Umkhuba ngempela uyinto enyantisayo, futhi kaningi kuba okungafani nhlobo nothando. Ngemuva kokuba ubuhlobo bakho nomuntu obizayo bugujwa kakade usuku oluqinile, ngokuvamile akucaci ukuthi luhlobo luni lwesisekelo abasisekelayo. Futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe ubudlelwane obuvamile buqala ukukulinganisa ngisho nokucasula, futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe kunomqondo ocasulayo: "Mhlawumbe, ngokwanele?". Uyazi kanjani ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokudiliza inyunyana, futhi lesi sinqumo siyoba nini iphutha elingenakuqhathaniswa ngempela?
Kunezikhathi lapho abantu ababili, bebebathandana ngokuthandana, beba ndawonye bengatholi kahle. Ingabe lolu uthando olulahlekile noma ubudlelwane obunzima besikhashana? Kwenzeke konke. Mhlawumbe, uthando aluyiqiniso ngempela, futhi abantu bahlala ndawonye ngomkhuba. Noma mhlawumbe basuke bekhathele omunye nomunye, futhi kudingeka sibanike ithuba lokuphumula.Zama ukuhlukaniswa okwesikhashana. Ungahlanganyeli, ungaphuli ukubambisana - kuyoba buhlungu ngisho nobuhlobo obungenalo uthando-okungukuthi, ukuhlukanisa okwesikhashana. Akudingekile ukuba unyaka ugijimele komunye umkhawulo wezwe. Vele uphile kancane (isibonelo, hamba kumuntu ngezinsuku ezimbalwa) noma, okungenani, ukhawule ukuxhumana. Umcabango othi "Kanjani (a) lapho ngaphandle kwami?" Izovela noma kunjalo. Kodwa qaphela into esemqoka: ingabe ungaphuthelwa othandekayo? Mhlawumbe ububele bakho buzophuma ngamandla amakhulu emva kosuku lokuhlukana, noma kungenzeka ukuthi uyamangala ukubona ukuthi sekuyiviki lonke kakade. Kubalulekile ukuqonda - kuphela ngokwethembeka - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhululekile uma kungekho ingxenye yesibili. Ungakwazi yini ukubhekana nokuthula ngezindaba zakho, ucabange ngezinto ezingaphandle? Uma isikhathi sokuhlukanisa sidlula ngokuthula, khona-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi awudingi ngempela inkampani yalowo muntu. Kodwa uma ungazitholi izindawo, ukhohlwa zonke izikhalazo nokunganeliseki, kungenzeka ukuthi imizwa yakho isaphila futhi inethuba lokuvuselelwa. Kubalulekile ukuqonda uma uzizwa ungcono - enkampanini yomuntu noma ngaphandle kwayo.
Enye iphuzu - qaphela, ingabe abantu bobulili obuhlukile bayakudonsela? Lokhu kungase kungabi ngezinga lesifiso esichazwe, kodwa emicabangweni engapheli njengale "Futhi yena (a) angangithanda mina". Umuntu obambelele kakhulu eqenjini lakhe uvame ukukhathazeka kancane ngobulili obuhlukile - angakwazi ukuxhumana nabamele bakhe, kodwa nje abawaqondi ngaphandle kwezingane, hhayi ukuphawula ukuheha kwabo. Kodwa uma uvame ukuzibamba ucabanga ukuthi "Njengalokhu engelutho ..." futhi ufuna ukudlala ngothando kancane, mhlawumbe lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi isithakazelo sakho kwesinye isenzo socansi siye wakhuphuka - ngoba nje imizwa yakho ivaliwe.
Unomhawu? Yiqiniso, kunabantu abangabi nomhawu ngokuphelele, bonke banezimo ezihlukahlukene. Kodwa noma ngabe ubaphatha abantu abanjalo, kusekho nzima ukukholelwa ukuthi uhlale unganandaba nendawo lapho umuntu wakho okhethiwe echitha isikhathi futhi ubani onentshisekelo kuyo. Ake ucabange ukuthi manje, ngomzuzwana, nomunye umuntu ... Yebo, umhawu uvame ukufa ngemva kokuthanda ngenxa yomqondo wokuba nempahla yabantu abaningi, kodwa uma imicabango engenhla ingakhathazeki nhlobo, lokhu kuyiqiniso uphawu lokuthi konke sekuphelile.
Uthola ukukhangwa kocansi kumlingani wakho? Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukukhathazeka ebuhlotsheni kubhidlizwa, kodwa kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ukukhanga kuhlala noma kuvaliwe. Uma uthando lufa, ungakwazi ukubona isithombe ukuthi umuntu udinga ukulala ngokobulili, kepha lapho ecabanga ngomuntu othize, umlilo ushona ngokushesha.
Mhlawumbe, sicabange ngezibonakaliso eziyinhloko zothando, okungeyona isici sobuhlobo "ngaphandle komkhuba". Lalela imizwa yakho, bese uzokwazi ukwenza isinqumo esifanele. Kwenzeka ukuthi kudingekile ukuphumula isikhathi eside, empeleni ubuhlobo obungadingekile, futhi kwenzeka ukuthi ungadabuka kakhulu uma usukhuni izinkuni. Kunoma yisiphi isimo kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngomuntu empeleni, khona-ke ungaqonda ukuthi ukugcina ubuhlobo bakho obuvamile noma cha.