Uyeke ukujabulela uchungechunge lwakho oluthandayo lwe-TV, into entsha noma imfashini okumnandi endaweni yokudlela ebiza kakhulu? Ingabe usabela kuwo wonke amahlaya wabangani ngokumomotheka okucindezelekile? Impelasonto ezayo ayibangeli injabulo? Konke kunjengokuthi ubanjwe "igciwane" le-asebonia: leli yigama elisencwadini ye-psychology efuna ukunciphisa ikhono lokujabulela ukuphila.
Ngendlela, lokhu akusiwazanga ukucindezeleka okudumile, lapho konke kugcwele ngokuphelele amathoni amnyama, nokuduma kwamafu kubonakala phezulu. Kulolu cala, kwakungeyona ibhande elimnyama, kodwa elimnyama. Yiwu wena ngalokhu kunezizathu!
Isizathu esisodwa: eto!
Amaphupho akho ahlala njalo ekutholeni okuhle, njengombuso, aholela ekudumazekeni okuphelele. Futhi uyazishaya "ukushaya njengenhlanzi eqhweni" uzama ukushintsha into ukuze wenze okungenani into ede kakhulu nomfanekiso okhanga.
Ukuxilongwa : "ummbila" injabulo.
Izimpawu : "Ngisho encane, namanje kancane!"
Isizathu esiyinhloko, okuthiwa, unenjabulo wena ngokwakho: abaphelelisi abajabulela ukuphila abakho. Uma uzama ukupholisa injabulo yakho ukukhanya, lapho umphefumulo wakho uthola khona ukunganeliseki nokukhathala. Ngenxa yalokho, zonke izikhungo zokuzijabulisa zivaliwe, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, hhayi kuphela ukwakha okuhle, kodwa futhi nomusa wokuphila.
Ukwelashwa : Thola ipharadesi elahlekile (lapho konke nakho konke kwakuphelele), abantu abaningi bazama ukwelula isikhathi esingaphezu kweyishumi. Kodwa konke akuphumelelanga. Musa ukuchitha amandla akho kuwo! Ake sikutshele imfihlo, sisondelene nomlingani ofanelekayo (ngokuzumayo unenhlanhla ngokwanele ukuba uqaphele leli phupho), uzobe usukhuni kakhulu!
Isizathu sesibili: wonke ama-masts !
Uhlale ucabanga ukuthi ngokuba umuntu ophumelelayo, ugcwalise wonke amaphupho akho ebuntwaneni. Futhi manje usugcwalisile futhi manje yini? Ungaphila nokuthi uthola kuphi incazelo entsha yokuba kwakho?
Ukuxilongwa : "i-tetanus" emkhakheni wempumelelo.
Izimpawu : "Kanjani, lokhu konke?"
Wonke amaphupho abantwana kufanele asetshenziswe masinyane ngokwanele: afinyelela kakhulu futhi akhonkolo. Kodwa uma kwenzeka "i-jeep enkulu emnyama" igubha phambi kwendlu (okukhethwa kukho: UBarbie noKeni banendlu epholile), yini enye ongayiphupha ngayo? Uma umuntu ehlala engqondweni yakhe, usuke kunzima kakhulu ukwamukela izifiso ezintsha. Lapha wena nemiphumela yalesi simo - isithukuthezi, ukungeneliseki, ukunganeliseki ngokuphila.
Ukwelapha . Enye yezindlela zokwelapha ezivame ukubizwa ngokuthi yi-therapy. Ngokwesibonelo, eNtshonalanga, lo muntu ogulayo ufakwa etilongweni ngesonto futhi, ebheka esibhakabhakeni ngokusebenzisa i-grating, uqala ngokungafani ngokuphelele konke okukuzungezile.
Uma zonke izinjabulo zakho zivivinywa, uletha injabulo komunye umuntu. Futhi ngokuqinisekile uyozizwa uzihaha.
Isizathu sesithathu: "amazwi amabi" ...
Konke kufezeke kuwe, okwakungaphupha ngalo, kodwa ukukhathazeka kukushiya ngokulingana okulinganayo futhi ngenxa yalokhu akukho usuku olulodwa olujabulisayo empilweni yakho.
Ukuxilongwa : "Fever" ngenxa yokulahleka okungenzeka.
Izimpawu : "Sinobuthakathaka, imoto iyabiwe, inja ibuthiwe, indlu iphangwa ..."
