Kungani? Okokuqala, ngoba bonke abantu banomqondo omuhle. Okwesibili, abesifazane ngokwabo bayecala. Yebo, thina, besifazane. Into ebaluleke kunazo zonke esiyikhohlwayo
· Umuntu ungumzingeli. Kulo, sekuye kwavela amakhulu eminyaka ekudleni, futhi ukuxosha ukoma kwakhe, ukuzingela akusebenzi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna. Ngezemvelo awukwazi ukunyathela. Ngakho-ke, ngokushesha nje lapho abantu belahlekelwa isithakazelo, bayazi kahle, mhlawumbe bengazi ngokwabo, baqale ukufuna into entsha.
Ngakwesokunxele ngaphandle komuntu othandekayo ngemuva kokuhlukaniswa naye, kodwa ufuna ukuyibuyisela, udinga ukukhetha amaqhinga okuziphatha okulungile. Okokuqala, udinga ukuzidonsa ndawonye futhi ungazitholi ukuxhumana nabantu, uzikhiphe ngokujulile emphefumulweni wakho ukucabanga ngesiphetho sakho esinzima. Ngokuphambene nalokho, umphakathi wabantu osondelene nenhliziyo yomuntu uzokusiza ukuletha ngokushesha imicabango nemizwelo ejwayelekile. Kubalulekile ukunqoba ukulala, emva kokukhala, ukuthungatha kubangela ukuphazamiseka kwemizwelo, futhi amadoda esaba kakhulu yizinkohlakalo. Ngaphandle kwalokho ungabuyiseli othandekayo wakho. Uma yena kuphela futhi ekusola icala lakho, ungabuyiseli noma kunjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunzima kanjani ukugcina kuso. Vumela lokho kuvuselele umqondo wokuthi konke okubi kubuya njenge-boomerang futhi ukuphila kuyomjezisa, ngaphandle kosizo lwakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhumbula, uma ufuna ukubuyela emva kokuhlukaniswa futhi ugcine lo muntu.
Emva kokucasuliwe, ukulimala, uthole ukulala ngokwanele, uhlanza izikhwama ngaphansi kwamehlo akho kusuka ezinyembezini ezinde, uzilungiselele ukulwa nokubuya kwalowo muntu. Ukubukeka
· Into yokuqala umuntu ayibheka ngayo, ikakhulukazi ummeleli wesonto oqinile. Khumbula ukuthi ubuke kanjani ekuqaleni kobuhlobo bakho naye, lokho ayekuthanda kakhulu. Umsebenzi wakho awugcini nje ukubuyela kuleso sithombe, kodwa futhi ukwenza kube lula kakhulu futhi kuphumelele. Indoda yakho akufanele nje ikubone kuwe owake wathandana, emva kokuhlukaniswa, kufanele athande ngethonya elisha. Umphumela utholakala futhi ubona emehlweni omuntu isithakazelo sangempela kumuntu wakhe? Ungasheshi ukujabula. Umzwelo owedlulele uzokukwenza wenze iphutha.
· Bonisa amandla akho. Ekuziphatheni namadoda awukwazi ukuba ngumvelo ngokwemvelo, udinga ukufunda ukudlala indima. Ikakhulukazi indima yamadoda emva kokuhlukaniswa. Uma ebona ukuthi wayephutha, ecabanga ukuthi uyakwazi ngokuphelele, isithakazelo sakhe sizokhula nakakhulu, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uzoqala ukufuna umusa wakho. Kule nkathi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungangeni esilingweni sokugijimela ekubambeni okushisayo komuntu okhethiweyo, ukhohlwa ukufutheka kokuhlukanisa. Gcina ibanga, hlala uphelele ngokwanele futhi ungatholakali, uyenze ngokwengeziwe. Lokhu kuziphatha kuzothatha okungenani ukuzethemba komuntu futhi kusamangaze kakhulu uma kuze kube yile mzuzwana ebuhlotsheni obususwe ngokuphelele kulo. Uma ubona ukuthi okhethiweyo wakho "ngokwanele" ngokwanele, ungabonisa isihe sakho.
Eqinisweni, ukufezekisa ukubuya komuntu ngemuva kokuhlukaniswa isikhathi eside akunzima kakhulu. Kunzima kakhulu ukuyigcina. Funda ukuthi ungahambisani nesigwebo esifanayo. Ungalokothi uvule umphefumulo wakho ngokuphelele, uvumele ukuthokoza ngaphansi kokunconywa okuningi nezithembiso zokuthandana okuphakade. Amazwi
· Lena yindlela nje yokufinyelela indawo, indlela yokukhokha kwinethiwekhi yakho, ukukholelwa ukuthi amagama ahamba ngendlela eqondile. Awukwazi ukubamba indoda ngaphandle kokumbamba. Bonisa amandla akho, ungesabi ukulahlekelwa yikho. Ungavumeli abantu baqonde ukuthi umhlaba wakho wonke wakhiwe nxazonke nabo nendoda ethandekayo
Isikhungo sendawo yonke. Ngokushesha nje lapho beqonda ukuthi owesifazane ulungile nganoma yini ngenxa yothando, ukuthi angeke aphile ngaphandle komthandekayo wakhe, khona-ke umphumela ohlukile uvela, nokuthi usuvele udlulile. Ngakho-ke, igama lakho lesibili kufanele libe yigama eliyimfihlo. Sombulula owesifazane kuze kube sekugcineni
· I-reflex eyinkimbinkimbi yomuntu wonke. Futhi ngenkathi engayixazululanga, uyokuthakazelisa wena nakho konke okuhlobene nawe. Futhi lokhu kuyisisusa esihle kakhulu sokuthuthukiswa okuhle kobudlelwane nokugcinwa kwesifiso kuzo.
Kuwesifazane kumele kube njalo imfihlakalo. Ngesikhathi ekhona, lo muntu uzozama ukuxazululwa, lo wesifazane uzohlale ethakazelisayo kuye. Futhi lezo zenzo, ezingayenza ukuxazulula le puzzle, namanje zinamandla kakhulu, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu uzomangala ukumangala.