Umqondo "wokucindezeleka" ukhulu kakhulu. Ngokuvamile, uma sithi "uhlala ecindezelekile njalo," sisho imizwelo emibi: ukukhathazeka, ingozi, ukuphelelwa ithemba, ukungabi nethemba ... Kodwa, ngokusho kombhali wenkolelo yokucindezeleka, uHans Selye, cishe zonke izenzo zethu zibangela ukucindezeleka. Phela, ukusabela komzimba (kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo) kuzo zonke izindaba, isithiyo, ingozi kuyisisusa esinamandla. Ngokwale ncazelo, sihlale sithonywa ukucindezeleka. Ngakho, ukucindezeleka kanye nendima yayo empilweni yabantu kuyisihloko senkulumo yanamuhla.
Siwela emgwaqweni omatasa, sihlangabezane nomngane ongakamboni iminyaka eminingi, sijabule ngokulinganisa okuhle kwengane futhi sikhathazeke ngoba umyeni wami walahlekelwa umsebenzi. Ukufa okungazelelwe komuntu othandekayo kubangela ukucindezeleka, kodwa injabulo yangempela mayelana nokuzalwa kwengane ibangela ukucindezeleka okuncane. Ngoba yonke imicimbi, ngisho noma ihlanganisa izinguquko ezinhle ekuphileni, iholela esidingo sokuyiphendula, iphoqa umzimba ukuba uhlanganise. Kumele sijwayele lezi zinguquko, zamukele futhi ufunde ukuthi ungahlala kanjani nazo.
Ukuphendula kokucindezeleka
Ukubhekana nezimo ezicindezelayo nendlela yokuphila ngaphansi kokucindezeleka yindaba eqondile. Kuyini ukukhathazeka okukhulu komuntu oyedwa ngeke kuqondwe omunye. Ngomunye umuntu, ukushaqeka okukhulu kungabangelwa ukukhuphukela ezintabeni noma ukugxuma ngeparachute, ngisho nalabo, kanti omunye ngeke kube ngokwanele. Ngoba ngamunye wethu uzwa ukukhathazeka nokuhlukumezeka ngesinye isikhathi, ukuhlukana okuhlukile kubangela ukucindezeleka kithi.
Abanye bethu basetshenziselwa ukuchitha isikhathi ngokusheshisa nokucindezeleka, abanye bakhathele yizinto zonke, bayamahloni kwesimiso futhi bafuna impilo yokuthula. Ukucindezeleka kuba yingozi kumuntu uma kukhulu ngokweqile, kaningi futhi kuhlotshaniswa nemizwelo emibi. Khona-ke ukubhujiswa kwesisusa esihle kungabangela izifo eziningi zomzimba nezingokwengqondo. Kodwa akumelwe sikhohlwe ukuthi ukucindezeleka okuhle nakho kungaba yingozi! Imizwelo emihle kakhulu ayinakulimaza kakhulu kunamabi. Ikakhulukazi uma umuntu ephazamiseka yizinzwa nezinhliziyo ezibuthakathaka. Lokhu kufanele kucatshangelwe, okuhlose ukwenza umuntu "ukumangala". Ngisho nemnandi kakhulu kubo ingaba inhlekelele kubantu abanomzwelo nozwelayo.
