Ngenxa yalokho, ama-pundits ahlukanise izizathu eziningi zokuqonda ukuthi yini - inkinga ebuhlotsheni, nokuthi ungayibhekana kanjani nayo.
Kuze kube manje, abanye ochwepheshe bakholelwa ekufundiseni "push". Kuphawulwe ukuthi ukuvivinya okunzulu okunjalo empilweni yendoda nowesifazane, njengokufa kwezihlobo, izifo, ukuboshwa noma ukuhlukunyezwa, kunganqanda ngisho nobuhlobo obunamandla kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, eminyakeni emva kokuvela kwembono yezenzakalo ezibucayi njengesizathu sokungaboni ngaso, kwacaca ukucaciswa okubalulekile: akuzona zonke izivivinyo ezimbili ezingahle zihlukaniswe. Abathandi abathile bahlangana ndawonye ngezikhathi zezimpikiswano nezinkinga.
Ngakho-ke, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kwengqondo kanye nemiphakathi yabantu, kwakukhona imibono "yentuthuko yenqubo eguqukayo." Manje ososayensi baye bazama ukufakazela ukuthi noma yikuphi ubudlelwane buqala ukuzwela kalula othandweni, bese ubuyela endleleni kusukela othandweni kuya ekukhunjeni nasekukhungeni. Le mbono nayo yaba yiphutha. Izimpikiswano ekuthuthukiseni ubudlelwane, njengoba kuvele, zingaphambene nemibhangqwana ethile. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ngaleyo ndlela, akukho mkhakha ojwayelekile wokuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane babo bonke abashadile abanothando.
Imibono yezinkinga zokuthuthukiswa kwekhalenda iqhubekela phambili ekuzileni kwengqondo komndeni. Okungukuthi, kunezikhathi ezithile eziyingozi, ezingase zibe khona empilweni yomndeni, lapho yonke imibhangqwana ingase ibe nezingxabano noma ukungezwani. Kungashiwo ukuthi bonke abacwaningi banamuhla bomndeni kanye nobudlelwane nabo basasebenza ngaphakathi kohlaka lwekhalenda yezinkinga zezinkinga. Kuphela manje inkinga yokuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda nabesifazane ibhekwa ngokuzwakalayo - ngaphakathi kohlaka lwazo zonke izinkomba. Yebo, eminye imindeni ayikhuthazi ukuvivinywa okunzima. Yebo, imibhangqwana eminye ihamba ngokudambisa imizwa kanye nokuthuthukiswa okuhlelekile kobudlelwane. Futhi yebo, amaphuzu okuqhuma kanye nezinkathi ezingase ziqhume zivame ukucaciswa ngokucacile ososayensi. Kodwa konke lokhu akufanele kusetshenziswe ngokungacatshangwa kumuntu oyedwa.
Kuzoba usizo kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi yini ebangela izinkinga, futhi yini eyanciphisa ingozi yokuthuthukiswa okungalungile kobudlelwane. Sichaza kuphela izizathu ezimbalwa ezikhona zokuhlukana kobudlelwane.
Isakhiwo sokuqala nesivame kakhulu sabantu abalahlekelwa yithando yibugovu. Esikhathini sethu, ubugovu buyifashane, buqiniswa ngethelevishini futhi ekhangayo "izingonyama zezwe". Ekuphileni kwangempela, ubugovu buvimbela ukwakha ubudlelwane. "Mtshele konke okucabangayo, ungamvumeli ukuba asebenzise, afunde indlela yokuzihlonipha, indlela yokuthola indoda ukwenza lokhu noma lokho," - iseluleko esinjalo kunomaphi umagazini okhanyayo. Kodwa inyunyana yama-egoists amabili yiyona eyakheke kakhulu. Uma ufuna ukuthatha, unganiki lutho, ngakho-ke akufanele ulindele ubuhlobo obuqinile. Ukuthuthukiswa kobuhlobo obunzima kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukunikeza isikhathi sakho umuntu othandekayo, ukuhlanganyela naye, ukuhlanganyela ekuxazululeni izinkinga zakhe.
Isenzakalo sesibili esasakazekile, esinciphisa ubudlelwane phakathi kokubili, ukuxabana kwemali. Okubi kakhulu ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwano ukutholakala kwemali mboleko ejwayelekile, imali yokukhokhela imali noma izikweleti ezinkulu kubangani. Abantu bathatha imali ukuze bathuthukise impilo yabo yansuku zonke, bathuthukise izimo zokuphila zemindeni yabo, futhi bangenzi induduzo kakhulu, hhayi njengobungane bomzwelo emndenini. Inkinga yomnotho yomhlaba wonke iyancipha kakhulu umthelela omubi walesi sici, kodwa uma ungumuntu othandekayo, cabanga izikhathi eziyikhulu ngaphambi kokuhlanganyela naye umthwalo wemali mboleko. Yebo, bese umcindezela eqinisweni lokuthi wakhuphukela emgodini wezikweleti ngenxa yakho siqu, futhi, akufanele.
Owesithathu obaluleke kakhulu wezinkinga mayelana nokungenelela kwabazali bomunye wabalingani. Kunzima kakhulu kulabo abathembele kubazali babo ngokwezezimali noma baphoqeleka ukuba bahlale nabo. Esimweni saseRussia, ama-alamu, abazali kuze kube sekupheleni komhlalaphansi kwezingane zabo bazama ukubasiza ngezeluleko noma ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo. Futhi kaningi ukugcinwa kwabo kuphenduka ngokweqile, okuyinto ngendlela engathandeki kunazo zonke ithinta ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane.
Isizathu sesine sezinkinga ebuhlotsheni singaphezu kweqile nokucindezeleka. Umhlali wanamuhla edolobheni elikhulu usebenza kakhulu kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi eze ekhaya kuphela ukulala amahora ambalwa. Akakwazi ukubona umkakho noma izingane zakhe amasonto noma ngisho nezinyanga. Yiqiniso, kulesi simo, hhayi ezingxoxweni eziqotho noma ngokobulili obuyisisekelo. Phakathi kwabathandekayo kukhona ukuhlukaniswa, okungukuthi, uma kungakhulumi ngaso, kungaholela ekuqothulweni kwalowo mbhangqwana. Ngokusobala, kuhlanganisa ukukhathala nokucasuka, kuhlanganise nezimo ezingavamile, okungase kuholele oyedwa noma bobabili ukushada noma ukuhlubuka. Futhi lezi yizenzakalo ezibucayi kunoma yimuphi umbhangqwana.
Ngakho, ngokubanzi, azikho izinkomba zendawo yonke yezimbangela zenkinga ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Ngalinye isikhathi lokhu kungaba ukuhlanganiswa kwezici ezenza noma iyiphi inkinga ebuhlotsheni bomuntu ngamunye futhi kudinga ukuhlaziywa okuhlukile.