Embuzweni wokuthi kungani indoda idinga ukwazi okwedlule intombi yakhe, Yebo, ngeke uphendule ngokushesha. Kuye ngesimo sengqondo salesi sihloko, kungenzeka ukuhlukanisa izigaba eziningana zabafana.
- Labo abanesithakazelo esincane noma abangenasithakazelo esedlule. Lokhu akukubi, kodwa kubalulekile ukunaka imininingwane ethile. Uma ukungenalo isithakazelo enjalo kumuntu kubangelwa inhlonipho yakhe ngenkululeko yakho, ngenxa yokuphila kwakho kwangaphambilini, lokhu mhlawumbe kuyindlela engcono kakhulu engenzeka. Indoda enjalo iqonda nje ukuthi inesikhathi esidlule inezinamathiselo kanye nobuhlobo, nengxenye yakhe yesibili. Indoda ayenzi inhlekelele kulokhu futhi ikholelwa ukuthi yayiyini, idlulile, futhi akukho lutho olungamvuselela.
Kodwa-ke, qaphela uma uqaphela ukuthi isoka lakho lingenasithakazelo esikhathini esidlule, hhayi ngenxa yokuthi uyakuhlonipha, kodwa ngoba ayidingi nhlobo. Mhlawumbe yena kanye nentando yakho yangempela ngeke abe nesithakazelo ngempela! Futhi noma kunjalo, kungaba njalo lapho umuntu ecabanga ukuthi: sihlangana naye, futhi kwenzekani ngaphandle kwale mihlangano, nami akufanele nanesithakazelo. Ngakho ungakwazi ukuletha isimo kuze kube seqophelweni lokungacabangi, lapho uhlangana nawe, angaba nombuthano owodwa noma ngaphezulu ohlangothini. Kulokhu, uzokuvumela okufanayo. Kodwa hlobo luni lobuhlobo! Lokhu kusakazeka kwemizwa kunoma ubani omunye ongazange alethe injabulo, ungakhohliswa! Ngakho qaphelani futhi zama ukuqonda ukuthi yini elandela isikhundla somfana wakho.
- Enye indlela - umfana unesithakazelo esikudala esidlule, ubuza imininingwane yobuhlobo bakho obudlule, njll. Mhlawumbe kunezizathu zokuqapha! Phela, ukuqonda okunjalo ngesifiso sokwazi konke mayelana nokudlulela kwakho kungachazwa ngokweqile futhi kumane - umhawu! Futhi uma kunjalo, esikhathini esizayo izimo ezinjalo zizophindaphinda ngokuqinisekile. Akulula ukuhlala nomuntu onomhawu. Kudinga ukubekezela okukhulu ukuchaza njalo ngezikhathi ezingekho isizathu sokusola kwakhe, ukuthi uyaphishekela konke, njll. Cabanga, usulungele impilo enjalo?
- Isimo sesithathu. Umfana ulalela ngesithakazelo esilalile kuphela mayelana nokudlula kwakho, okushoyo wena. Indoda ibona yonke into ngokuzithoba, ngisho nehlazo futhi ayiziphathe kahle ngezikhathi ezithile. Lokhu kuyindlela enhle. Kodwa ungadluli ngezindaba! Ngemuva kwalokho, uma umuntu engakhathaleli okwenzile ngaphambi kwakhe embhedeni nomunye, uma elalela konke ngokuthula, mhlawumbe unayo i-henpecked engase ibe khona futhi i-rag ilungele ukuthethelela ngokukhululekile nonke (ingabe uyayidinga lokho?) Noma ingenandaba neze Ungumuntu. Lokhu nawe ngokwakho kungakuvumela ukuba unqabe, futhi kusuka kuwe uzolinda ukunganaki okufanayo nokuzijabulisa. Futhi lokhu akukude nobuhlobo obunempilo obujwayelekile, futhi kusukela ekuhle nakakhulu kakhulu! Futhi sonke sifuna ukusondela kuye!