Indima enhle yokucindezeleka
Yebo, ukucindezeleka kungasiza. Lokhu kwakha ukucindezeleka kanye nendima yayo empilweni yomuntu inqatshelwe abaningi, becabanga ukuthi ngokucindezeleka kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo kudingekile kuphela ukulwa. Lokhu akunjalo! Yiqiniso, ukucindezeleka kuyinto yokwethuka umzimba. Kodwa lokhu kuhlanganiswa kwazo zonke izinkomba ezibalulekile, ukutholakala kwezinqolobane eziyimfihlo, okungazange kube khona umuntu ngaphambili. Isibonelo, ukucindezeleka kuhlotshaniswa nengozi ethile, into efana ne "ukuhlolwa". Khona-ke kuyoba lula ngawe ukuba uqaphele izici zakho ezinhle nezimbi. Izilinganiso ezilinganiselwe zokugqugquzela ukusebenza ngendlela yokucindezeleka zishukumisa isenzo futhi ziyindlela yokushayela. Ukucindezeleka kusenza sibe namandla okuxazulula izinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi, futhi ngenxa yalokho sithatha ibhizinisi elisha futhi siwagcwalise ngempumelelo. Sisebenza ngokusheshisa, futhi ngezinye izikhathi senza izinto ezingenakwenziwa ngaphandle kokucindezeleka. Abanye abantu basebenze ngokugcwele esimweni sokucindezeleka futhi bafuna into engabe isakwazi "ukuyixhaphaza", ibenze ukuba benze okwengeziwe. Mayelana nabantu abanjalo bathi "ubheka izinkinga ekhanda lakhe". Ngakho kunjalo. Izinkinga nokucindezeleka kwenza ucabange, uqhubekele phambili, uphumelele ukunqoba okusha. Ngisho nabosayensi bezengqondo bakholelwa ukuthi ukusebenza ngaphandle kwezinto ezijabulisayo, ukuncintisana kanye nengozi akuyona into ekhangayo kakhulu.
Ukulungiselela izivivinyo ekolishi ukucindezeleka okukhulu kubantu abasha. Ukudlula ukwesaba ukwehluleka, kukhona ukugqugquzela imizamo emikhulu ngaphakathi. Ukunakwa kugcizelelwe, ukuhlushwa okuthuthukisiwe kuthuthuke futhi ubuchopho buyenyuka. Uma ukuhlolwa kuthathwa, indawo yokukhathazeka inelisekile, umthombo wokucindezeleka kanye nokuphazamiseka kuyanyamalala, lowo muntu uzizwa ejabule.
Ukushayela imoto. Endleleni, lesi yisinye isithiyo. Ukucindezeleka kwenza umuntu asebenze okwesikhashana, akwenze usebenze ngokushesha, izimpawu zokubuka nezinye izimoto emgwaqweni. Uma umuntu egxilile ngesikhathi esesondo - uyaqaphela, uzama konke okusemandleni akhe ukugwema izingozi futhi ngokuvamile uyaphumelela. Ngubani ovame ukungena engozini? "Abahamba ngezinyawo" abangesabi lutho. Abanayo ukucindezeleka, akukho umuzwa wengozi, akukho ukugqugquzelwa ukunakwa. Ukucindezeleka kulokhu kusiza ukugwema ingozi.
Uhlose ukushintsha indawo yokusebenzela ukuze ukhangele, ukhokhelwe kakhulu, ube nethemba elihle lekusasa. Ngaphambili ingxoxo nenhloko yenkampani entsha. Ngokuqinisekile lokhu kuwukucindezeleka okukhulu. Ingabe ufuna ukwazi ukuthi ungathini enkulumweni yakho yokuqala, ukugqoka, indlela yokwenza izinwele nokwenza? Ingabe udinga ukukhuluma okuningi, noma, kungcono ukulalela, nje ngokuphendula imibuzo? Uma ucabanga ngalesi simo, upheqa izimo ezihlukahlukene ekhanda lakho, inhliziyo yakho ishaya ngokushesha. Unomuzwa wokuthi ukucindezela kwanda kuze kube mzuzwana lapho uhlangana nomqashi omusha, welula isandla sakho ukubingelela bese uqala ukukhuluma. Uma lesi simo sithuthuka, ukucindezeleka kwakho kuhamba kancane kancane. Nokho, ikunika amandla futhi uvuselele. Ugxilwe futhi unzima, uyazi ukuthi yini oyifunayo nokuthi yini abayifunayo kuwe. Ukhohlwa kancane kancane izikhathi zokwesaba ezihamba nawe imizuzu yokuqala yokuxoxisana.
