Uma ubambe iso ngenhloko yalesi sihloko futhi uvalele ukunakwa kwakho, kusho ukuthi uthando lomyeni wakho lusetshenziswe ngokushelelayo noma luphethwe ngokuzethemba nangokucindezelwa. Lokhu kuzwa okunamandla kugcwalisa zonke izingoli zokuqaphela futhi kudala ukusola, izinkimbinkimbi nokungaqiniseki. Uyeke ukuthanda? Noma ingabe kwakucatshangelwa ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yikho? Yiziphi izimpawu ekuziphatheni komyeni wakhe ezisho ngokungazithandi kwakhe?
- Indoda isuka kude. Useduze, kodwa kubonakala sengathi uhambile. Abashadile abengeziwe banamathele emicabangweni yabo, balalele ngaphandle kokuphendula, abaphenduli futhi abakhulumi ngezinkinga zabo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, abangabelana nawe kuphela. Indoda ayinasithakazelo ezinkingeni zansuku zonke futhi kulula ukuba wenze umsebenzi ngokwakho kunokuba ucele futhi wamukele ukwenqaba noma ukuthanda. Ukukhulumisana kwakho kwanciphisa ukuxabana, futhi umyeni waqala ukugwema izingxoxo kanye nezinkathazo ezihlangene. Ulokhu uzibamba ucabanga ukuthi impilo yakho ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa ifana nomakhelwane ongenakukhathazeka onomuntu ohluke ngokuphelele.
- Umyeni uhlale enesimo esibi. Uyakhathazeka nganoma yikuphi okuncane okukhulunywe noma okwenziwe nguwe, futhi imizwelo ayisekho amahloni okuveza ngokumemeza, ukuhlambalaza nokuzenzela. Futhi umyeni akakhethi amagama. Akasekeli imizwa yakho, ngoba ukholelwa ukuthi awufanelanga ukuhlonishwa. Uqale ukukhala njalo, okwenza umthukuthelele nakakhulu. Usuku olungenakho ukuhlambalaza, wamukela ngenkani futhi uzama ukujabulisa umyeni wakho ngazo zonke izindlela, kepha uma uzama ngokwengeziwe, lapho ethola khona izizathu zokunganeliseki nawe. Ukuzibopha okungenangqondo, okuphindaphindiwe ngokujwayelekile okuvamile, kukukhathaza, kungabonakali, futhi wena ngokwakho uqala ukuzwa ukuthi umyeni ulungile.
- Umyeni uyeka ukunakekelwa. Ukuntuleka nokunakwa kubonisa ukunganakwa. Indoda ayisenaso isithakazelo ezinkingeni zakho, ayibizi ukuxwayisa ukuthi uzokwephuza, ungalungiseleli ikhofi yendabuko ekuseni, ngaphandle kokuthi ungashiyi ekhaya. Akakhathazeki ukuthi i-rheumatism iye yaqhubeka, ayikho amabhuthusi ebusika, futhi ukhohlwa mayelana nosuku lwakho lokuzalwa. Uhlale enesiqiniseko esinamandla nezimpikiswano eziqinile. Amahloni akho afanayo athi umlingani ulahlekelwa ezindlebeni. Unomuzwa wokuthi uyakunaki, ngoba akafuni ukuvuma okungalungile. Futhi akaphuthumeli ukuxolisa. Akakhathaleli ukuthi uzizwa kanjani. Akazwa lutho kuwe.
- Indoda ifuna inkululeko. Uhlale ehlala emsebenzini, ngokuvamile uqala ukuhamba ngezinkampani bese uya emsebenzini ngempelasonto. Uma ungakwazi ukufihla ngemuva komsebenzi, unezinye izizathu zokungabi khona ekhaya: usize umngane, umama, izinja ezingenamakhaya noma izingane ezilambile e-Afrika. Indoda ayisenasithakazelo emibuthanweni yomndeni wakho nezihlobo, ukuvakashela abangane, ukuthatha iholide elihlangene noma ukuhamba. Khona-ke lowo oshade naye uchaza umsebenzi wakhe ngomsebenzi, ukugula noma isimo sengqondo esibi, ukuba abe nesibindi ngokwengeziwe ngezizathu zakhe. Kodwa uma ulawula ukuyithola, khona-ke uqala ukuzisola ngokujulile. Indoda yenza konke okusemandleni ukuze ungabi nesifiso sokuchitha isikhathi naye.
