Kubo, umugqa olwahlu lwemibuzo "isimo somshado - ongashadile" uyinto ebaluleke kakhulu, uphawu lwaso lokuhlukanisa. Awukwazi kanjani ukulahlekelwa lo mshwana empilweni - kunzima ukusho. Bona ngokwabo abafuni ukukhangisa izindlela zabo, futhi akulula kakhulu ukuvula isihenqo sezimfihlo zabo. Mhlawumbe yingakho impilo yabacheler igubungelwa izinkolelo eziningi namanga. Okuphikisana kakhulu futhi okuvame ukuhlangana nabo sizozama ukukhipha.
Inkolelo-ze 1. Umsizi ungumuntu ongashadile.
Ngalesi siphambeko sokuqala nesiningi kakhulu, umuntu akakwazi ukuvuma nhlobo. Uma umuntu namanje (noma kakade) engashadile, lokhu akusho ukuthi unobhala. Ukuze ubhalise emphakathini wezilwane eziqinisekisiwe udinga okungaphezulu kunesitembu esingekho emapasipoti wakho. Isimo "somshado" asiyona isimo somphakathi, kodwa indlela yokuphila. Isiyingi sabantu abanjalo sincane kakhulu futhi bonke bakude kakhulu nomndeni. Isici esiyinhloko sesipiliyoni sangempela ukukhathazeka okuphawulekayo kokungahambi kahle kwezithakazelo zakhe, imikhuba, ukuzilibazisa kanye nezinamathiselo. Futhi babheka umshado njengengozi yangempela esimweni sabo esivumelanayo. Yingakho bachelors langempela bebuhlungu ngisho nokuqonda okuncane komshado.
Ngokumangalisa, kodwa yilokho okuheha abalandeli kubo. Umsizi uhlala njalo umhlambi wabenzi bokuzenzisa esandleni sakhe nasenhliziyweni yakhe. Lokhu kufinyelele emncintiswaneni - ngubani ongakwazi "ukugubha" umuntu ongenakuzondeka onothando?
Inganekwane 2. Umcwaningi uhlale ephansi kwesilinganiso somphakathi.
Yebo, ngokuqinisekile kunamaphesenti athile okuthiwa "abahlala emphakathini" abathintekayo, amantombazane amancane njengamama, ngokuyinhloko akakwazi ukwenza izinto. Kodwa basesebancane, futhi iningi labesilisa abangashadile lenzelwe ukwenza kahle, iziqu ezanele. Eqinisweni, yilokho ngokwaneliseka abaqapha ngakho ngentshiseko, ngokunembile ngokuphepha kwabo futhi abafuni ukuhlukana.
Kuyabuhlungu ukuvuma, kodwa lapho umuntu engena emshadweni ukuthi indoda ivame ukuphucwa ithuba lokufezekisa ukuphelela kwakhe. Ukuphila komndeni okudla konke okukufunayo. Ukulingana kwabashadile kuyiphutha elimnandi, kodwa empeleni njalo umuntu kufanele ahlasele amaphupho abo, mhlawumbe ngisho kokubili ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ngakho-ke umsizi - isidalwa akwanele neze, futhi, mhlawumbe, kakhulu nakwezinye izindlela. Unayo yonke amathuba okuzithuthukisa, futhi akukho isithiyo kulokhu, ngaphandle, mhlawumbe, ubuvila bakhe.
Inkolelo-mbono 3. Abafundi bama-Bachelors bayazonda futhi besaba abesifazane.
Akungabazeki ukuthi abesifazane ngokwabo, abangazange baphumelele "ukukhala" bachelor ethembisayo, beza nalokhu. Lokhu kuyisikhathi sabo siqu - kwakungeyona into ecacile ukuze kuboniswe isifiso sokuvunguza ihhovisi lokubhalisa. Abazingeli abanjalo abaqashi akuyona into yokuziqaphela futhi bazivimbele ngendlela yeshumi. Empeleni, ngokuvamile abanalo izinkinga ekukhulumisaneni nobulili obuhlukile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, yi-bachelor okwazi ukuqonda owesifazane, hhayi izinga lokufaneleka komshado, kodwa ubuntu. Iziqu ze-Bachelors ziyi-comrades ezinhle kakhulu, ama-allies, ama-aid aid abesifazane. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abadonsa noma ubani ekhishini, abathinteki ekhanda labo elingasusiwe futhi ungazami indima yezingane zabo zesikhathi esizayo.