- Enye indlela - indoda - inhlebo. Yebo-yebo, kunjalo! Uma ubhekene nalokhu, angizange ngeluleka ukuhlala naye ebuhlotsheni obuseduze. Kungenzeka ukuthi ngemuva komhlane wakho utshela abangane ngokuningiliziwe kokubili ubuhlobo bakho bamanje kanye nokuphila kwakho kwangaphambilini. Ukuhlukahluka okunjalo kwamadoda kuvame ukutholakala phakathi kwabathandi besifazane abasha. Hlola amehlo akho othandekayo wakho. Angithandi yini ukuhleba ngawe nabanye (akubi nakakhulu kunowesifazane!) Abangane bakhe bathi ngani ngaye?
Uma uqiniseka ukuthi isoka lakho liyihlebo, hlala kude naye, ungaqali ubuhlobo obuseduze! Yebo, uma ungathí sina, uma lokhu kungukuthi uthando lwangempela, futhi ngaphambi komshado nokuphila ndawonye akude, ke qaphela. Mhlawumbe inhlebo yayiyi-fad yakhe encane engasha. Manje uye wahlala phansi futhi ayikho lutho nge intombi yakhe (okungenani, ngaye!) Awuxoxe. Kulungile-ke ube nenjabulo!
Ngakho kungani indoda kufanele ikwazi ukwazi okwedlule intombi yakhe? Indoda evamile izogcina isilinganiso kukho konke. Uzolalela ngendaba yakho ngentshisekelo, kodwa wenqaba ukwazi imininingwane. Ngeke akhuphukele emphefumulweni wakho futhi abe nomona futhi ngaphandle. Kodwa kuzodingeka futhi wamukele ukuthi ngeke abe nesithakazelo ekulaleleni impumelelo yakho yangaphambili ngaphambili. Indoda evamile kufanele ihlukumezwe yilokho okucatshangwa ukuthi intombi yakhe ingaba nayo enye. Yingakho engeke alalele imininingwane. Uyomane azinaki indaba yakho edlule. Ngokujwayelekile indoda idinga ukwazi ukuthi manje intombi yakhe iyamthanda, ukuthi ingokwakhe kuphela. Umuntu omuhle (futhi bonke abazingeli ngemvelo!) Ungahlosiwe ukwabelana nesilwane esilinde isikhathi eside (okungukuthi, intombazane yabo ethandekayo). Thatha lo mzuzwana.
Kodwa-ke, kunezizathu eziningana zokuthi kungani umuntu omuhle angase abe nesithakazelo esikhathini esidlule sezintombi zakhe. Esikhathini sethu esanele ngokwanele ngokuziphatha, amanye amadoda asaba kancane amantombazane angenabo ubuhlobo ngaphambi kwawo. Ngokuvamile, indoda kudingeka nje iqiniseke ukuthi ayikho iphutha ekukhethweni ukuthi okhethiweyo wakhe uyathandeka kwamanye amadoda (kufaka phakathi okuthakazelisayo). Kulokhu, okwedlule (kodwa hhayi okugcwele kakhulu!) Ukuphila komuntu wesifazane kuyisiqinisekiso sokulinganisa kwakhe kubamele besilisa, ubuhle bakhe, ukuheha kanye nenhle.
Nokho, ngisho nanamuhla, akuwona wonke amadoda afanayo. Abaningi babo, ngokuphambene nalokho, bakhetha ukungathí sina nokufinyeleleka ebuhlotsheni obunzima, kodwa amantombazane aphansi, abonakala ejwayelekile. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, lo mfana ukhuluma ngokubonakala komuntu akhethiweyo, nomuntu wakhe, nokuzibandakanya kwakhe.
Uma uhlolisisa isoka lakho, ngokungangabazeki, ukwehluleka phakathi kwakho kuzoncipha, futhi ubuhlobo bakho buyoqina futhi bube namandla.