Okokuqala, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, ubudlelwano bocansi buhambisana nemiphumela enenzuzo empilweni yengqondo yomzimba yomuntu ngamunye. Abantu asebekhulile banesifiso sokuphila ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu. Ezinye izici zobungane obuseduze ekugugeni kufanele bazi.
Ezinye izinguquko ezincane ekuziphatheni ngokocansi kanye neminyaka kungenzeka zingabi nethonya elihle kakhulu ebuhlotsheni bobulili. Amadoda adinga isikhathi esengeziwe ukuze afinyelele phezulu, ukujula, kanye nokwakhiwa kungahle kwenzeke kaningi futhi kube nzima nakakhulu. Abesifazane nabo banamathele ekushintsheni - banganciphisa ukuqina kwebhinqa futhi bazizwe bomile. Le nkathi ihambisana nokuncipha kwezikhathi zobudlelwano bocansi. Ungesabi, ngoba uma uneminyaka yobudala kuyinto ejwayelekile. Kubalulekile ukuvumelanisa nalezi zinguquko futhi ufunde ukwamukela umlingani wakho kanye nawe ngokwakho.
Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza kule simo ukuthanda omunye nomunye, bonisa ukuthembela nenhlonipho. Nikeza ukwesekwa ngokomzwelo kumlingani wakho, thola omunye nomunye uma ungatholi into enjengeyandulela, ekuphileni kocansi. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo nokwesaba kungaqhubeka nokucindezela izinkinga zocansi. Futhi ungafihli imizwa yakho kumlingani wakho. Khuluma ngezinkinga eziye zavela, ngendlela enhle futhi ngendlela enenhlonipho. Ungazivumeli wena nomlingani wakho ukuba uthuthukise imizwa yecala.
Khumbula ukuthi ukuya ocansini nokungena kungenye yezinhlobo zamasu oklanyelwe ukuthokozisa ngokocansi. Kunezinye izindlela eziningi. Funa futhi uthole ezinye, izindlela ezintsha ukuze uthole ukwaneliseka. Noma yikuphi ubudala kufanelekile ukukhipha i-monotony kanye nesimiso ekuphileni kocansi. Ungazama amasu amasha, ukufaka okusha. Isimiso esibalulekile sokubaluleka esiteshini esiseduze ukuthi kufanele bobabili babathande futhi noma yiziphi izinto ezintsha kufanele zenziwe ngokuvumelana.
Phakathi kwezinye izinto, kisses, amazwi othando nomusa nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi esivuthiwe, kuyohlale isisekelo sobuhlobo obuseduze. Abantu abaningi banezinto ezinjalo ezilula, ezibonakalayo, njengamazwi othando nothando olukhulunywa phakathi nemidlalo yezocansi, kubangele injabulo nenjabulo.
Khuluma ngokukhululekile futhi ungesabi lokho okufunayo ngesikhatsi esithile. Uma ubonisa umlingani wakho imizwa yabo, imizwa nemicabango, inomthelela omuhle ebuhlotsheni bobulili futhi kusiza ukuzwa injabulo eyengeziwe. Noma kunjalo, kukho konke okudingayo ukuze uhloniphe incazelo yegolide, ungagcizeleli kakhulu ngalokhu futhi uhambisane namazwana ngokunyakaza komlingani wakho, shiya indawo yokuhlunga. Kulesi simo, kuyomane kumjabulise.
Ngenxa yokuthi khona-ke kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukubuyela ezingeni elidlule lomsebenzi wocansi, akufanele usiyeke ubuhlobo obuseduze isikhathi eside. Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi ezilwaneni zamadoda nabesifazane abadala, i-hormone testosterone, eyabangela ukukhangwa ngokocansi, iseneminyaka eminingi.
Ukukhangwa ngokocansi ekugugeni akunciphisi kakhulu. Futhi lokhu kuyinto evamile. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukwehla emsebenzini wezocansi nakho kungabangela izifo zesimiso sezinzwa, ukuphazamiseka kwe-hormonal, ubuthakathaka obuvamile, izidakamizwa ezihlukahlukene zokwelapha zokwelashwa kwezifo eziphakeme, njll, nokucindezeleka. Kungcono kuwe uma uthintana nodokotela wezocansi noma udokotela womndeni.