- Umyeni ugweme ukulala nobuhlungu. Uthukutheliswa yizibonakaliso zothando, kodwa nakuba engazange alele ngaphandle kokubamba ubusuku obuphambili, akazange asebenze ngaphandle kokumbumbuluza futhi akakwazanga ukwenza ngaphandle kwemibonakaliso yothando oluthinta inhliziyo. Manje-ke ngisho nobulili buye kwahlulwa waba yindlalifa, bese-ke uyayikhipha ngesinyathelo sakho sokuphikelela, noma ingabe "ingumkhawulo", ukuze inganakwa ngenxa yokwenqaba ucansi. Owesifazane uhlale ezwa lo mdahluko phakathi kokwenza uthando nokulala ocansini, ngisho noma kuphelele kahle. Uma ubulili buthakathaka empilweni yabashadile abasha nabaphilile, kubonisa ukuthi uthando luhambe kakhulu kakhulu.
- Umyeni wami wayenemfihlo. Akahlanganyeli nefoni yakhe, usethe amaphasiwedi kumanethiwekhi omphakathi, alahle amakholi noma ahambe akhulume nenye ikamelo. Imibuzo yakho mayelana nokuphendula okunjalo kobuqili noma ngokuphazamiseka. Futhi mhlawumbe ukufihla kwayo kubonakala hhayi ngokucacile, kodwa namanje awukwazi ukusiza ukucabanga ukuthi unemfihlo evela kuwe engakaze ibe khona ngaphambili. Yiqiniso, okokuqala ungase uhlehliswe yizinkolelo ukuthi umlingani ulungiselela ukumangala noma akafuni ukuphazamiseka izindaba ezimbi, kodwa uma imfihlakalo yakhe iyanda, futhi ukhathazekile yizinye izimpawu ezikhomba ukuthi akayithandi, sekuyisikhathi sokumisa umyeni wakho bese ubeka yonke into ngaphezulu «I».
- Umyeni ubeka icala ngenxa yokuhluleka kwakhe futhi uguqulele umthwalo wemfanelo. Ukuxazulula izinkinga zomndeni ngendlela engaqondakali ngokuphelele kuthunyelwe emahlombe akho. Wena ugijima eduze nomntwana ogulayo odokotela, uxoxisane neplumberhi ukuhlanza umkhumbi wokuhambisa amanzi, usize uninazala ngokulungisa, nomyeni wakho - ngombiko. Umlingani usuyeke ukukhathazeka ngokukhathazeka komndeni, futhi uma kukhona okuphazamisayo, khona-ke lo umbuzo, kungani ungazange uphinde uphinde uthumele konke ngenxa yombiko wakhe? Ukuzama ukumbuyisela imithwalo yemfanelo yakhe yesilisa kanye nombiko kubangela ukuthukuthela nokumangalelwa kokungenangqondo, ukungabi nandaba nokungazinaki izinkinga zakhe. Usebenza ngokukhululekile, futhi uma kungenzeka, ngeke azisole ngenxa yokungasebenzi, kodwa ngenxa yokuthi ungakhulumi nomsebenzi wakhe.
- Indoda ayinaki izibopho zezezimali. Kusukela esikhathini esidlule, ukuxhaswa komndeni kwaba kumyeni noma kwasakazwa ngokulinganayo. Manje lo mthwalo wemfanelo ube ngowakho ngokwakho. Umyeni wayeka ukukhathazeka ngokuqashisa, izindleko zesikole zomntwana, imali yokudla nezinye izinto zokuthenga ekhaya. Uyazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi uthola kahle, akanalo izinkinga zezezimali, njengoba kungekho nesifiso sokusekela umndeni ngemali. Akafuni ukulalela izikhalazo zakho kanye nemibuzo mayelana nokuthi uhola kuphi. Ngandlela-thile ngokuzumayo waba ibhizinisi lakhe siqu. Yiqiniso, lapha futhi akufanele ukhiphe ukuthenga okungathí sina kuwe njengesipho. Kodwa uma umbuzo wemali uxoxwa ngesimo esibi futhi unganikezwa ukuphumula kanye nezinye izibonakaliso zokungazithandi, cishe, lokhu kungesizathu esithile sokuba enganandaba nawe.