Kuzo zonke lezi zimo, ukucindezeleka kudlala indima ebalulekile ekuphileni komuntu. Esimweni sokugqugquzela, ukubhekana nokucindezeleka komzimba, kusiza ukugxila ezintweni eziyinhloko, ukuqoqa wonke amandla ukuze uthole lokho okufunayo. Ukucindezeleka ngokulinganisa okufanele kunqunywe ngumsebenzi, kuyasiza.
Indima enganaki yokucindezeleka
Uma unenkinga enkulu futhi uhlala isikhathi eside kakhulu - lokhu kungaholela ekuphazamiseni okukhulu ekusebenzeni kwezitho ezihlukahlukene, futhi ngezinye izikhathi umzimba wonke. Ukucindezeleka kungathinta isimo emndenini, umsebenzi wezobuchwepheshe kanye nempilo. Ukucindezeleka kungathinta ubudlelwane bethu nabathandekayo, kodwa futhi ngezinye izikhathi kubangelwe kuphela okwenzeka ngaphakathi kwethu nakithi. Uhlobo lwe-immune disorders esivame ukubhekana nokucindezeleka isikhathi eside kuxhomeke esikhathini sokucindezeleka. Abanye abantu bayathukuthela, abanye bangenandaba. Omunye ufuna i-outlet, ebhekisela kubangane nezihlobo, futhi othile uvala yena ngokwakhe futhi uhlupheke ngokuthula, eholele ekubeni neurosis.
Ukucindezeleka kuyingozi kakhulu uma kungenangqondo. Uma uzizwa ukuthi konke okuzungezile kuyadabukisa, kodwa awuqondi ukuthi yini ngempela imbangela yokukhathazeka. Lesi simo singahlala iminyaka. Kudinga ukungenelela kochwepheshe. Izingxabano ezinamandla kunazo zonke empilweni yowesifazane ukufa kwabathandekayo, isehlukaniso, ukukhonjwa komuntu othandekayo. Ukucindezeleka okunjalo kungabangela inhlekelele yangempela, uma uhlangabezana nabo ngokungalungile. Awukwazi neze ukushiywa wedwa nenhlekelele. Lokhu kuholela endaweni engekho. Yabelana nosizi lwakho noma izinkinga nje nabathandekayo bakho, nabangani bakho, ukuveza lokho okujabulisayo. Ukucindezeleka kungabhubhisa impilo ngendlela efanayo nokuthi ingayithuthukisa.
Indlela umzimba ophendula ngayo ekucindezelekeni
Ungase ube nenkinga yokulala. Ukuvuka phakathi nobusuku, uthola ukukhwehlela kwemizwa. Uthukuthele, ungapheli amandla, uphelela ngokweqile imvelo, awukwazi ukunqoba kalula ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo noma ukucindezeleka okungazelelwe. Wena umunwe iminwe yakho, ubheme ugwayi ngemva kogwayi. Unezandla ezibandayo futhi ezinamathele, uzizwa uvutha futhi ubuhlungu esiswini, umlomo omile, ukuphefumula ubunzima. Uzwa ukuthi uyagula.
Uma unayo lezi zimpawu, cishe uhlala ekucindezelekeni okuqhubekayo. Kulezi zibonakaliso kungabuye wengezwe umuzwa wokukhathala njalo, umcabango wokuthi unesikhathi esincane kakhulu sokwenza izinto eziningana ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ngokuzumayo uzizwa unomuzwa omubi, umuzwa wokwesaba nokwesaba, ukudumazeka. Ungazizwa ubuhlungu emisipha, intamo eqinile, uqala ukupihla izipikili zakho, ucindezele imisipha yakho, imisipha yobuso bakho ifinyeleleke, uzizwa ukugedla kwamazinyo akho. Kwabanye, lokhu kwenzeka kancane kancane, abanye bavele bezwa zonke izimpawu ngesikhathi esisodwa. Abanye banamazinyo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukukhala kubonakala kungekho isizathu esicacile.