Isihloko sobulili phakathi kwabantu abaneminyaka ephakathi nesikhathi esidala sakhula ngokushesha eminyakeni eyishumi edlule, le nkinga ibonakala ibalulekile futhi ngenxa yalokho, ezinye izifundo zokukhangwa ngokocansi phakathi kwabantu abaye bawela umkhawulo weminyaka engu-50 zenziwe. Bahlaziywa bobabili besilisa nabesifazane balesi sizwe. Ngenxa yocwaningo, amaphuzu athakazelisayo abonakalisiwe, kokubili ngesilinganiso sokwaneliseka ngokobulili okwamukelwe kanye nokuxhomeka kwenjabulo kumasu athile kubantu emva kweminyaka engu-50.
Isibonelo, kwavela ukuthi labo abaphumelele ukufezekisa izinga lokuxhumana "elihle kakhulu" noma "elihle kakhulu" lokuxhumana nabangane babo bokuphila abaneminyaka engama-50 bebaningi imibhangqwana ejabulayo.
Kodwa-ke, imibhangqwana enomholo omkhulu wezezimali ayizange ijabule ngokuphathelene nokukhangwa ngokocansi kunezibhangqwana ezishadile ezinomholo ophansi.
Ngesikhathi socwaningo kwacaca ukuthi iningi lamadoda nabesifazane abaneminyaka engu-50 nangaphezulu, beqiniseka ukuthi umshado wabo ujabule ngempela, bajabulela ukuphila kobulili nemibhangqwana yabo. Izinto ezifana nokuvama kobulili nomlingani noma oshade naye, izinga lokududuza ekuxoxweni ngesihloko socansi, nokuthi abalingani abayithokozelayo babalulekile futhi.
Ngokusho kwemiphumela yocwaningo, kwatholakala ukuthi impilo yezocansi iyisici esibalulekile emshadweni, njengoba kuchazwe iningi lamadoda nabafazi abajabulayo nabangathokozi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, amaphesenti amakhulu abesifazane abashadile ababengabheki umshado wabo bajabulile ukuthi ukuboniswa ngokocansi kuyindawo ebalulekile yokuphila komshado. Lokhu kwaba yisici esibaluleke kunazo zonke empilweni engajabuli yabafazi emishadweni cishe kuzo zonke izifundo.
Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi ukuthembeka komshado kuqhubekile phakathi kwabayeni nabafazi abaxoxwa nabo, kepha amadoda angama-23% nabesifazane abangu-8% bavuma ngomhlangano owodwa noma ngaphezulu ngaphandle komndeni emva kweminyaka engama-50. Idatha enjalo ifanele kulabo abangazange babhubhise umndeni ngenxa yenanveli ohlangothini. Ezinye izibalo zibonisa ukuthi amadoda angu-80% nabesifazane abangu-60% ngesikhathi sokushada kwabo bashintsha umlingani wabo wokuphila okungenani kanye. Ngokusho kocwaningo olusanda kwenziwa eNgilandi, isigamu sabesifazane abaxoxwa nabo okungenani bekanye nokuphinga. Futhi lokhu kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abesifazane baseNgisi babhekwa ngokuthi "kubanda".
Njengoba ucwaningo lubonisa, imvamisa yobuhlobo bocansi ekugugeni, umsebenzi kanye nokwaneliseka ngokocansi kungase kungabi nomthelela omuhle kakhulu enkingeni yezempilo. Kodwa-ke, bobabili amadoda nabesifazane baqhubeka nobuhlobo bobulili futhi bajabulela ubulili, naphezu kokuthi ngenxa yokugula, ezinye izithiyo zabonakala zingenakwenzeka. Lokhu kwakunjalo uma abalingani bebasebenza ngokucansini nangaphambi kwesifo.