Ngakho-ke, yini okudingeka ukwazi ukuthi unqume uhlamvu lwesilwane sowesifazane? Okokuqala, ngingathanda ukucabangela icala uma owesifazane ephika ngokuphelele ukwakheka. Izizathu zokwenqaba okunjalo zingase zihluke - izifo zesikhumba, izifo zenyama, njll. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi owesifazane wenqaba izimonyo ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacile. Ngokusho kochwepheshe kulokhu, kungase kube nokuzethemba okuphansi. Ngamanye amazwi, owesifazane akazisebenzisi izimonyo ngoba uzithola engathandeki futhi engaboni umqondo ekwenzeni. Futhi, izizathu zokwenqaba izimonyo zingase zibe ukuntuleka kwesikhathi, ubuvila, isibonelo sabadala. Isibonelo, indodakazi ingayenqaba izimonyo, ngoba umama wakhe akazange asebenzise izinsiza zokuhlelela ngaleso sikhathi.
Ebusheni, imvelo ayiyona into ebaluleke kakhulu. Uma owesifazane ethanda ukudlala futhi abe umngane nabafana kusukela esemncane, khona-ke esikhathini esizayo angase angaqondi ukuthi kungani edingeke asebenzise izimonyo.
Futhi isizathu sokungasebenzisi izimonyo ngumsebenzi omude eqenjini lamadoda, ngezinye izikhathi owesifazane ulahlekelwa ngumfazi wakhe futhi angasebenzisa ngisho namakha amafutha.
Abesifazane abakholelwa ukuthi abanalutho oluphansi kobulili obuhlukile, ngezinye izikhathi bayenqaba ukusebenzisa izimonyo. Izazi zengqondo ziyavuma ukuthi lokhu ukukholelwa kwabesifazane kuyisignali yesifazane. Ngokujwayelekile laba besifazane bacabanga ukuthi bangaphumelela kanjani ebhizinisini noma emsebenzini, bakhohlwe ukuthi ukubukeka okukhangayo nakho kunomthelela empumelelweni.
I-egocentrism ingenye yezizathu zokwenqaba. Amakhosikazi ase-Egocentric aqinisekile ukuthi umhlaba wonke udalwa kubo kuphela, futhi akudingeki nokuba bacabange ukuthi bangajabulisa kanjani abanye abantu. Okuthakazelisayo kakhulu ukuthi abesifazane abanjalo bangaba into yokukhulekela, emadodeni.
Ukunciphisa izimonyo nabesifazane abakhetha ukubukeka kwemvelo, bamane nje abakhathaleli izimonyo. Bazibona njengabo, futhi bafuna abanye bawaqonde ngendlela efanayo. Ngokuvamile abesifazane abanjalo bakholelwa ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwezimonyo kungukukhwabanisa.
Abaningi besifazane basebenzisa ukwakheka, ngoba wonke umuntu uyakwenza, hhayi ngoba bayathanda ukuyisebenzisa. Abesifazane abanjalo abafuni nje ukuphikisa amasiko amisiwe emphakathini. Ngokuvamile, basebenzisa cishe ukungenwa kwe-imperceptible ekubunjweni, okufaka, ipensela yeso, inkinobho yezinki. Laba besifazane abakuthandi kakhulu ukuheha ukunakwa ngokweqile kwabantu, ngenxa yalokho abesifazane "ababulalayo" phakathi kwabo abenzeki neze. Ngokuvamile badonsela amadoda kubo ngezinye izindlela. Othandayo ukwakheka okubambekayo, sebenzisa ukufihla amaphutha ahlukahlukene, noma uzame ukufihla izingqinamba zabo siqu. Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, ukuguqulwa okungazelelwe ekutheni owesifazane ayenze, kusuka ekuzilinganiseni kuya ekukhanyeni, kusho ukukhathazeka kwangaphakathi okufihlekile noma izinguquko ezivamile ezinyangeni.
Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi abantu abanobulili obuhle abafuna ukushintsha izimpilo zabo baqala ngoshintsho oluphawulekayo ekubukeni kwabo, ngakho-ke bayazama ukukhombisa ukufisa kwabo kwabanye. Olunye uhlobo lwesifazane ngokwemibono yokubukeka - abaphelele, bafuna ukufezekisa ukuphelela, noma ngabe yini okudingekayo. Amantombazane anjalo angahlala amahora phambi kwesibuko, enza wonke ama-smears amasha ebusweni bawo. Izazi zengqondo zithi ziyizinhlobo ze-narcissists zesifazane.
Labo besifazane abakhetha ukungashintshi ukwenza izimonyo zabo, bangaba nemvelo engavamile. Ukuzitholela izimonyo, aziguquli isikhathi eside, futhi noma yikuphi ushintsho ekubukeni kwabo kunqatshiwe. Abanandaba neze ukuthi basesimweni esisemthethweni noma emphakathini wezenhlalo, noma ngabe kunjalo, ukwakheka kuzohlala okufanayo. Ngisho noma u-stylist angathatha izimonyo ezamukelekayo ekubukeni kwazo, abesifazane abanjalo ngeke basisebenzise.
Ngokuphambene nomthandi wezimangalo, izipho kanye nezinguquko empilweni, ngenjabulo enkulu isebenzisa izinsizakalo zabaculi bokuzenzela. Ngezinye izikhathi kuyiqiniso ukuthi ngemuva kokubukeka okubukeka kahle, kukhona ukungabi namathemba emakhono abo, futhi ukuvakashela izitayela zabo kuba, njengokungathi, isiqinisekiso sokwenza okuhle. Laba besifazane ngeke baqiniseke izinga lomsebenzi womculi wokwenza, ngisho noma enza amaphutha endaweni ethile. Isiqubulo sabo igama elidumile kanye nesitayela esikwaziwayo.
Amantombazane abathanda ukwenza amehlo, abe nezimfanelo ezifana nokucabangela nokucabangela, bazama ukubonisa i-interlocutor ukuthi bayakwazi ukulalela umuntu. Njengomthetho, laba besifazane akuzona izakhamuzi zengqondo ezimbi, kodwa okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo okufihlekile kubonakala kulabo abazungezile.
Izimpawu zokuzizwa nokuzijabulisa ziyizindebe ezizwakalayo. Abesifazane abanjalo, bathanda ukuxoxa, ukudlala ngothando, ukudlala ngothando. Njengomthetho, baqala ukukhuluma ngomuntu wabo.
Incazelo ecacile kakhulu yemvelo yokwakheka kwesifazane idinga ulwazi lwemininingwane ethile. Isibonelo, kufanele wazi ukuthi abesifazane bangashintsha izintandokazi zabo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, konke okusemhlabeni kuyashintsha. Ngeke ukwazi ukusebenzisa izimonyo, bese uqala ukuyisebenzisa, isitayela se-makeup singashintsha, umuntu angashintsha ukuziphatha, ngisho nomlingiswa wesifazane nokuphila kwakhe kungashintsha. Ukunambitheka okukodwa kungashintsha isikhathi eside, omunye angashintsha kathathu ngosuku, umuntu ngamunye ngamunye.
Konke okunye kungashintsha imfashini, futhi abesifazane abaningi bayolandela izitayela ezintsha. Khona-ke incazelo yokwenza umlingiswa wesifazane ingase ingalungile. Futhi ukuze ugweme lokhu, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi yini efihlekile ngaphakathi kwakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ijwayelekile, inhle, uma umuntu esemdala noma ebhekene nentsha, kubalulekile ukubamba incazelo yokwenza kwakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyisifiso somphefumulo, noma isifiso sokuhambisana nemfashini. Phela, ukukhulumisana kungaba mnandi kakhulu uma singakwazi ukuqonda.