Ukumaketha nokuzibandakanya - ezedlule nezamanje

Umshado ungenye yezenzakalo ezithinta kakhulu ekuphileni komuntu wonke. Kodwa hhayi kuphela izingubo zomshado, izimbali, izipho, amadili ahambisana nalesi senzakalo. Amasiko nemikhuba igcizelela ukubaluleka kwalesi senzo. Yiqiniso, eziningi zazo zilahlekile, noma kancane kancane zilahlekelwe ukubaluleka kwazo. Ukuqinisekiswa okucacile kwalokhu kuwumkhuba wokwenza umdlalo.
Umcimbi womshado wabokhokho bethu wawubaluleke kakhulu, futhi wawuyisinyathelo sokuqala ekuqaleni kokuphila ndawonye. Ngalezo zinsuku, ukukhwabanisa kwenzeka ngezinsuku ezithile: ngoLwesibili, ngoLwesine noma ngezimpelasonto. Futhi usuku olumisiwe, njengendlela eya endlini yentombazana, lwalugcinwa ngasese. Abahleli abayinhloko bemikhakha babengabalingani nabalingani bokufanisa. Indima yomdlalo wokudlala umdlalo yayikukhethwa komlobokazi. Wayazi konke hhayi nje ngomndeni wakhe, dowry, kodwa futhi ngemvelo, imikhuba yowesifazane ongase abe khona. Abathengisi, njengombuso, bamiswa ezihlotsheni zomkhwenyana ozayo.

Umcimbi womshado wawubuye ube nemasiko ambalwa, isibonelo, abakwa-matchmaker abasheshe bafinyelele esangweni lentombazane baya emgodini wakhe, ngokushesha umshado uzokwenzeka. Futhi kwakungenakwenzeka ukuhlala ngesikhathi sokuxoxisana, ngaphandle kwalokho intombazane ngeke ishade.

Ngokuvamile kusukela kubalingani bokuqala abavumelananga nabazali babo, okwakungasho ukuthi ukwenqaba - kwakungeyona into engalungile ukuvuma ngokushesha umshado. Ama-matchmakers athunyelwe okwesibili, ngisho nangesithathu. Uma umkhwenyana ozayo engathandi, ngakho-ke akunjalo ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukulahla abalingani ngendlela ebukhali. Babiza izizathu eziningi, isibonelo, babhekisela eqinisweni lokuthi le ntombazane isencane kakhulu noma ukuthi i-dowry ayanele.

Ngemuva kokumiswa komdlalo, abazali bomabili bobabili baxoxisana ngosuku lomshado, izindleko, abadayisi nabalingani bomshado, ngemuva kwalokho bavakashela indlu yomyeni, lapho konke kuphelile khona ngomkhosi.

Kodwa namuhla umkhosi womshado awusenaso incazelo ejulile njengangaphambili, kungcono kube yinto ekhokhisayo emlandweni, ngoba abantu abasha ngokwabo banquma ukwenza umshado, bakhethe usuku, benze uhlu lwezivakashi, bakhethe ukuthi kuyoba khona umshado, njll. Ukumaketha kwamanje kungenzeke kokubili ngaphandle kokubamba iqhaza kwezingane ezivela kumfana nentombazana, futhi kanye nabo. Ngokuvamile ukufana komdlalo kufana nalokhu: abantu abasha bahlela ukushada, khona-ke umkhwenyana uza endlini yomakoti futhi uyambuza ngezandla zabazali bakhe, kodwa izinkinga zezinhlangano zixazululwa ngokushesha ngemuva kokumazi kwabazali bomakoti nomkhwenyana. Okungukuthi, ezimweni eziningi, isici somdlalo ku-matchmaking asitholakali ngokuphelele futhi kunomumo owodwa kuphela.

Kodwa uma ama-matchmakers angena ebhizinisini: abantu abathokozile abayinkimbinkimbi, khona-ke lesi simiso siphenduka sibe umkhosi othokozayo futhi ongathandanga. Njengasekhulu leminyaka edlule, emnyango wendlu, kukhona ukukhala: "Unezimpahla, sinomthengisi; Unentombazane, sinomuntu omuhle; Sinesihluthulelo, unekhiye. " Ngakho, izivakashi ngokushesha zixwayisa abazali ngenhloso yabo. Abathengisi baqala ukudumisa "umthengisi", bekhuluma ngemisebenzi yakhe yokuzilibazisa, umsebenzi, ukuchuma, izinhlelo zekusasa. Umshado womlobokazi - ukudunyiswa kwe "izimpahla", kwenzeka endaweni efanayo yokukhululeka nokukhululeka. Yiqiniso, akwenzi ngaphandle kwemibuzo ekhohlisayo umakoti nomkhwenyana abangazange baxoxe ngazo.

Ngokuba ukuboniswa kwabadlali bezemidlalo kulandela isinqumo sabazali, ngubani ozovuma ukunikeza intombi yakhe emshadweni.

I-matchmaking yayilandelwa ukubandakanyeka okwakwenziwa endlini yomakoti, lapho izihlobo nabangane bomabili bobabili bamenywa khona. Okhethiwe wanikeza intombazane indandatho ngetshe. Ubaba womakoti wamemezela umshado ozayo futhi usuku oluqondile lwaluvele lubekwe lapha. Kuphela emva kokubandakanyeka, intsha ibhekwa njengowomakoti nomkhwenyana. Lena yinye yezinkathi zothando nezithandanayo, ezandulele umshado.

Njengoba isiko lokugadla likhona futhi manje. Yilokho kuphela, lesi siko saba nemibandela eminingi, futhi kubhekisela kuyo njengesiko esihle. Namuhla yilusuku lokufaka isicelo futhi kukhona uhlobo lokuqhaqha olunikeza abantu abasha izinyanga ezimbili ngesinqumo sokugcina sokuhlangana noma cha.