Isisekelo sezinkathazo ezinjalo, ngokusho kwengqondo, ukuthi sihlala ezweni elinokungaqiniseki okwandayo, okuyinto, njengomthetho, eyenza ukucindezeleka okukhulu kwengqondo. Ngendlela, lowo onokuthile okumele alahlekelwe, okwesaba kakhulu. Futhi uma uhlale uhlale ulindele ukuthi kusasa kube "ukuphela kwezwe", uthola kuphi, le njabulo nenjabulo ekuchumeni kwamanje?
Ukwelapha . Yiqiniso, ukuthula emhlabeni wonke, asikwazi ukuphendula, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bayayifuna kangakanani. Kusengakwazi ukusekela i-oasis yethu yokuzinza kithi, ngoba kungenzeka njalo ukuqinisekisa indlu, imoto, ukubeka imali ebhange elithembekile, njll Zama ukwenza lokhu, futhi ngokusobala uzokunciphisa "ukuhlupheka" kwakho!
Isizathu sesine: amanga!
Umsebenzi wakho ufana nefilimu ekhangayo yemoto lapho udlala indima ebalulekile. Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho uqala ukuhalalisela ngempumelelo, ngokushesha uphonsa ubuhlungu: "Yini eyokujabula? Abanye eminyakeni yami sebevele bengumqondisi! Yilapho engikhulisa khona, khona-ke ngizojabula ... "
Ukuxilongwa : "ukubambezeleka" injabulo.
Izimpawu : "Hhayi, umuntu angayithokozisa kanjani impilo lapho izitsha zingagcini (umbiko awukhululwa, awulungele, inkambo, njll)? Lapha-ke ... "
"Khona-ke bonke" bangamazwi anika ithemba bese esuswa ekona elikude kanye nenjabulo kusukela manje. Ngendlela, kungenzeka ukuthi "ukujuluka" okunjalo sekuvele kungakusizi.
Ukwelapha . Lo mqondo wokukhohliswa phakathi kwabantu abanomthwalo wemfanelo ungadonsela iminyaka eminingi. Ngendlela, ingane ayilokothi iphuphe ukukhipha injabulo yakhe "ekhoneni elikude" kuze kube yilapho ephoqa zonke izinto ezingamathoyizi endaweni futhi ethola abahlanu abafunayo emathematika, futhi kanye nodumo oluvela kubazali bayo.
"Manje nangu!" - lesi siqubulo siye saba yisisekelo sezingane ezijabulisayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uphathe impilo yonke ithuba lokujabulela imininingwana yemininingwane encane yokuphila: ukujabula ngosuku lokushisa, ukuhlangana nabangani, ngempelasonto kanye nakho konke okungaletha ukuthula kuwe. Futhi ukulinda "olwandle lwezulu" ngokuqinisekile ngeke kukulethela injabulo enkulu.
Isizathu sesihlanu: ubuhlungu
Ujwayele ukububula ngokuthi "awufanele ube ngaphezu kwakho". Ngeke ube nemoto efana no-Olga, uchungechunge lwezitolo ezifana noSvetlana ... Ngamanye amazwi, kuphela abantu obaziyo banelungelo lokujabulela ukuphila, kodwa awuyena umuntu ofanele!
Ukuxilongwa : "ukwehluleka" okujabulisayo.
Izimpawu : "Kunenhlanhla kwabanye ukuthi baphile kanje ..."
Njengoba kungase kubonakale kunesibindi, ikusasa elibaluleke kakhulu kulo lonke ukuhaha kwe-jivas kubhekwa njengento ebuhlungu njalo embukisweni wenjabulo yomuntu ngokuqhathaniswa nenjabulo yabanye abantu. Njengomthetho, abahahayo bahlale behlushwa yi-bulimia yokuphila, futhi abantu abanomona bahlale bephupha ngokuphila kangcono kunomunye umuntu.
Ukwelapha . Kuyaziwa kakhulu ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukuba nenjabulo kunomunye umuntu. Ngakho, emva kwakho konke, awudingi ukwenza lokhu, futhi kufanele uphile impilo yakho ngaphandle kokubheka impumelelo yabanye?
Futhi ekugcineni, ngifuna ukungeza, ubujamo obunjalo abukho okuhle, ngaphandle kokuthi ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo yokuhlanza akupheli. Ngakho-ke, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi lezi zikebhe ze-swamis azikwenzeki, ukhuthazwa kakhulu ukuba uhambe ngokudla "okujabulisayo": ukunciphisa inani lezinjabulo zenjabulo, nayo yonke imicimbi efaka injabulo nenjabulo "ukuhlafuna" ngokucophelela nangesikhathi eside! Akuyona into engafanele ukukhumbula futhi elinye lamazwi ahlakaniphile kaBernard Shaw, othi labo abanethemba baphupha amaphupho, kodwa izidakamizwa zinezinkathazo kuphela!