Umlando wenhlobo
Yebo, igama elithi "ukudlala ngothando" kwasekuqaleni lisho kahle ikhono lokunikeza izimbali. Kwavela phakathi kwama-courtesans eFrance phakathi nekhulu le-17 ne-18. Nakuba umlando wokudlala ngothando uqobo uhamba kakhulu emakhulwini eminyaka, ngokwemvelo, kumuntu odume kakhulu odumile wezwe lasendulo, uCleopatra. Kwakuyindlovukazi yokugcina yaseGibithe evela emndenini wasePtolemaic owazisa impepho, amafutha, namafutha ngamapheromones, ayevame ukuheha abesilisa obuhlukile. Ngomqondo wanamuhla, igama elithi "ukudlala ngothando" lwenziwa ngumlobi weNgisi u-Chesterfield. Wachaza enye yezindlela ezinhle zikaDan Francis Francis, lapho asebenzise khona ngobuciko indlela yokudlala ngothando ngosizo lomfana: wayivulela, wayivala, wabe esefihla ubuso bonke, bese kuphela amehlo akhe. Wenza ngokucacile ukuthi indoda eyayikhuluma naye ngokuhleka yabe isho amazwi okuhleka ukuziphatha, yathi uvele nje eyaziqhenya, futhi nalokhu, kubizwa ngokuthi udlala ngothando. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, lolu hlobo lwe-coquetry luye lwaba yi-classic.
Ubuqili bokudlala ngothando
Futhi izingubo ezengeziwe, izicathulo, izinwele zezinwele, izesekeli, amafutha - konke kwaba yizimfanelo ezingenakulinganiswa zobuciko bokulingwa nokugqoka.
Kuye ngokuthi ubani osebenzisa ukudlala ngothando, indoda noma owesifazane, uhlukaniswe ngokulinganayo ngokulingwa noma ngokulingana.
I-Technique yesilingo
Amadoda eningi asasebenzisa ubuciko besilingo, amadoda angempela abathandi umdlalo ngenxa yomdlalo ngokwawo, ngokungafani nabesifazane. Umsindo odumile kaDon Juan noCasanova wayenethonya elimangalisayo, elimangalisayo kumaginethi. Yisiphi isizathu? Konke mayelana nezindlela.
1) Ukufunda, ukutadisha kubheka isikhali esiyinhloko somuntu ngokudlala ngothando, kufanele aphikelele futhi abe nesibindi, ethakazelisayo. Ngokubukeka okunjengokuthi umuntu ubonisa isithakazelo futhi ubeke eceleni kokukhethiweyo wakhe.
2) Ukubekezela okunamandla, amahlombe aqondisiwe, avuke-ngakho indoda ibonisa amandla, ukuzethemba nokubaluleka kwayo. Owesifazane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyayifuna noma cha, uzobe esabelana ngezikhulu zabanye ngaso sonke isikhathi.
3) Smile - isibhamu inombolo 1 ku-arsenal of isilingo kokubili abesifazane nabesilisa. Ukumomotheka komuntu nje akuklolodisi, kodwa, kunalokho, ukuvuma, kubonisa ukuthi kuhle ukukubuka.
4) Ukunyakaza okungahambisani nomuntu kuyisici kakhulu samadoda ngesikhathi sokudlala ngothando. Benza ngokungahlosile, konke okwenzekayo ngokwayo: ukuthinta kalula esihlathini sakho, njengokungathi uhlola ubukhona bezinkathazo ezihamba phambili, uzibophe ngokuzenzekelayo esihlakalweni noma ulungise u-tie - uma lo muntu enza konke, qiniseka ukuthi uyamthanda kakhulu - futhi lokhu akusikho enye, njengokudlala ngothando.
