Kusukela ekubukeni kwengqondo yengane, isikhathi sokusana kwezingane siqhubeka kuze kube yilapho beqala ukumomotheka, bephendula izwi lomuntu. Lapho nje ingane ihlekisayo, singacabanga ukuthi isigaba sokuqala sokwakheka kwengqondo yakhe - isisekelo lapho konke ukuthuthukiswa kwayo kusekelwe khona - sekuphelile.
Manje ingane iqala ukulalela izwe elikuzungezile, kanye nomqhubi oyinhloko, evikela kunoma yiziphi izingozi, enikeza umuzwa wokulondeka, ukuphepha nokusiza ukuzivumelanisa kuleli zwe elimnandi, kungumntwana, impela, umama.
Okubaluleke kakhulu ukukhulumisana okuqhubekayo nokuxhumana nomama wengane yonyaka. Ukubheka kwabacwaningi bezengqondo kubonisa ukuthi uma ukukhulumisana komama nengane yalesi sizathu kungesizathu esanele, lokhu kuyithinta kakhulu ukuphila okulandelayo kwengane, kumshiya ukuzethemba futhi kudala kuye umqondo wezwe elizungezile njengento engenamusa futhi egcwele zonke izinhlobo zezingozi. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi kukhona ukuxhumana okunamandla nokuhlala njalo phakathi komntwana nonina. Izingxenye eziyinhloko zokukhulumisana nomama ophumelelayo:
- Ukubeletha yiyona nto yokuqala futhi eyisisekelo yokuxhumana. Izingane zisetshenziswa esifubeni ngemva kokubeletha. Lapho umntwana efika ezweni, ubhekene nokucindezeleka okukhulu, futhi ukuze azivikele emthonjeni owonakalisayo wokucindezeleka kule psyche, kubalulekile ukuba abe nomuzwa wokufudumala kwesifuba somama futhi azwe inhliziyo yakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuye kwafakazelwa ukuthi ubisi lwebele luqukethe izinto eziqinisa ingculazi yengane futhi zamukele ukuthuthukiswa okuvamile kwesimiso sayo sezinzwa. Ngenxa yalezi zizathu, ukuncelisa akunconywa ukuba kuthathelwe indawo ngenye yokufakelwa.
- Thinta. Ngenkathi ingane ingakafundile ukuqonda inkulumo yomuntu, uzwela kakhulu ekuthinteni komama. Kuwo unquma isimo nesimo somama futhi ngabo uzwa uthando nothando lomama. Ngakho-ke, ukuthinta umama kumntwana kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi kube mnene, othandekayo nokuzolile. Ingane kufanele ifakwe, ixube futhi iwanga njalo ngangokunokwenzeka. Ungathinti ingane ngendlela engafanelekile, njengoba izosakazwa ngokushesha kuye, futhi ingane, uma izwa i-alamu, izoqala ukukhala, ibe yinto engenangqondo. Ochwepheshe abaningi bayeluleka ngaphambi kokuncelisa ukuncelisa ingane, ngoba ukuxhumana ngokomzimba akugcini nje ngokunciphisa isimiso sakhe sezinzwa, kodwa futhi kunomthelela ekukhiqizeni ubisi okungcono kunomama.
- Inkulumo. Nakuba abantwana bengakayiqondi incazelo yamazwi akhulunywayo, balandela ngokuphelele i-intonation ababhekiswe kuyo. Ngakho-ke, akubaluleki kakhulu ukuthi yini ngempela umama ezoyisho, kubaluleke kangakanani ukuthi kube khona ukukhuluma kahle, okunene nokuzola ngezwi lakhe. Ukubonwa kubonise ukuthi ingane ikwazi ukuhlukanisa izwi lomama kusuka kwabanye abaningi! Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane izingane zabo ezikhulumayo zihlale zikhula ngokushesha futhi zinezilimi eziningi kunabantwana abanina abazange bakuthole kubalulekile ukukhuluma nabo.
- Ukuxhumana kwamehlo. Izingane ze-psychologists zikholelwa ukuthi umama kufanele abheke emehlweni omntanakhe okungenani imizuzu engu-15-20 ngosuku. Akuyona into yokuthi abantu abaseduze baqondane shazi. Amehlo omuntu yisibuko somphefumulo wakhe, ngakho-ke ingane izoqonda njalo ukuthi umama wayo ufuna ukumtshela. Into eyinhloko - ngamehlo kamama uzobona uthando lwakhe olungenamkhawulo nangenamkhawulo. Futhi uma, lapho ebheka umntwana, umama uzomomotheka futhi amomotheka, uzomenza abe nomoya omuhle nesimo senjabulo.
- Iphupho elihlangene. Umbono wokulala nosana esiswini esisodwa awuhambisani, futhi ngesikhathi umama obuthongo angabamba ingane ngengozi, akanaso isisekelo futhi aphutha. Iphupho likamama libucayi kakhulu, futhi ngisho nasephusheni umama onothando ulalela zonke izigqoko zomntwana wakhe futhi ulawula ukunyakaza kwakhe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma umama ehambisa umyeni kwelinye ikamelo, ethatha umntwana kuye, akukho okuhle okuyophela ...
Kodwa uma ingane ingenasiphelo, ngokuvamile ikhala ebusuku futhi ayikwazi ukulala ngaphandle komama, khona-ke akukho lutho olungalungile ngephupho elihlangene. Eduze nomama, izingane ezincane zilala ngokuthula, ngoba zizizwa ziphephile. Ngokuvamile izingane emva konyaka ziqala ukufisa ukuzimela, bese zihlukaniswa nokulala komama zibonwa ngabo kancane kancane. Ekugcineni, ukuze angalali nomntwana embhedeni owodwa, unina angabeka embhedeni wengane eceleni kombhede wakhe, futhi uzobe ezwa ukuthi ukhona futhi alale.
Ososayensi baseMelika benza izifundo ezithakazelisayo ezibonisa ukuthi izingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka yobudala abalala eceleni komama, izikhathi ezingaba ngu-50 ubusuku ngabunye, ziphazamiseka ekuphefumuleni nasenhliziyweni, kuyilapho izingane zilele embhedeni owodwa nomama wazo, izifo ezinjalo zibhaliswe izikhathi eziningana ngaphansi.