Indaba ejwayelekile, sishada, njengomthetho, ngothando lomunye nobudlova, kodwa ngokushesha imishado eminingi inika ukukhanya okuphawulekayo, ngaleyo ndlela ibe yinkimbinkimbi yomndeni. Bobabili niyeke, njengakuvamile, ukwenza izipho ezimnandi, izinkumanga, ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho, ukuthi awukwazi kanjani ukwenza ngaphandle komunye nomunye. Yonke impilo eyakuzungezile yaqala ukusekelwa kuphela kwizicelo ezibuhlungu nezintandokazi. Ukuza njalo kusihlwa emsebenzini, uzama, ungaxhumani futhi ungahlanganyeli nezinkinga zakho, futhi noma yikuphi ingxoxo engabalulekanga kakhulu ingashintsha ibe yinto ehlabayo. Bobabili baqala ukuzibamba ngamafutha, ukuthi uma ubona umyeni omncane, unciphisa isimo sakho somzwelo nesisulu. Uma kungenjalo, uvele ucaselane. Ubulili, emndenini wakho, bube ngukungaqondi okude nokungekho okungokoqobo, futhi ngamanye amazwi, umane wanyamalala empilweni yakho. Indoda ityala umfazi - umyeni womyeni njalo njalo usuku nosuku. Sekuyisikhathi eside eyeka ukuzizwa evikelwe, ethandwa, efunwa futhi edingekayo. Wazithola esesimweni esifanayo. Lapha akusilo uthando nokuqedwa okuphelele kwalabo abashade nabo. Njengoba bethi, izinzwa lapha azizwa. Nakhu, omunye wabambalwa, izimpawu ukuthi indoda nomfazi abathandani.
Izizathu zalokhu, ngokuphathelene nokusebenza kwengqondo, kakhulu. Futhi, kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi ukuze bahlale njalo emshadweni wabo, abashadile bangakwazi, njengonyaka wokuphila kwabo okuhlangene, nangemva kweminyaka emihlanu, eminyakeni eyishumi noma ngaphezulu. Yiqiniso, emibhalweni eminingi yesikhathi sokushada, lokhu kuphazamiseka kwemizwa yokuhlukumezeka eqhubekayo kwenzeka kakhulu kaningi kunezigaba zokuqala zomshado. Masibuyele ngokufanayo ngezizathu, ngenxa yokuthi uthando emndenini phakathi kwabashadile luvame ukuphela. Okokuqala, ngifuna ukukhuluma ngokuthi thina ngokwethu sizitholela injabulo yethu futhi, ngokufanele, imizwa yethu. Futhi, ngokuphindaphindiwe kunalokho, nathi ngokwethu sichitha uthando lwethu, ngaleyo ndlela sifuna umlingani wethu ukuba anike isikhundla sakhe futhi ahlanganyele nothando lwakho nawe. Isibonelo, ukunganeliseki njalo komunye nomunye, ukuhlambalaza nokuxabana - laba "ababulali" bokuqala kwemizwa yethu. Izinkinga zomkhaya noma ukungahambisani kahle kwabalingiswa, vele udlale indima ebalulekile. Ngokuqondene nalezi zinsuku, ngokuvamile abantu ngaphambi komshado bangaphinde bafundisane, futhi kakade ukuphila okuhlangene, okunendandatho eminwe, kubonisa abantu abaningi eminye imibala.
