Izingane zilindele ngokulangazela unyaka ngamunye wokuzalwa kwazo, ngoba ngalolu suku banikwa amaswidi, amathoyizi nezinye izipho. Lolu suku lwazo lugcwele izimangazi, izivakashi futhi zijabulisa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abazali banomatasa kangakanani, akumelwe ukhohlwe mayelana nosuku lokuzalwa kwengane, udinga ukuhlela iholidi nganoma iyiphi intengo, ngoba "ngeshwa kuphela kanye ngonyaka ..."
Ngakho, inhlangano yeholidi iwele ngokuphelele emahlombe abazali. Ungakhathazeki, uhlele iholidi yengane, ayithandayo futhi izokhunjulwa, akuyona inzima kakhulu. Okokuqala udinga ukuthola ukuthi iholide ingane yakho idinga. Isimiso esiyinhloko sokukhetha iholide yisikhathi somntwana.
Uma ingane isencane (iminyaka engu-2-4), ke ungalungiseleli iqembu lokuzalwa. Mema umuntu oneminyaka engu-5. Kule minyaka yobudala, izingane zihamba ngamaholide nabazali bazo, qiniseka ukuthi ugcine lokhu engqondweni. Iholide kufanele ibe mfushane. Uhlelo lwesampula: ukulungiselela ukwamukela izivakashi, ukwamukela izivakashi, ukulethwa kwezipho ngokukhululekile nokuhalalisela, ukuphuza itiye kanye nemidlalo eminingana emva kwayo. Khumbula ukuthi izingane ezincane ziyakhathala ngokushesha, ngakho ungazakheli uhlelo lokuzijabulisa lwe-multi-hour.
Uma ingane yakho isukela eminyakeni emihlanu kuya kweyishumi ubudala, khona-ke idinga inhlangano yokuzalwa eyasebenza kakhulu. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ekwakheni iholidi, angathatha ingxenye emele, futhi ungahlela ukumangala. Izingane kufanele zenze uhlu lwabangani abamenyiwe, ngoba kule minyaka yobudala izingane sezivele zikhethe umbuthano wazo womphakathi. Abazali kulezi zenzakalo kungenzeka ukuthi abasasekho. Ngokuvamile, emva kweti, izingane ziqala ukuzijabulisa, kodwa usizo lwabantu abadala ngeke lube luhle kakhulu. Isibonelo, ungakwazi ukuhlela umdlalo othize omnandi, ugcine ngokuzimela ingxenye "ehloniphekile" yeholidi. Ingxenye "ehloniphekile" kufanele ibe yilezi ezilandelayo: tshela izivakashi ukuthi yini ohlangene kulolu suku, tshela amagama ambalwa afudumele kumuntu wokuzalwa, unikeze izwi izivakashi, bese uvumela ngamunye wezivakashi ukuba azethule isipho sakhe, futhi ingane yakho kufanele ibonge zonke izivakashi. Ungakhohlwa ukudumisa zonke izipho bese upende amakhono awo. Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukuphoqelela izingane ukuba zikhulume kuwo wonke umuntu. Phakamisa ukuhalalisela umfana wokuzalwa emdlalweni, ake wonke umuntu akhalalane, ehlezi lapho. Noma ku-postcard ejwayelekile, ake bonke babhale inkondlo yokuhalalisela emgqeni, futhi uzofunda "ukudala" okuvela kuwo wonke umuntu. Ukuzalwa kwabantwana bangalesi sikhathi kungadonsela isikhathi eside, ngezinye izikhathi izingane zinzima kakhulu ukuma nokuphazamisa ekujabuliseni kwabo. Ngaphambi kosuku lokuzalwa kuyoba ngcono ukuxwayisa abazali bazo ukuthi uhlela amaholide amangaki amahora.
Izingane ezineminyaka engu-11 kuya kweyishumi nanhlanu zifuna ukuba nabantu abadala ngesikhathi seholide. Lapha ingxenye yakho yenhlangano incishisiwe ibe yincane: lungiselela futhi umboze itafula lokugubha. Izingane zizothola kunokuba zizisebenzise ngokwazo, ukuphathwa kwabantu abadala kuyoba namahloni. Kuthandwa kakhulu manje ukuhlelwa kwezinsuku zokuzalwa zezingane ezingxenyeni zokudlela zezingane nezindawo zokuzijabulisa. Abahleli bezenzakalo ezinjalo bayakwazi ukuhlela iholidi elingenakulibaleka lezingane nezivakashi zakhe: bahlela itafula lezingane, bajabule izivakashi, badlale nabo emidlalweni, futhi bahlele i-disco. Emaqembu anjalo, akumele kube khona ukuphuza utshwala. Landela ngokwakho.
Uma ufuna ukuhlela iholidi emndenini womndeni, lokhu kuyindlela enhle yokuzalwa. Ngakho ingane ibona ukubaluleka kwayo emndenini. Ezinye izingane ziyakhathazeka kakhulu uma zingavunyelwe ukubiza abangani. Kodwa ungahlanganisi imikhosi yomndeni nemikhosi yabangani. Kungcono ukubamba izenzakalo ezingu-2 ngezinsuku ezahlukene.
Ungakhohlwa ukuhlobisa indlu yakho ngosuku lokuzalwa ukuze yonke into imise ingane kusukela ekuseni kakhulu kuze kube nomoya wokugubha. Phuma amabhaluni, uthenge izibani zase Bengal, ubeke ama-poster funny.
Vumela usuku lokuzalwa lomntwana lujabule futhi lujabule. Nikeza izingane injabulo!