Awudingi ukwazi zonke lezi zimpawu ukuphetha ngokuthi lokhu ukucindezeleka kuyimbangela yezinkinga zakho. Ochwepheshe bathi okungenani ezintathu zalezi zibonakaliso ezenzeka zingakapheli isonto noma ngaphezulu zanele, ezikhombisa umphumela wokuhlukumeza ngokweqile. Kulokhu, udinga ukushintsha indlela yokuphila, isimo esisebenza emsebenzini noma emvelweni ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Dala isimo esingabangela izinkinga zempilo ezimbi.
Indlela yokucindezeleka
I-stimulus, eyatholakala ebuchosheni, idala izifiso ezifanele emgodini we-pituitary. I-pituitary gland iqala ukukhulula ama-hormone ukuthi, kanye negazi, angene ezigulini ezidalwa yi-adrenal, okuzokwenza ukuthi kukhululwe inani elengeziwe le-adrenaline ne-norepinephrine. Ngaphansi kwethonya labo, kuphakanyiswa ukucindezelwa kwegazi eliphezulu, inhliziyo iyaqala ukusebenza ngokushesha, kusukela esibindi kuya egazini ngaphezu kwenani le-glucose, i-cholesterol namafutha ekhululekile ama-acids ngokuvamile kuvulwa. Lokhu kunquma ukuthi ukulungiswa komzimba okwandisiwe kuyanda. Amandla angokwenyama nengqondo alungele ukulwa. Uma isimo esinjalo sokuqaphelisa okuqhubekayo siqhubeka isikhathi eside, ukucindezeleka nokumelana komzimba kuwela futhi kufike ukukhathala kwamanzi, ukwehlukaniswa komzimba. Ukungakhulelwa kwamanzi kuyawa, umuntu uqala ukugula kakhulu. Yingakho sivame ukuthi: "Zonke izifo zivela emanzini". Ngokwengxenye, kunjalo ngempela.
Imiphumela yokucindezeleka
Ukucindezeleka isikhathi eside kudala izifo eziningi. Okokuqala, izitho ezisengozini kakhulu zihlupheka. Kwezinye izimo, lokhu kuhlotshaniswa nesistimu yokugaya, ngezinye izikhathi ngokuphefumula, futhi ngezinye izikhathi izitho eziningana zizobhekana nemiphumela emibi yokucindezeleka. Ngokuya ngobudala, ubulili, isipiliyoni, imfundo, indlela yokuphila, ifilosofi nezinye izici eziningi, abanye abantu bangakwazi ukubhekana nemiphumela emibi yokucindezeleka, abanye bangaphansi. Impendulo yokucindezeleka ixhomeke endleleni esizibheka ngayo - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyinto engacindezeli engaphansi kokucindezeleka, noma isihloko esisebenzayo esibhekene nalokhu ukucindezeleka.
Indlela yokuqonda ukuthi umzimba ugcizelelwe
Isibonakaliso sokuqala sokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngomzimba wakho yizinye izinkinga zokulala. Kancane kancane, ezinye izifo zihlanganisa ukuleleka. Uqala ukukhala ngaphandle kwesizathu, usuke ukhathele kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usebenza kangakanani nokuthi uphumule kanjani. Unenkinga yokuhlushwa, ukunakekelwa, inkumbulo. Kukhona inhloko, ukucasula, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukungabi nentshisekelo kwezocansi. Lezi zimpawu zithatha ngokwengeziwe, konke kwenzeka kancane kancane, futhi, mhlawumbe, yingakho ungaboni indlela yokubhekana nale nkinga. Kuphela lapho umbuso ufinyelela emngceleni obalulekile, uqala ukuzwa ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. Abantu abaqondi njalo ukuthi basesimweni sokucindezeleka. Balahlekelwa ukuthokoza kwabo, ukushisekela umsebenzi, ukungabi nokuzethemba kubonakala kusayithi lokungaqiniseki kwamanje. Kancane kancane, ukucindezeleka kuthatha konke ukuphila. Yingakho kubalulekile ukubhekana nayo ngesikhathi nangendlela efanele. Unganqikazi ukucela usizo ochwepheshe.