Usalinde isikhathi eside sokubukeka kwale ndoda empilweni yakho ... Futhi manje, ndawonye, nibambene, abazali bakho bayajabula futhi bajabule ngawe, ngaphambi kosuku olumnandi kakhulu nolulindelwe isikhathi eside empilweni yazo zonke izintombi, kodwa emphefumulweni wakho unenkathazo, imiqondo eminingi ehlukene kanye nokwesaba. Yini le ntombazane ecabanga ngayo ngaphambi komshado, futhi yiziphi izithombe ezivulela ekhanda lakhe?
Ukwesaba ukufaneleka kokuzikhethela kwakhoLokhu kwesaba kuhambelelwa yilowo nalowo mlobokazi. Uma ulinde isikhathi eside somphefumulo wakho womshado futhi uthande owakhethiweyo, akukho okumele ukwesabe, ukhethwe noma cha, izifiso, njengoba wazi, azikho, ngoba wonke umuntu yilokho akulokho futhi enhle, iqiniso lokuthi usuvele umhlangabeze endleleni yakhe akuyona ingozi . Kodwa-ke, umshado akufanele ube ngumthwalo, kufanele ujabulise, uhlanganise ndawonye, wenze abantu bahlakaniphe, bahlakaniphe, bafunde ukwenza izinto eziyekethisa. Kunoma yikuphi, kungcono ukushada kunokusaba ukwenza lesi sinyathelo yonke impilo yakho futhi ungalokwazi ukwazi injabulo yempilo yomndeni kanye nomama. Ukungabaza kwakho akufanelekile imizwa yakho. "Izimpisi ziyesaba - ungahambi ehlathini."
Ukwesaba impilo yomndeni nokulahlekelwa komuntu ngamunye
Ngaphambi kokuthi uthi "YEBO", cabanga ukuthi ulungele yini ukusebenzisa yonke impilo yakho nomuntu ofanayo, ukuze uphile nge-nimradosti futhi mhlawumbe ukulahlwa, ngoba umshado awuhlali njalo uzolile. Abantu bavivinywa ezimweni zokucindezeleka, ikhono lokuphuma kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezinkinga. Ungaphikisani ngezidangalo, umuntu omkhethile njengomngane wakho oseduze, ongakwazi ukuthola ukuyekethisa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngesikhathi sokuqala, abantu banamathela komunye nomunye, bathanda ukufana komunye nomunye, kodwa bayaqonda ukuthi ukuhluka komuntu ngamunye kuzobalala, okungaba yinkinga enkulu ebuhlotsheni, ngakho kubalulekile ukusebenzisana, ukubonana. Kubonakala sengathi lokhu kulula kakhulu ekuboneni kuqala. Bonke abantu bahlukile, abantu abafanayo abakho, kodwa lokhu kuyisibindi, wena uqobo. Ukuze ungalokothi ulahlekelwe umuntu wakho ngisho nangemva kokushada, ungayeki uthando futhi wenze lokho owakuthandayo ukwenza ngaphambili, izinto zokuzilibazisa nezokuzilibazisa akufanele "ngenxa yomshado" zinyamalale empilweni yakho, wenza ukuphila kwakho kube mnandi njengoba ufuna. Ngemuva kwakho konke, okhethiweyo wakho wakuthanda ukuthi ungubani, ngakho-ke yibani nesithakazelo kuye sonke isiqu sakho.
Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa kwemibono
Lo mbono nawo uyenzeka kuzo zonke izintombi ngaphambi kokushada. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi okumele ukwenze ukuguqulwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungase kuvelele kangakanani, kepha ukwesaba ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa uthando kusho ukuthi uyayithanda. Izinga lobuhlobo bomshado osanda kushada emva kwemishado lizohlala lithembele kulabo abasanda kushada ngokwabo. Umshado ngumsebenzi oqhubekayo, owenza ubuhlungu obuhlotsheni bakho ebuhlotsheni bakho, ongakwazi ukuwuyeka ngokwakho. Abantu abashadile kudingeka babe abaqotho komunye nomunye, ungaqambi amanga futhi ungakhohlisani, unakekele futhi uthandane.
Ngakho-ke, ukwesaba lokho okuyiyokholelwa ukuthi kuyisiphukuphuku. Qaphela imizwa yakho, uma uyidinga ngempela futhi ukhona, qaphela, yenza imiklomelo yomunye nomunye, wenze izinto eziphambanisayo, ngokuvamile, ujabule ngezikhathi zomshado ojabulisayo. Kodwa into esemqoka ukushada ngothando.
Ukwesaba ukukhashelwa othandekayo
Imicabango enjalo ivame ukuvakashela amakhanda amantombazane. Lapha kubalulekile ukuthi ungashushumbisi futhi uthuthukise lokhu kokwesaba ekhanda lakho, ngoba umphumela walokhu ukucasuka, ukuhlambalaza, ukucindezeleka, ukungaqondi kahle, amahlazo, okungakhuthaza lokhu kuhlaselwa. Udinga ukuhlakanipha. Ngokuvamile, abashadile bazoya ekuhlaseleni, lapho behlangana ekungalingani kwabo, ukunganakwa, ukungazifaneleki futhi bawufuna bonke ohlangothini bese bewuthola. Kubalulekile ukwethemba, ukulalela nokuzwa omunye nomunye. Khumbula ukuthi uhlangane kanjani, ngenxa yalolu thando, ingabe uphawu lokupasipoti yakho lushintsha impilo yakho futhi luhlukanise "ngaphambi" nangemva ", ubuhlobo bomshado emva komshado asishintshi, isimo sakho kuphela siyashintsha.
Ungavumeli umlingani wakho akhohlise, ngisho nasemicabangweni yakho. Konke emandleni akho.
Bytovuha
Ungavumeli ukuthi kube, kuhlelela indlela yakho yokuphila nokuphumula isikhathi. Njengoba wenze ukuphila kube lula ngokwakho, izimpumelelo zakamuva kwezobuchwepheshe, thola isikhathi futhi uphume endlini njalo ngangokunokwenzeka.
Imicabango mayelana nokulungiselela umshado . Lokhu mhlawumbe yisikhathi esithandekayo kakhulu intombazane. Unenkathazo ngalokhu - kusuka kumbala wendwangu yetafula kuya kumholi wenhlangano. Njengomthetho, iningi lomalungiselelo womshado uthatha umakoti.
Ngakho-ke, ukuze le nkathi ibe yinto ebaluleke kunazo zonke empilweni yakho, ingaba yiphutha futhi ibangele ukwesaba, kubalulekile ukuthi uhlele uhlelo bese uxoxisana nezibopho zomuntu ngamunye ukuze alungiselele lolu suku. Hlukanisa imisebenzi phakathi kwabo, umkhwenyana, abazali nabangane abaseduze abakulungele ukukusiza. Lolu hlelo luzokusiza ukuba ubeke isikhathi esifanele, ngaphandle kohlu kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi kube uvass ngasese, ukuze uhlale ungeze futhi ushintshe. Chaza wonke amacala okubaluleka, ukuxhumanisa yonke inqubo yayilula.
Ukwesaba okuphelele nokucindezeleka, akunjalo, akunakugwema - ngoba yena nomshado, ngifuna konke kuhambe kahle, usuku olubalulekile, kodwa kungekudala konke kuzoba ngemuva, uzoba umyeni nomfazi futhi uzokhumbula zonke izinkinga ngokumomotheka. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi eduze komuntu oseduze nomuntu othandekayo othanda kakhulu kakhulu!