5) Usizo - unikeze ijazi lakho noma ingubo noma isambulela, uvule umnyango - akuyona imithetho nje yokunambitheka noma isibonakaliso sokuthi umuntu uyayikhathalela impilo yakho - lokhu kuyindlela yokudlala ngothando ebeka izakhi zobulili obuqinile. Ama-echoes akhethekile we-troubadours ahlabelela ama-serenades ngenxa yabathandekayo bawo ngaphansi kwamafasitela noma athumela izimbali ngamanothi emfihlo. Ngendlela, umculi odumile waseCasanova wasebenzisa lezi zakhi ezifanayo zokudlala ngothando, ngaphandle kokusungula noma yikuphi ukuzamazama okumboziwe. Isikhali sakhe esiyinhloko kwakuwukuzethemba nokuthanda ngobuqotho besifazane.
Izindlela zokudlala ngothando
Ukudlala ngomlingani wesifazane kunzima kakhudlwana, kunamakhono amaningi, okunamandla. Abesifazane bethandana ngokungaqondile futhi ngokuqondile, ngenxa yokugqoka, ukuze bafeze imigomo yabo siqu. Bangabameleli bobulili obuhle abangabanikazi bokudlala ngothando, owokuqala ukukhipha indoda, bamdonsa emdlalweni wakhe.
1) Umbono wesifazane akuwona wonke umuntu ovulekile futhi osondelene naye, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho - okuyinto enzima, engazinzile. Ama-Classical of the genre - ukubukeka okusheshayo, okuhlekisayo, ukushayela kwe-eyelashes nokubukeka phansi, okuphindaphindiwe, ukulawulwa kwe-eyelashes ngomzuzu. Le mbono ngeke ishiye noma yimuphi umuntu.
2) Smile - hhayi izindebe, ngoba ukukhanya okuthakazelisayo, okuyizinto ezithakazelisayo emehlweni nakho kuyinto yokumomotheka, futhi uzomnika isithakazelo sakho kubo.
3) Ulimi lwezandla - kulula ukuyiphonsa izinwele, njengokungathi zibopha kancane entanyeni, zilulaza kalula isicathulo, zifaka umlenze owodwa komunye umlenze - umuntu, noma ngabe ufuna noma cha, uzoba yingxenye yokuzibandakanya emdlalweni wakho.
4) Izwi-elithulile, elithambile. Amadoda ngokushesha akwahlukanisa namanye amakhulu, futhi ukuhleka kusakazeka, ujabule, zonke lezi zinto zithinta kakhulu. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uthini: izihloko ezinzima, imisho emangalisa - nokudlala ngothando kuzothola isici esithakazelisayo.
5) Thinta yisikhali sokugcina nesinamandla kakhulu ku-arsenal yakho, esinqumayo injongo yezenzo zakho. Ngokudlala ngothando, izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukunciphisa ukuthinta, kungenjalo umdlalo ungahamba ngaphezu kwemigomo yakho. Khumbula: "indawo yezenhlalakahle" - 1.2 m, "umuntu" - 70 cm futhi "obuseduze" - 45 cm. Khetha inhloso bese uwela imingcele evunyelwe ngokusho kwabo. Ukudlala ngothando kuyisidlo esingunaphakade sabesifazane ababili, imfihlakalo yabo kanye nesithakazelo. Yisebenzise kahle, yenza impilo icebile futhi ijabulise. Yini eyosisiza ukuba ibe enhle, enempilo, emnandi futhi ngaphandle kwemibango nsuku zonke? Imfihlo ikubonakaliso nsuku zonke yothando! Izinyembezi ezintathu zamasonto amabili ekuseni zingakha isimo sengqondo esihle sosuku - isiphetho esenziwe ngabacwaningqondo kwengqondo eNyuvesi yaseBerlin, eholwa nguLars Hagen. Ubude bokubheka okuhle kubhekwa njengemaminithi amathathu, ososayensi bathi, ngubani oqhubekile ukubuka amaphuzu ayikhulu ehlukene ahlukene. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bonke labo abaxoxwa nabo ngemuva kwalesi simiso esihle babheka izimpilo zabo kuphela ngendlela enhle. Ubusuku obunzima bungavimbela ukuhlaselwa kwe-vegetative dystonia ngenxa yokujwayelekile kwesizinda semvelo se-hormonal.