Uqinisekile ukuthi le ndoda ingeyakho ngempela? Mhlawumbe kufanelekile ukufuna umphikisi obaluleke kakhulu noma uzame ukushintsha wena? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Valentina Yaroslavtseva sithi amantombazane avame ukumbuza ukuthi aziphathe kanjani esimweni esifanayo.
Isibonelo, omunye wamakhasimende akhe, u-Marina, wabelane ngokuthi uthanda umuntu oneminyaka eyishumi ubudala kunaye. Uneminyaka engamashumi amabili nanhlanu, futhi uneminyaka engamashumi amathathu nanhlanu. Umnyango lapho asebenza khona awukude nendawo okusebenza ngayo iMarna. Bahlangana ngengozi, uMarinin othandekayo ngokwakhe wathatha isinyathelo. Uhlukanisile. Kubonisa isithakazelo sezocansi kuphela ku-Marina. Bavame ukuhlangana, ngaphandle kokuvumelana - emacimbini, izenzakalo ezijwayelekile. Ngemuva kokuba amaqembu avame ukuya endlini yakhe. Futhi ekuseni ngakusasa ... isithuthi siphenduka sibe ithanga. UMarina uyaqhubeka nokusebenza emnyangweni oseduze. Futhi, njengokungathi akukho okwenzekile, uphonsa owomile: "hello", futhi uyahamba ngebhizinisi lakhe. U-Marina uphonseke ukuthi uyathandeka kumthandi wakhe kuphela ngomqondo wobulili, ufuna ukubona ububele babo, uthando, kanye ... ngisho nokuthinta ubuhlobo obunzima. Kodwa akakwazi ukwenza lokhu.
Lesi simo kunzima kakhulu. Ukuqhubeka kusukela ukuthi umfana emva komhlangano akahambanga naye oxhumana naye. Futhi lesi script sobudlelwane sadlalwa izikhathi eziningana kakade, uMarina uyamthakazelisa kuphela ngomqondo wobudlelwano bocansi. Kuye, umfana akafuni ubuhlobo obunzima. Yiqiniso, ngisho nalesi simo kukhona ithuba, noma ngabe lincane kangakanani, ukuthi abafana (ngokushesha noma kamuva) bazoqala ubuhlobo obunzima kakhulu. Zama ukwenza lokhu:
- Qaphela ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma uyeka ukubona lo mfana. Izwe aliphendukile, kwesokudla. Ngokuvamile, uma uphula ubuhlobo obunjalo ngokuphelele, ngeke ulahlekelwe lutho. Ngendlela, ukuphela okujabulisayo kwalesi sihloko, futhi, kungenzeka. Yilungele ukwamukela noma yimuphi umphumela walesi simo, noma ngabe kuyini. Lesi simo sengqondo sizosiza ukwenza ngokuhlakanipha, ucabange futhi uhlaziye hhayi kuphela isinyathelo sakho kuphela, kodwa futhi ukuphendula komthandi wakho.
- Cabanga ngokuthi ungayifinyelela kanjani into enomdlandla wakho. Uthanda futhi i-jazz nesayensi yezinganekwane. Noma ukuqoqa zemali? Noma udale i-cacti. Zama ukuthola iphuzu lokuhlangana phakathi kwakho okwakunesithakazelo esivamile. Zama ukuzibonakalisa ohlangothini okhanyayo, umangaze - isibonelo, bonisa ukuthi ulungiselela isidlo esimnandi esikudla okuthandayo saseJapane (uma ethanda ukudla). Noma unike umsebenzi owenziwe isiphambano kaKandinsky wakhe othandekayo ...
- Zama ukumhlangabeza "ngengozi," ngothando, kodwa ngaphandle kwempawu ecacile ukuthi ulungele ukumlandela manje futhi okungenani ekupheleni kwezwe.
- Hlela noma yikuphi "ngengozi" kodwa indaba ephuthumayo futhi ephuthumayo kuye. Isibonelo, khalaza ku-unitless system ye-computer engahlambuluki, okwamanje ixhomeke. Ukuthi isimo sokukhulumisana kwakho singasuka kule ndege "embhedeni we-party-martini" esikebheni sasekhaya, lapho ungazibonakalisa khona nje njengomthandi othanda ukuthanda, kodwa futhi njengomsebenzi osebenza kahle noma oxoxisana naye othakazelisayo ...
- Ngokuqondile ungaphonsa esifubeni othandekayo ngokunikezwa kothando, ukuthembeka okuphakade nezingane ezintathu - kungamethusa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma enokuhlangenwe nakho okungalungile kobudlelwane bomndeni obuphelile ngesehlukaniso.
- Uma isimo singashintshi ohlangothini oluthandayo, zama ngokucophelela ukuthi udinge yini lo muntu, ngabe lo mfana udinga ubuhlobo obunzima manje. Futhi uma uhlangana nabafana abafuna ubudlelwane obulula, cabanga ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuba ukhulele futhi ubuyekeze isimo sakho sengqondo kuwe nokuphila?