Uma ufuna abalingani abangabalingani bamadoda, lezi zinsuku ezilandelayo zihlukaniswa ngokwemvelo: owesilisa-umngane, owesilisa-ubaba, owesilisa-lover, indodana yendodana kanye nemikhakha yobudala eyithandayo owesifazane.
Izazi zengqondo zimelela ngokucacile umehluko phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane. Abesifazane ababukeli ubuhlobo bobulili njengobungane bobuhlobo, kaningi abaguquli abalingani babo, bavame ukucabanga ngeso lengqondo futhi ukucabanga kwabo akugcini kakhulu kunamadoda. Kwabesifazane, isandulela esikhulu sokuxhumana.
Kumuntu lapho ekhetha umlingani, uhlobo lobuhlobo bomzimba lubaluleke kakhulu (akubalulekile ukuthi umndeni ubuhlobo noma ubulili obungavamile), baqotho kakhulu ebuhlotsheni obuseduze, kuyilapho beshintsha kalula labo abalingani babo bobulili.
Ukukhetha umlingani inqubo yemvelo, engalawuleki. Abesifazane babona inani elikhulu lamadoda, okuvela kuwo umuntu oyedwa. Ngingathanda ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi naye, ukugcina ubuhlobo obukhula kancane kancane. Kuwesifazane, umuntu oyedwa uyakwazi ukugcwalisa sonke isikhala sakhe, impilo yakhe yonke.
Kukhona le nkulumo: "Indoda ifuna owesifazane ovela embambeni wakhe" - icala elihle lapho ababili batholana khona, futhi bafanelane kahle. Uma bekwazi ukubhekana nezinkinga ezinkulu nezinkinga ndawonye. Lena injabulo enkulu.
Isimo socansi sisebenza ngokushesha futhi ngokwemvelo. Owesifazane uhlale engakhethi umngane nje, hhayi nje umuntu ofanayo. Uzikhethela kuqala umlingani ongase abe khona, umthandi ofanelekayo ngokwakhe.
Ukukhetha umlingani kuyisimo esixakile esekelwe ebuhlotsheni babantu abangabonakali. Kusukela abantu abangabonakali bazibonakalisa ngokwabo.
UKsenia Ivanova , ikakhulukazi indawo