Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo kunomunye umbono wokuthi akunakwenzeka ukwahlukanisa abantu ngokwale mlingiswa. Ungabambeli izithembiso zamadoda nabesifazane. Kodwa ake sithi, abesifazane bathanda ukutshela izindaba, ukuhleka, ukugqokisa konke. Lapha phakathi kwabesifazane nokuhamba: "Wangithembisa, kodwa akazange ahambisane." Uma ucabanga ngakho, amadoda akalokothi akhulume ngakho, yiyo yonke imfihlo. Kodwa kusukela sesiqale ukukhuluma ngale ndaba, sidinga ukuqhubeka.
Manje ake sizame ukuqonda izizathu zalokhu konke, kodwa kuyoba nzima kakhulu, ngoba ingabizwa ngokuthi isayensi yonke esingeke sikwazi ukunqoba. Kodwa uma singakwazi ukukunqoba, siqonde izindlela zayo eziyisisekelo, singakwazi ukususa kancane kancane ukucabanga okuhlukahlukene okusishushisayo, futhi ikakhulukazi kulokho umuntu athembisayo futhi angasigodli izithembiso zakhe. Ukuqeda lezi zizindlo, siphinde siphumelele okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu okuqhubekayo emva kwabo. Kodwa ake singenzi iphariji bese siqala ngokuhlelekile.
Zama ukuthola umuntu othanda ukuphoqelelwa ukwenza okuthile ngokucindezela - akekho othandayo, ngaphezu kwalokho, futhi kuyadabukisa kakhulu, ngoba nabo bakunxusa ukuba uzwe kusuka kuwe futhi igama lakho lehlonipho. Akungabazeki ukuthi indoda esesimweni esinjalo iyokwenza lokho okufunwa kuye, futhi uma eyenza, umphefumulo, akayikutshala imali kule ndaba. Uma uthatha isimo esihle, khona-ke indoda kufanele ihambe ngaphambi kwalokho futhi ifune yona. Uma lokhu kungeke kwenzeke, ke ungowesifazane, lokho kungamcindezela futhi kumthumelele eceleni lapho isifiso sakho singaba yisinqumo sakhe, kodwa nawe kudingeka wenze lokhu ngokulungile, ngoba umphumela uncike ezenzweni zakho. Kunezinketho ezimbili: ukwethula i-ultimatum kumyeni, noma ukusizakala ngobumnene bakho besifazane, usebenzisa ubuqili nangokwengqondo.
Kodwa usadingeka ukhethe umzuzu ofanele, kuthiwani ngendlela ..., konke kuxhomeke esimweni, kwenzeke ukuthi zombili izindlela zibili zilungile. Into eyinhloko akuyona ukuyididanisa, hhayi ukukhuphula isimo, ukusebenzisa indlela engafanele, ngoba ngalesosikhathi, indoda yakho ngeke isigcine isithembiso sakhe, nomthetho: "umuntu uthembisa futhi akayibambeli isithembiso" uzoqinisekiswa futhi.
Isibonelo: intombazane ingalinda isikhathi esifanele, lapho umyeni futhi "ehluleka" lo msebenzi, futhi uthi: "Ngangazi ukuthi awukwazi ukwethemba noma yini" - lokhu kuzomcindezela ukuba abambe izwi elithembisiwe. Uzozama ukuziphindisela ngoba akakholelwa emandleni akhe nasekhono lakhe. Ngenxa yalokho: ngeke afune ukumdumaza futhi uzoqala ukumsiza kuzo zonke izicelo zakhe.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, intombazane ingayilalela umyeni wayo, ingene esikhundleni sayo, ngemuva kokumchazela isizathu sokungenzi umsebenzi obelwe wona. "Yebo! ": Uthi. Yebo, siyavuma, angaphendula ngokuthi "Angifuni", kodwa lokhu ngeke kube yimpendulo yomuntu. Ekuphenduleni, ungasho nje kuye: "Akunjengomuntu". Uzokhumbula lokhu ngokuqinisekile. Uma ehola izimpikiswano ezinkulu futhi athembisa ukugcwalisa icala eliqinisekisiwe kamuva, kusho ukuthi wakwazi ukumnqoba ngengxoxo elula nezolile. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi umyeni angahle akhohlwe nje, ngakho ungamemeza masinyane kuye. Ngesikhathi esilandelayo uzodinga ukukhumbula, futhi konke kuzoba kuhle.
Omunye umthetho "amadoda athembisa futhi angasigodli isithembiso" angeke aqondwe ngendlela efanele, ngoba indoda nje ayifuni ukucasula umphefumulo wakhe, ngoba uthembisa, uma kungenjalo ukuphoqa ngokushesha. Futhi isizathu salokhu uthando, ngoba angaboni ukudabuka kwakhe othandekayo, futhi lokho kuthatha okuningi kunalokho angakwazi ukukukhokhela. Yebo, le ndoda ayilungisisi, kodwa namanje ... Uma unecala elinjalo, ke-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ugcwalise isithembiso sakhe.
Kumele uqonde ngokucacile ukuthi umuntu kufanele abe nenkululeko yokuzikhethela, futhi noma yisiphi isithembiso akunika ngaphansi kwengcindezi akuthembisi ukugcwaliseka.
Okukufundayo akusiyo njalo, ngoba okuningi kuncike esimweni. Isibonelo, akufanele ukhohlwe ngobungani besilisa. Ungamnika uhambo oluya e-cafe okwesikhathi esithile, kodwa angakwazi ukuhlangana nomngane wakhe omdala nesondelene kakhulu. Cha, angeke ashintshe wena, kodwa udinga ukukhuluma naye kancane, ukuthola ukuthi impilo yakhe ihamba kanjani. Futhi lokhu kuyiqiniso. Uzobe wenza okufanayo, endaweni yayo, kodwa kukhona umehluko omncane phakathi kwakho. Kungenzeka ukuthi umyeni wakho wayengakutshelanga igama, futhi uzocasuka ngenxa yalokhu ukuthi uzoqala ukucindezela umyeni wakho.
Enye into ukuqonda lo mzuzu: isikhathi esidlula phakathi "kokubhalisa inkontileka" nokuqaliswa kwayo - lesi yisikhathi lapho umfazi anike umyeni wakhe i-credit of trust, wena, ngalesi sikhathi, umnike impilo engcono. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, uzizwa sengathi uvele esegcwalisile isithembiso, uyamphatha kahle.
Lapha isimiso esifanayo sisetshenziselwa izidakamizwa, okokuqala umyeni uthola "phezulu", bese - "ukuphuka", okuzobe kwenzeka kuzo zombili izimo.
Empeleni, sekuyisikhathi sokuthola isiphetho esivela ku-nje-ukufunda:
Indoda ayilona i-robot, yenza konke okungeke ikucasule, kodwa akahlali njalo, futhi lokho kuyiqiniso. Akudingekile ukucela kumuntu lezo zenzo azokukwazi ukuzenza, futhi azikho ngisho nobunzima bomsebenzi othile, kodwa ekubunzima komsebenzi wonke owenzayo ngesikhathi esithile.
Mhlawumbe, ngisho namadoda angenalo ukholo olwanele lwabesifazane kubo. Akwanele ukuthola ukudla nezocansi kuwe. Bafuna ukwazi kahle futhi baqonde ukuthi uyawazisa, kufanele uziqhenye ngakho. Myeke, okungenani ngezinye izikhathi athathe ikhefu, bese ehlala ejabule ngezenzo zakho.