezincwadi, ngakho-ke singenakwenzeka emqondweni womphakathi "wothando." Ngisho nokufaniswa kwencwadi kaJane Austen ethi "Ingqondo Nemicabango", lapho ukuphakama kwengqondo evelele enhliziyweni yomuntu ongenalwazi kukhazinyuliswa, kuchazwa ekukhangiseni ngokuthi "umzabalazo wezinhliziyo zothando ngokuziphatha okucwengileko" ukuze kuhlangane izilaleli ezithombeni. Maye, ngaphandle kwalokhu "ukuziphatha okucwengileko" umshado wokuqala ungaba nezinkinga.
Izinzuzo zomshado ophethwe phakathi kwabantu abasha zenzeka lapho lo mbhangqwana:
- Ngempela unesifiso sokwakha umndeni, uqonda umthwalo wayo komunye nomunye futhi ufuna ukwabelana hhayi injabulo nombhede kuphela, kodwa usizi, izifo, ukungabi nemali, impilo, ubunzima bokukhulisa izingane kanye nezinye izinkinga zokuphila kwethu.
- Ingabe ubuhlobo obuhle nabazali okungenani oyedwa wezinhlangothi, futhi mhlawumbe - kokubili.
- Kukhona okungenani unyaka ngaphambi komshado! Awukho usuku oluncane!
Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma okungenani kusukela ohlangothini lwentombazane kwakungenaso isipiliyoni socansi, zonke lezi zinzuzo zingenziwa ngambili. Umshado onjalo cishe uhlala "isikhathi eside futhi ngenjabulo."
Uma kwenzeka abantu abasha banquma ukushada, uma:
- Ngeke baphile ngaphandle komunye nomunye, futhi akekho emhlabeni wonke, ngaphandle kwalabo bobabili, okudingekayo (esinye sezizathu ezivame kakhulu zokwehlukanisa eminyakeni eyodwa noma emibili yokuhlala ndawonye).
- "Wagijima".
- Ngifuna ukuqeda ukugcinwa kwabazali bami ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
- Ngifuna ukuhlala nginentombazane eseduze nami "enikeza".
Ukuthi umshado onjalo cishe uvame ukubhujiswa ukuba ube umzamo wokuqala nokuphumelela ekufuneni okuphakade ngenjabulo engaziwa.
Uthando kufanele lufundwe. Uthando lusebenza. Uthando alufanele lube, kufanele lukwazi ukufundisa nokulondoloza. Futhi-ke umuntu uzoqonda ukuthi uyinto enhle kunazo zonke ekuphileni. Eqinisweni, nje ngenxa yalo futhi kufanelekile ukuphila.