Amantombazane achitha isikhathi esiningi, amandla nemali ukubonakala njengendwangu yomagazini. Ukufunda amashayamu, amasayithi kanye nomagazini wezemfashini ukwazi ukuthi ungazifundisa kanjani nokuthi yini laba bantu abayidingayo kowesifazane. Kukhona umcabango owodwa kuphela ekhanda lami: Ngifuna ukushada!
Kodwa, amadoda akhuliswe nezinye izimo zengqondo. Indoda kufanele ikwazi ukondla umndeni wayo futhi inikeze umkakhe kanye nezingane konke okungcono kakhulu.
Esikhathini sethu, uma ubuza noma yimuphi umbuzo umbuzo: kungani ungafuni ukushada? Impendulo yakhe iyoba into enjengale: udinga ukuthola imfundo, uthole umsebenzi okhokhelwa kahle, uthenge imoto kanye nendawo yokuhlala. Ngamafuphi, wonke amaphupho omfana oqala ukudala isisekelo esiqinile, bese ucabanga ngomshado nezingane.
Futhi, ngingasho ukuthi lesi simo sengqondo sabafana abasha ekuphileni singaphezu kokuncoma. Ngemuva kwalokho, inkulumo ethi "ngothando ngepharadesi nasendlini" ayiyona into ebalulekile esikhathini sethu. Ezikhathini zaseSoviet, le mikhaya encane yayisizwa izindlu ezikhishwe nguhulumeni, izibonelelo. Esikhathini sethu, intando yeningi iyachuma. Ngakho-ke, sinesibopho sekusasa lethu nokufezekisa. Uma umndeni ungenayo imali eyaneleyo, ke-ke, uma uthanda, uzohlala uxabana, ufunge. Futhi umndeni wakho osencane kakhulu usubhujiswa ngenxa yezinkinga zempahla, ngisho nangaphandle kokuba ube nesikhathi sokunambitha zonke izintelezi zokuhlala ndawonye.
Wonke umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi owesilisa noma owesifazane, amaphupho okufana okufanayo - injabulo. Amantombazane kuphela afuna konke ngasikhathi sinye, futhi amadoda enza ngokuvumelana nesimiso esilungisiwe - kuqala udala isisekelo, futhi kuphela ekushadweni.
Ngokuvamile, insizwa nentombazane, ehlangane isikhathi eside, ihlukanisa kuphela ngoba ingakulungele ukushada, futhi intombazane isivele ivele iqede ukushada. Kulesi simo, intombazane icabanga nje ngesifiso sakhe, akacabangi ngisho nokuthi ukungafuni ukushada kumfana kungenxa yokuthi uyesaba impilo nezinkinga zempahla ukubhubhisa konke okuhle phakathi kwabo.
Ngenxa yokuthi umfana akafuni ukushada nentombi yakhe, unquma: noma ulinde kuze kube yilapho isimo somnakekeli sezezimali sithuthukisa, noma ufuna ukuhlukanisa.
Uma kunjalo, wahlukana nobuhlobo, ngakho-ke singasho ngokuphepha ukuthi le ndoda yayinenhlanhla kakhulu. Phela, awukwazi ukusho ukuthi intombazane yayithande insizwa yakhe. Ngingathanda, ngingaba naye futhi ngimsize, kodwa angizange ngishaye indawo ebuhlungu kakhulu.
Indoda, lapho ifuna ubudlelwane obuseduze, ingabe isilungele ukuhamba naye emqhele. Udinga ukwazi umlingani wakhe wokuphila kangcono, ukuze ugweme esikhathini esizayo umzuzwana onjengokubalekela kuwo, lapho amehlo akhe ebuka khona.
Amantombazane, uma umuntu manje engakulungi umshado, qonda ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngeke ahlakulele i-phobia ukuthi akekho ozomshada naye.
Thina amantombazane anesithakazelo kakhulu sokushada. Amantombazane amnandi, baqonde into eyodwa ukuthi uma umfana wakho ekuthanda ngempela futhi uzizwa; uma engathà sina; Uma ehlelweni lwakhe ngekusasa uhlale ukhona. Khona-ke, ungamcindezeli futhi umshade ngaphambi kokukhetha.
Cabanga ngalokho oyokufeza ngokuziphatha okunjalo? Ulahlekelwa othandekayo nomuntu ozalwayo ngoba nje unomuzwa wokuzikhukhumeza noma ngenxa yombono womphakathi okuthonya kakhulu?
Vele uphile futhi ujabulele injabulo, ngoba uphawu ku-passport yakho ngeke kukujabulise. Phonsa, zonke izinkolelo ezivela ekhanda oyifake emphakathini nabazali, vele uphile futhi ujabulele ukuphila!