Kukhona, kunjalo, phakathi kwabo kanye ne-misogynists, kodwa hhayi ngaphezu kwamanye amadoda. Lokhu kuyindlela yokuziphatha, hhayi isimo sesimo senhlalo.
Inganekwane 4. Umsizi awukwazi ukuthola umsebenzi omuhle.
Le myth isivele ihle kakhulu, kodwa isaphila. Nakuba esikhathini sethu isitatimende esinjalo mayelana nabakhona bangahlukaniswa kuphela ngabasebenzi abanzima bomnyango wezisebenzi ezivela ezakhiweni zombuso. Isimo sengqondo emphakathini wanamuhla kubantu ngabanye siye sashintsha ngokuphawulekayo. Abaqashi abasanda kubheja ku "zhenatikov" namuhla bakhetha ukukhetha ibhethri yokuzikhandla. Uhlale ekhululekile, ephathekayo, angahlala nganoma yisiphi isikhathi isikhathi esengeziwe, ngaphandle kokulibaziseka ukuhamba ohambweni lwebhizinisi. Ngokwezibalo, izikhundla eziphezulu manje zithathwe amadoda angashadile.
Inkolelo-ze 5. Ama-bachelors angcwatshwe ezinkingeni zasekhaya.
Umsizi olambile, ongaphephile ongagqoke izingubo ezingcolile othi "isimo somndeni singashadile" ebunzini lakhe, manje ungabona kuphela ifilimu yamahlaya. I-bachelor yangempela yesimanje igcina isimo esifanele - lokhu kungumfanekiso wakhe. Izakhiwo zasendlini ezilula kalula zibhekana nezinkinga zansuku zonke. Umsizi uyajabula ngisho nokuthi angabhekana nezinkinga ezifuywayo ekhaya. Esimweni esibucayi, inkonzo yokuphila kwansuku zonke noma omunye wabasizi ngokuzithandela njalo ekhona ohlwini lwazo oluphuthumayo kuzosiza ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Inganekwane 6. Umsizi ongenayo igciwane elanele.
Lo mbono odidayo, ovame ukukhulunywa ngamadoda ashadile. Cishe, cishe, nje umona. Ingxabano yabo eyinhloko - "u-bachelor akakwazi ukwenza uthando uma efuna nje, futhi umfazi uhlala eseduze." Eqinisweni, konke kuvela ngokuphambene nalokhu - lo wesilisa oshadile uvame ukulinda isikhathi lapho abantwana behamba khona kunina noma uma umkakhe ephela ezinsukwini ezibucayi. I-bachelor yecala elinjalo njalo inenketho yokusekelayo (futhi ayikho eyodwa).
Futhi kukhona into eyodwa ngaphezulu. Indoda eshadile ivame ukuphoqeleka ukuba yenze uthando uma engafuni. I-bachelor akudingeki ukuba iphoqe ngoba ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthotshiswa ngokuthi "ongenamandla" noma "isinkwa esingenasici".
Inganekwane 7. Ama-Bachelors ahlala kancane.
Kukhona ukubalwa okungalungile. Iqiniso liwukuthi, abantu abasha abangakabi nesikhathi sokushada bavame ukubhekwa njengama-bachelors, okuyinto ngokwayo eyanciphisa isilinganiso seminyaka yobudala. Futhi abanye abacwaningi babhekisela emabhaleni futhi bahlukanisile. Lokhu kuphazamisa kakhulu izibalo.
Kubonakala sengathi akekho enye ingxabano ekholisayo ngokumelene nokuhlanganiswa "kwesimo senhlalo - singashadile". Kodwa-ke, cishe izikhathi eziningana ngonyaka, lapho bonke abangane abashadile bejabule ngamaholide omndeni ngemuva kwesitsha se-Olivier, umsizi uyaba lusizi. Yingaleso sikhathi lapho ecabanga ngasese ngomlingani wokuphila. Futhi ngaleso sikhathi umcwaningi uyingozi kakhulu.