Imfundo yezocansi ibamba indawo ebalulekile ku-arsenal of parents. Ingane yakhe iqala ukuqonda ubulili bakhe kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuphila kwakhe. Umndeni onendima ebalulekile ekufundiseni umfana njengendoda, kanti le ntombazane njengowesifazane ozayo.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ngokushesha ngemva kokubeletha, kudingeka uqaphele ukuthi i-genitalia yangaphandle yomntwana ikhiwa kanjani. Noma yikuphi ukuphulwa komuntu wesimo sezinhlamvu zangaphandle zobulili kungasetshenziswa kalula ukulungiswa kwasebusheni. Buka eduze ukuthi izitho zobulili zomntwana zikhula kanjani. Noma yikuphi okungajwayelekile: ukuthuthukiswa ngokweqile noma okungenele, ukuvuvukala, isimo sokungafani, ukuvinjelwa okungaphelele, ikakhulukazi kubafana, kudinga ukungenelela kwezokwelapha ngokushesha.Ingane inesithakazelo kakhulu emzimbeni wakhe. Uqala ukuyihlola ngokushesha, njengoba efunda ukuxhumanisa ukuhamba kwezandla zakhe. Qonda ukuthi ukuzihlola okunjalo kuyisigaba esivamile sokufundiswa ngokocansi kwengane yeminyaka emithathu yokuqala yokuphila. Ungesabi noma usolise ingane ukuze ungamboni ukwesaba nokwehluleka. Ukuziphatha kwakho okungalungile kungaholela ekutheni ingane izoba nezinkathazo kanye nesifiso sokwenza okuthile ngasese.
Lapho uneminyaka engama-3 kuya kwengu-6 ubudala, umntwana uqala ukuba nesithakazelo ekuhlukeni kwakhe kobulili kusuka ontanga, abafowabo nodadewabo, kanye nabazali bakhe. Le ntshisekelo yimbonakaliso yelukuluku lezingane futhi akuyona into ephathelene nobulili. Ngakho-ke, noma yikuphi ukuhlolwa kulesi sikhathi akufanele kube nokujeziswa, kodwa kuphela isiqondiso sakho esithambile "kuhlaka lokuhlonipha".
Siyabonga, ingane izokwazi ukuqonda ubulili bayo ngokushesha. Chaza ukuthi owesifazane uhluke kanjani kumuntu, umfana ovela entombazaneni. Okuwusizo umfana oneminyaka emithathu kungaba ngumdlalo othi "Umfana noma Intombazane": mnikeze izibalo ezimbili zezinkanyezi, okunye okumele kugqoke izingubo zabesifazane, kanti enye - izambatho zamadoda. Kulo mdlalo kufanele ube nesethi "wesifazane", "owesilisa", izingubo ezingathathi hlangothi, amathoyizi abafana, amantombazane nabangathathi hlangothi. Kubalulekile ukufundisa ingane ukuphatha umzimba wayo ngaphandle kokwesaba nokubandlulula, ukucacisa yonke imibuzo ngokuzithoba, usebenzisa izibonelo ezidingekayo ezivela ezincwadini nasekuphileni.
Ukuvuthwa kwengane kwengane akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuphila ngokobulili okuvamile kwabazali bakhe. Yiba yindalo, ingane kufanele ikwazi ukuthi umama nobaba bathandana. Ukuphila komndeni kwabazali kuyisibonelo kwengane ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane.
Akudingekile uma ingane ihamba ihamba. Akuvumelekile ngokuphelele ukuba ingane encane ibone izigcawu eziseduze ku-TV nabazali ngokwabo!
Kusukela esemncane, umfana uthatha isibonelo kubaba wakhe, ekhuluma ngendima yakhe yocansi esikhathini esizayo. Ngentombazane, umama uyisibonelo. Kumele ube yisibonelo esihle sokuba ingane ilandele.
Ekutsheleni ingane, into eyinhloko akufanele ibenze ngaphezulu. Khuluma naye ngezocansi kusuka esikhundleni sokuthembela nenhlonipho, ulimi olufinyelelekayo lonyaka wakhe, kodwa ungalulali konke okuncane kakhulu (ngaphambi kokugcoba kanye neklabishi).
Uma ubona ukuthi ingane yakho ikwazi ukushaya indlwabu, ungamsongo noma umjezise. Kungcono ukuthi ungagxila kulokhu. Zama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani enza lokho. Ukushaya indlwabu kungaba yindlela yokuxazulula ukucindezeleka, futhi, ngezinye izikhathi, ngeshwa, indlela kuphela yokuzolalisa futhi ujabule. Kulesi simo, nikeza ukunakekelwa kakhudlwana kwengane, umungeze ngokufudumala nothando. Ngezinye izikhathi lo mkhuba uhlelwe yizingubo zangaphansi ezincane ezigubungula, noma ukungahlanzeki okwanele kwezitho zofuzo, okubangela ukuba kube khona ukushaywa. Hlola ngokucophelela ukuhlanzeka kwezembatho nengubo yengane.
Sifisa inhlanhla emkhakheni wemfundo efanele yezocansi yengane yakho!