Kuze kube maduzane, owesifazane onomntwana ngemuva kokuhlukaniswa kwaveza ukuzwelana nokuzwela emphakathini, ngoba wathola isimo somama ongayedwa futhi wakhulela ingane yakhe. Nokho, kuze kube yimanje, isimo esisempande sishintshile futhi sithole umbala ohluke ngokuphelele. Manje owesifazane owodwa okhula umntwana, cishe akunakwenzeka ukuba avele emehlweni abanye njengesisulu. Uye waqonda ukuthi uyumuntu ozimele futhi ozimele, ukuthi wenza isinqumo esinzima futhi akazange alahlekelwe yinhliziyo ngemva kokuhlukanisa. Kodwa naphezu kwalokhu, abesifazane abaningi abaye baba yizisulu zalezi zimo futhi baphoqeleka ukuba bahlale nengane ngaphandle kobaba, baphonsa ngokuphelele izandla zabo. Phela, owesifazane uqala ukucabanga ukuthi umntwana ngeke akhule, futhi empilweni yakhe siqu "umoya wezinguquko" ngeke uphuze.
I-Psychological Attect
Abamele ubulili obunamandla ngezinye izikhathi bakhuthaza ukuhamba kwabo emndenini, lapho umntwana engakulungele ukukhulisa ingane, nokungafuni ukushiya ingane naye ngemva kwesahlukaniso-ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukuzimela kwakhe. Yileyo ndlela abesifazane abanomntwana emva kwesahlukaniso kuhlala omunye komunye nomntwana. Yiqiniso, kunzima kakhulu abesifazane ukuba bavumelane nalesi simo, ngoba unesithombe esicacile ukuthi umuntu uyinhloko yomndeni, ubaba nomeluleki, kanti owesifazane uyisandla sakhe sokunene ekukhuliseni ingane. Kodwa lesi sithombe sigxila kakhulu, naphezu kokuthi limelela umndeni ogcwele lapho uyise wengane ekhona, naye uyindoda. Lona i-idyll elula, lapho ingane ikhiqizwe ukunakekelwa nokuzwelana kusuka kokubili, bobaba bobabili nonina. Kungenxa yalesi sizathu, owesifazane, ohlukanisa nomyeni wakhe, uhlaselwa kakhulu, okuyinto echaphazela ingane.
Ukungabi nantandane
Ukungakhokhisi zonke izinkinga ezithathwa yinkatho yowesifazane, kumele azungeze ingane ngokunakekelwa nokufudumala kabili, esikhundleni sayo ngomfanekiso wakhe, hhayi nje umama onakekelayo, kodwa nobaba onothando. Kodwa, yiqiniso, intandane ishiya umshicileli omubi enganeni. Ikakhulukazi uma isahlukaniso sabazali senzeke lapho ingane isazi kakade ukuthi kwenzekani kaningi, ngemuva kokuhlukanisa. Owesifazane uqala ukukholelwa ukuthi wonke amadoda amabi futhi akukho okuhle kubo okufanelekile ukulinda. Uma umntwana engumfana, kunzima kakhulu ukukhuthazelela konke lokhu, ngoba bakhuluma ngobaba wakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ingane ingathuthukisa umuzwa wecala mayelana nokuthi uyabamele ubulili obuqinile. Konke lokhu kungathinta ukuzethemba kwengane engathola amanothi wesifazane ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Ubaba akasizungezile, nansi isibonelo sokubonakaliswa kwesimiso samadoda asisekho.
Isithombe esibi
Uma owesifazane efuna ukukhulisa ububodwa bendodana yendodana, udinga ukuyeka ukukhuluma kabi ngamanye amadoda ngisho nangaphansi kukababa wakhe. Esimweni esibi kunazo zonke, umntwana uzokwakha impendulo yokuzivikela. Futhi esikhathini esizayo umfana uzophika ngokuphelele izindinganiso zomndeni.
Ukukhulisa indodakazi
Naphezu kokuthi indodakazi ithanda njalo umama wayo futhi ayidingi ukuveza izici zobuntu, lokhu akusho ukuthi kulula ukukhulisa indodakazi. Umbono mayelana nensimu ehlukile yentombazane yenziwa ngesisekelo sobuhlobo nobaba. Ngisho nokukhethwa kwesikhethi esizayo kuzosekelwa ngesithombe sikababa. Ngakho-ke, ukusetha intombazane ngokumelene nopapa noma ukwenqabela ukuba babonane umbono omubi.
Owesifazane onesizungu onomntwana
Ukuphila kowesifazane ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, okushiywe yodwa nengane ezandleni zakhe, kungaqhubeka ngezindlela ezahlukene. Owesifazane angagxila kuwo wonke amandla akhe ekukhuliseni ingane futhi aphile yena kuphela. Kodwa ukunakekelwa okunjalo ngokweqile kungaba "nemingcele" yayo, ngoba ingane ingakhula ngobugovu futhi ichithe. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuthi owesifazane, emva kokuphumula komshado, angabi yinto engaboni ngaso lombono nongqondo futhi afune indawo efanelekayo yena nomntanakhe. Vele ulahlekelwe ubunqunu bakho, uzama ukufeza impumelelo emsebenzini wakho futhi uzame izimfanelo zesilisa akufanele, ngoba ngisho owesifazane ohlukanisile onezingane angathola injabulo!