Ngemuva komshado, ngamunye womshado, ngendlela ehlukile, kuletha into emisha emndenini osanda kuwenziwe, kwezinye izimo ngisho nangemfihlo kusukela esikhathini esidlule esingavamile. Njengomthetho, isikhathi esithile "asinikezi izimpawu zokuphila", nokho, njengoba kwaziwa, imfihlo iba sobala ...
Lokhu kusebenza futhi kumanethiwekhi omphakathi athandwayo yanamuhla, lapho abantu abasha bathanda ukukhulumisana ngaphezu kwezwe langempela. Ngokuvamile abesifazane bayabona isithombe esivame ukuba indoda ihambelane nabantu abasha, futhi ingaba, futhi hhayi encane kakhulu, kodwa ihlukumeza kakhulu!
Kungakanani lokho okusongela umshado? Ingabe ubuhlobo obunjalo obunjalo bungabangela isahlukaniso? Imizwa ehlukahlukene ikukhathazayo: ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba, ukungabi nokuqiniseka esikhathini esizayo ... Ekhanda kunemibuzo eminingi kanye nezimpendulo eziphuthumayo kubo "kubalulekile ukuvimbela umyeni wakhe ukuba ahambisane" no "futhi uma ngenza kube kubi kakhulu?".
Iyini isizathu salokhu ukuziphatha komuntu? Amanye amantombazane, ukushada, "ukuhlukanisa" umuntu, ukuguqula ukuphila komuntu okhethiweyo ukuba abe yingxabano, ukuhlela i-hyperopeak, ngenkathi enelungelo lokuphila komuntu siqu nombono wakhe siqu, okuvaliwe kumanye amazwe, kuhlanganise nomlingani womfazi. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi wesilisa, ngoba inkululeko iyisici esiyinhloko somshado ojabulisayo futhi ophumelelayo.
Ngisho nangemva kokuba izithandani zingene embambiswaneni, le ndoda idinga ukuzizwa ukuthi ibuye ikhangele futhi ifuna abesifazane - lokhu kuyisiqinisekiso sokuthi ubulili bakhe. Ngakho, ukukhulumisana okubonakalayo kusiza ukubhekana nomsebenzi obelwe wona. Esikhathini lapho umyeni enabangane ne-soc. amanethiwekhi ikakhulukazi amantombazane - lokhu kubonisa ukuthi akazithembi kuye.
Ukungabaza ngokuphila kwemvelo, ngosizo lwe "ukuzijabulisa" okunjalo kuphakamisa ukuzethemba, kuzwa "ukuncintisana" nezinhlobonhlobo ezithandekayo zezintombi zakhe. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukuzondla futhi ubonise ubuqotho kumuntu othandekayo wakho kunokuba uzokwenzelwa yinoma iyiphi i-vertigo ye-intanethi.
Ngendlela, inothi - kukhona umehluko omkhulu kulowo muntu wakho oxhumana naye - namantombazane angajwayelekile ongawajwayele noma amantombazane, ayekade ehlobanisa ubudlelwane bomshado naye.
Esimweni sokuqala, ukuphaphama, akusho ukuthatha ukuxhumana komyeni ngenhliziyo. Kungani?
Ohlala e-Alaska wahlukanisa nomyeni wakhe, owayehlala naye iminyaka engu-8, ngenxa yokuthi wayehambelana nabangaphambili, kodwa ikakhulukazi owesifazane wayethuka iqiniso elibalulekile lokuthi umyeni wakhe wathumela imiyalezo kumakhompyutha asebenzayo. Ngesikhathi esebukeka kamuva, wachaza lo msebenzi ukuthi ube yisimo esiphuthumayo. Kodwa, njengoba afunga, "ngempela" akazange ashintshe umkakhe, konke kwakunomkhawulo wokudlala ngothando. Kodwa-ke, lona wesifazane waqhubeka enamathela ...
Uma i-MCH yakho isebenza ngokuxhumana no-intombi yakho yangaphambili noma umkakho, futhi kusobala ukuthi akukhulumi ngezingane, ngakho-ke kufanele uqaphele!
U-Irina, owayengumfazi osemthethweni ngesonto, washiya umyeni wakhe ngoba wathola ukuthi: umyeni wakhe akakakaze ayeke ukukhuluma nomngane wakhe omdala, ohlangana naye ngaphambi kwakhe. Umzila wokugcina wokubekezela wukuthi lo wesifazane oshade naye uthanda ukuthandwa kwangaphambili isikhathi eside.
Futhi, lokhu kuziphatha komuntu kungachazwa ukuthi umlingani akafuni "ukudlula". Ngokufanayo, okokuqala, ngoba, njengoba wazi, akukho buhlobo phakathi kowesifazane nowendoda. Abanye babo banethemba lokuqhubeka kobudlelwane.
Ungaba kanjani esimweni esinjalo kumfazi? Phela, akunakwenzeka ukwakha ukuphila okujabulisayo ngokungazethembi njalo nokuhlukumeza ukungabaza. Kumelwe uqale ufunde ukuqonda ukuthi yini ephakathi kwakho, leyo mizwa ekhanyayo ukuthi, mhlawumbe, uhlangane kuze kube yilolu suku. Kubaluleke kakhulu futhi ngendlela owazi ngayo ngobuhlobo bakhe, "uboya" kuyi-intanethi noma yena ngokwakhe ukhulume ngakho.
Yile nkhomba yalokho ubudlelwane obubambisene nabo obubusayo.
Mhlawumbe, umndeni wakho obuthakathaka ubhekene nenkinga, ukuhlukana ebuhlotsheni. Futhi uma ucabanga ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho bufinyelele esihlokweni, khona-ke abangane abangasese - isiqinisekiso esicacile salokhu.
Khuluma nomyeni wakho ngakho ngokusobala. Ake ungaba nezimfihlo. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi yena ngokwakhe uzokukhuluma ngesimo samanje, uyini umbono wakhe ngale ndaba? Kudinga ukuthi asuse umuntu engaziwa emphakathini. inethiwekhi, okungenani hhayi ebusweni obude, ngoba ngeke kubuyiselwe ukwethemba okulahlekile ebuhlotsheni bakho. Umlingani angasuswa ngokuphelele futhi agxiliswe ngokuphelele ezweni elinobuqiniso. Kulesi simo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umfazi onothando angathanda kangakanani, umyeni ngokwakhe uzokuzikhethela, ngoba unelungelo lokufana nalokhu ngokujabula kwakhe.
Yiqiniso, ungaba nomhawu kuze kube phakade, kodwa ungaphetha ngokuthi kwakuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu ebuhlotsheni. Futhi ungazami ukuphindiselela ngokuthenga enye ikhompyutha futhi uchithe isikhathi esiningi kumasayithi wokuphola - akunakwenzeka ukuholela kokuthile okuhle ...