Esinye isizathu wukuthi abashade bafundana nje kuphela kusukela ekukhunjweni kuya ekutheni, belahlekelwa yinoma iyiphi inzalo. Ubuhlobo babo buye balahlekelwa uthando olukhulu, imizwelo, okuhlangenwe nakho. Futhi, njengoba uyazi, ukuphila, ngaphandle kwezikhathi zothando, kuyonakalisa uthando emcimbini walo. Kulesi simo, indoda nomfazi balahlekelwa ukucansi kwabo, bezama ukuzifunela kwabanye abantu abathandayo. Lapha, kufanelekile ukufaka. Lokho okugijima, kokubili indoda nomfazi ngakwesobunxele, ngokuvamile badideka imizwa yabo engqondweni futhi lo mbhangqwana, njengesiphetho, ngisho nabo ngokwabo abakwazi ukuphendula umbuzo olula: "Ubani othanda, okwamanje?". Kusukela ngenhla, saqaphela ukuthi kunezizathu eziningi zokunganeliseki ngokuphila ndawonye okuholela othandweni. Konke lokhu kuyabangela, ngqo ukwenza isisekelo esihle sezingxabano emndenini, okuholela ekuveleleni kwemizwa enjalo ephakeme njengothando, ekungeneni okukhulu okungajwayelekile. Futhi, njengesiphetho, umfazi nomyeni baqala, ukumane nje baphathane emoyeni baphile njengekati nenja ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa. Ngakho-ke, ukuphila akuyona enhle. Yiqiniso, ukuze angamhlukumezi, hhayi yena, le nkinga kufanele ixazululwe ngokushesha noma kamuva. Uma uke wafaka isikhathi eside futhi unesiqiniseko sokuthi usuke waziwazana nje kuphela, ngqo uqale ukwenza okuthile. Ungesabi ukushintsha noma yini, ngoba ngokuqhubekayo udonsela lo mthwalo, ngokuqhubekayo kuyoba kubi nakakhulu. Wena nje, ngokushesha noma kamuva, qala ukuzonda oshade naye, futhi unayo futhi kuze kwenzeke, udinga ukwenza okuthile. Ukuphila ngaphandle kothando endlini eyodwa nokubonana nsuku zonke akusivivinyo esilula kumfazi noma kumuntu.
Uma umndeni wakho unabantwana, wazi ukuthi ungazami kanjani ukulondoloza umndeni ogcwele kubo, ngeke uphumelele nhlobo. Kufana nokuphila nge-powder keg, okuyinto noma yiliphi ilanga elingaqhuma. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ingane, ekuqaleni, izwa ukungezwani kwengqondo ngenxa yobuhlobo obunzima phakathi kwabazali. Kungcono ukuthi ingane ayihlali emndenini ogcwele, kodwa ekuphumuleni okuphelele ngokomzwelo, hhayi ukulalela izingxabano zakho kanye nezihlazo. Ingane, lapho ikhula, iyoqonda konke. Into esemqoka akusho ukumtshela ukuthi ngubani omubi nokuthi ngubani omuhle. Ufuna, mvumele akhulume noyise noma unina, hhayi kuye ngokuthi abazali bahlangene noma cha.
Yiqiniso, emndenini ngamunye isimo simane sodwa futhi kungenxa yalokhu, okokuqala, ukuthi konke kufanele kukhulunywe kuthebula "lomndeni" lokuxoxisana. Ukuzwa umbono ohlangene ngalolu daba. Futhi, ekugcineni, unqume ukuthi ufuna ukuqhubeka uhlala ndawonye ngenxa yezingane, noma indlela engcono kakhulu ukuphuka nje. Ungakwazi, okwenza, uphumule empilweni yomndeni futhi uphumule komunye nomunye, uhlala ngokwehlukana isikhathi esithile. Njengomkhuba wokubonisa, ngezinye izikhathi kusebenza ngisho. Ukuba kude komunye nomunye kanye nemicabango yabo, abantu bakuthola kulula ukuziqonda futhi baqonde ukuthi bafunani empilweni empeleni. Mhlawumbe kungukuthi lo mbhangqwana usuke udidana omunye nomunye futhi yingakho badidekile emizweni yabo, bese kuthi inkulumo! indoda nomfazi abathandani "kulahlekelwa ukuhambisana. Futhi, njengoba wazi, ibanga liphulukisa kunoma yikuphi ukugula ngokomzwelo. Uma ubona ukuthi umndeni uqhekeke ngokuphelele futhi awukwazi ukuwubuyisela nganoma iyiphi indlela, khona-ke kukhona indlela eyodwa kuphela yokuphuma - isehlukaniso. Zikhulule yena futhi ngentando yothando olusha.